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So me and my friend were getting revenge on these 2 girls. Yes I know it's bad, and I learned my lesson. But they found out and said that tomorrow I would be sorry. I don't know if I want to tell the teachers either, because then they will talk to her about it. Then she'll know and try to hurt me even more because i'm a "snitch". She's a really violent girl and I'm not a fight type of person. Please help. Yes I know it was bad of me to get revenge and everything but i'm really scared. Please please help me, I don't want to go to school tomorrow. Also, we're both about to go to high school.
I have to go to school eventually, and I only have to go like 20 more times before Summer then I probably will never see her again. But I'm scared. The only time she would be able to hurt me would be after school, but there's teachers near me. I still feel like she would try to do something. Should I stay near the teachers at all times? Please help as soon as possible. Sorry if this is long I just really need advice here.
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So sorry I couldn't answer sooner. Have been busy with all sorts of things. I would say to stay near a teacher as much as you can without being really obvious something is wrong. Ideally you should tell the teacher but I do understand you being a snitch and fearing that she'll hurt you more. It should blow over in a few days. She'll probably forget what she was even going to make you sorry about. Best of luck, stay safe!
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This is a tricky one but you have several alternative options- some better than others. I will give you most of the options that will help you deal with it in some way:
Firstly, Go to school. Hold your head up high and be prepared.
if you're not going to snitch on her If you're really against talking to someone about it, ...this'll be some unconventional advice but ...
try as best you can to hold your chin up and act like you don't give a shit.
(Trust, do it right and you'll look pretty cool)
Hang around in public places, go home with people. So if you really think she's going to get you and attack physically, at least let it be in a place where there's LOADs of people and teachers nearby to see and get her into trouble quickly without being a snitch. Don't hit back, cus then you are no better. (On the other hand, just break her nose and she wont even look in your direction again. Oops, we're probably not supposed to give that kind of advice though!!)
Try your best to be unaffected by whatever she does- because that will make you strong, and really piss her off. If something she says or does to hurt you doesn't work, then she just looks like a stupid bitch, right?
(Soz, I am angry on your behalf now, because I was once in a similar situation to this.)
2ndly; BETTER COMEBACKS....!
Internet search them. Don't go for nerdy ones, don't go for the "ugh gaaaay" overused, derogatory types. Go for funny, witty ones. If there is a bitchy-word fight (which may be more likely in this day and age) You'll come out on top! If comebacks are clever, people will root for you in an argument. If they are no better than hers, then you're just as bad as each other.
Alternatively, use a physiological trick. When customers ring up helplines angrily complaining, the call centre's are trained to act very calm, agreeable and helpful. It is impossible to fight someone who refuses to hit back, or make you angry enough.
So avoid her but if she approaches you (not to attack but to talk or complain) just be pleasant at first, not a suckup, but just polite.
However, if things get too bad it is probably best to tell someone who can help you!!! I know you have your pride, but the best thing, beyond all of these, is probably to tell a teacher what you just said- someone who can speak to her and try and get her to cool off and/or dare not try anything.
Teachers, above all else, are supposed to care for their pupils and protect them from any kind of bullying.
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You mentioned getting revenge which means that the girl you speak of started the whole affair that had you wanting to seek revenge in the first place, even though as you realize, revenge is wrong. I remember at your age being scared too. And its people like her that take advantage of it. Is there an easy solution? Not really. Going to apologize to her just to stop her possibly springing a surprise attack on you may or may not help, you can't hang out near a teacher at all times, there's always a slight chance she could find a sliver of opportunity to get near you, and telling teachers of her insinuating that you have reason to fear attack from her , may upset the girls more to definitely may some sort of attack against you. It could be words only they use and won't come through with any thing else, just the satisfaction of filling you with dread, anxiety of always wondering when something may happen, and just filling you with fear may be enough fun for them. If you don't want to talk to teachers, then you might see if any adult you know can give you a ride home, and you may have to explain why, that someone is bullying you and you want to escape any confrontations after school and just get to the end of the year. This may not stop things tho. You could make it safely to end of the year. But if you will see her again in the fall, she could easily decide to start picking on you again. You're probably not the only one.
The only way to really handle people who try to control others by fear is to band together to protect each other against her verbal and physical attacks. She is the minority and may have a couple friends who the help her so maybe 5 mean people, but easily 100 kids could pledge to stand up together for each other the moment she harrasses anyone, verbally or physically. So many kids have iphones today and its so easy to get video of at least a handful of students capturing her harrassing someone, and in another event, 8 kids capture video proof of her being mean to someone else, then all of you submit the 25 or so videos all capturing her being mean and "snitch on her together. She can go after one snitch but 25 or more? She's outnumbered and knows that everyone will stand up for those attacked and work at getting her expelled from school for good. So try what you must to get to end of this year but if I were you, I'd start asking to talk to other kids from school in person, not on social networks where she can see what you're doing. And see if you can find others who've been bothered by her and how many are willing to capture her on video being mean to others. I was in school at a time personal computers didn't exist nor cell phones and iphones either. I didnt have the ability to fight back that you have. Proof is the best defense over her treatment of other students. If any are too chicken, dont choose them to be part of the iphone police who shoot evidence of her and also gather in a group, girls and boys to stand near the person who is the focus of her attack and tell her to stop. That all of you are not going to stand for her bullying and violence any more. there's strength in numbers) You kids tell her that they don't want her being in the school if she trys to keep up her bad behavior. Tell her all of you will capture her on video and submit tons of video evidence to the principal to get her expelled. So either she become nice or you all will work together to get rid of her. Once she has that ultimatum, she just may back down because she knows she can't defeat 5 or 8 kids at once. If eight kids went after her to force her to the ground as she tries to hit someone, and you all sit on her while another goes to fetch an adult and presents video of her attack to authorities, you won;t have to worry about her again. She may test you all to see if you mean what you say, if all kids can be bold enough to band together against her without any real violence towards her, then she won't try any more. She won't get any satisfaction of terrorizing single students here and there, not if others won't tolerate it. I can honestly tell you if a band of kids asked me to stand up together with them against such a bully, no matter how scared I Was to do it alone, I would be confident enough to do it with others surrounding me. Hope it works out safely for you rest of the year and that next year, you can organize a group of students who are friend of students who have been threatened or picked on to stand up against her the right way. Good luck
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