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Q: There is this guy I like, and its like taking over my life.. all the sudden thats all i think about, its crazy! I can't conentrate anymore, even when I'm with my friends.. i dont pay any attention to them. I haven't told anybody that I like him. But how can I stop thinking at him ALL the time? -- Love *Melissa*

Well Melissa there is really know way to stop thinking about this guy! Just try your hardest to slow your mind down alittle! I was like that with my boyfriend 3 weeks ago when i started going out with him and then it just slowed down and now i only think about him alittle bit.... but you like this boy alot and your mind is telling you to tell him that you have feelings for him or you will keep thinking about it OVER AND OVER again! I hope i helped

-Katie-

Q: hey whats up just answer this and i'll rate ya a 10 or no 5 yeaaaa.... 5. I think you should go on a kiling spree and kill everyone except me and someother people so what do you think about that?

I think that is a GREAT idea!! CHRISTY STEFL! omg i hate her with so much passion!! LOL okay thanks buh bye!

-Katie-

And my advice to you is next time christy does that to me in the hall again and you see it just don't stand there DO SOMETHING!!!

Q: first of all everyone was happy that i hit you and everyone congradulated me on that because not as many people like you as you think and i really doubt anyone wants to beat me up because i hit you they should have their wn reasons

Well bitch you know what i really don't care what you say because you know what know one likes you as much as you think. We are not friends anymore and we will never be! THe only reason why people were happy that you hit me is because they don't want you to hit them! So i think you should shut your damn mouth and get on with your life! I have. And if you say a word to anyone about me (even Candice!) i can report you for harassing me! So if i were you i would shut your mouth and never talk to me again. GOOD BYE!

Q: i didn't only hear this from christy but Jessie told me herself on the phone that you told her all that stuff and that got me in deep trouble with her and now she wants to kick my ass and I really don't want to get in anymore fights. You know as well as I do that I'm not a very confrontational person but I'll do what I have to do and now everyone wants to beat my ass because of you. Why would you do that to me ?

I only told her that you liked Mike and she knew that. She told Christy and then Christy told you! Christy makes up things and the only reason why people want to kick your ass is because your a bitch and you hit me! If you didn't hit me in the first place then only a few people would hate you! That is my advice!

-Katie

Q: Alright im a guy (16)
Homecoming dance is in two weeks, but this year the girls are suposed to ask the guys.. Soooo this girl who i like a lot hadn't asked me yet, so i said yes to a good friend of mine who didnt have a date. Then the next night on the phone the girl who I really liked asked me, and i had to say no because i didnt want to ditch my friend. What can i do???

I think you did the right thing! Just explain to your girlly friend what you just told me! No harm should be done if you do this. She should understand where your coming from. Good Luck!

-Katie-

Q: i always feel lonely even though my friends and family always say im preety i mean there nothing wrong with me its just thati feel lonely.

Why do you feel lonely? Do you have a boyfriend?

-Katie

Q: if a girl that u like is mad at you what should you do

Talk to her and tell her how you feel about her and try to be as nice as possible or buy her something.

-Katie

Q: im 13 and in 8th grade and im 5'3...but i like someone thats 12 in 7th grade and is 4'7. i think he's gonna ask me out, but idk what to say cuz hes so short and younger than me....help! (i like him too but...)

Just go out with the kid it won't hurt any. I went out with a boy that was shorter then me and after words i broke up with him and a year later he was 5'8 and taller then me! So he will grow and good luck!

-Katie

Q: ok well I am Indian and my parents are like WAY over protective..and like they won't let me have a boyfriend until what? like I'm in colege or something!? I mean come on its on like old times anymore..Its like every Indian parent thinks that and it's just crazy...like I can't even have a guy come over...or like go to a guy's house just for FUN...even if they're my friends...HELP!

Just sit your mom or/and dad down and explain what you just told me to them. Make an agreement like you will do something for them if they let you have a boyfriend this year.

-Katie
....if you need anything else just ask me!

Q: Okay all my friends wear thongs and i was wondering should i start wearing them also since i am in 7th grade? Do you wear them and what do they feel like?

Yes i do wear thongs and they are okay but i am in 9th grade that is why but you should wear them if you want to not because all your friends are... It is your choice not theirs or mine.

-Katie

Q: Okay well its Kati again... i told you about that kid tyler he was just like u n sean or whatever... and well i got his screen name and i just signed online and he was on... he was on a cell tho the convo went like this...

xI3r0k3nxH3artx: hi
xI3r0k3nxH3artx: tyler?
xI3r0k3nxH3artx: this is kati
xI3r0k3nxH3artx: you might not remember me
xI3r0k3nxH3artx: 3rd grade...
AtticusMacbeth10: Hi i remember wuts up
xI3r0k3nxH3artx: nothing
xI3r0k3nxH3artx: this is tyler lyons right?
AtticusMacbeth10: Yea hold on
xI3r0k3nxH3artx: ok
AtticusMacbeth10 signed off at 8:45:34 PM.

and now i want him back even more I NEED HIM! IM GONNA LIKE CRY ALL NIGHT NOW!! I NEED HELP!

It is probably not you why he signed off his mom or dad or someone probably came into the room and he was probably grounded from the computer and didn't want anyone to know he was on so he signed off. Just calm down and when he comes back online just talk to him. Don't think it was your fault he signed off. Oh and just remember if he doesn't like you still and is mean to you everything happens for a reason and you and him were probably not ment to be if he is an ass to you.

-Katie
....If you need ANYTHING ELSE just email me at katelynmmardis@yahoo.com or drop a letter in my mail box!

And remember he probably doesn't deserve you kati your better then that to keep going back to the past. But do what ever makes you happy and i hope things go as the way you plan and i am here for you whenever you need me or my advice!

Q: how can i get the guts up to ask my mom for tampons?

Hun just ask her, there is nothing to be embarassed about she has been there before and she will probably be honored that you asked her and not someone else!

-Katie
....If you need anything else then just drop a letter in my mail box.

Q: i totally agree with what you were saying but its like i cant even do
that because not talking to him and not seeing him and not dating him is
what holds me back from being me... and in a way im not free i cant be
free hes still got me in his grip by me not seeing him and hes breaking
my heart 1 million times more when i dont see him and dont date him...
and once i do call him and get in touch with him im never gonna be able
to let go of that im never gonna be able to hang up... like im forever
held by him... even if i saw him everyday i would love him.... i would
be devastated idk whats worse not seeing him or if i saw him with someone else idk what to do anymore.... :(
Kati

Well Kati sweetie just try to call him and i was in your space before and it broke my heart seeing my ex boyfriend with another girl but what your going to have to do is talk to him and i bet you he is hurting as much as you are right now even if he doesn't say it but he is!

-Katie

Q: I cant get my mind off this boy well i might as well tell the story first so...
Well when I was in 3rd grade I met a boy named Tyler Lyons… he was a scrawny blonde showoff… I found out he liked me… I didn’t really like him… word got around the school and every time I walked through the hall I would hear people whispering “There’s the girl Tyler likes” and other things… so one day I just gave in and went out with him… we grew on each other and had a good relationship… I would call him every night at like 8 o’clock and we would talk for at least an hour… we would also talk on weekends… one night we were talking on the phone and he invited me out on a date (with his mom sadly)… we went out to dinner at the pizzeria… and we were about to go into the movie when Amanda (his ex and girl he supposedly still liked) showed up… we went and saw evolution… Tyler sat in the middle of us… then we all got in the car and we had to drive home Amanda… when Amanda got out of the car we both kinda layed down… my head was on one side of the car his on the other… it was very weird… the moon roof was open as well… so I just watched the stars and the moon… then the head games started… we would be on the phone and his friend would come over so we would get off the phone and he would pretend that he forgot to hang up and he would say things like “ I don’t really like Kati I like Amanda she’s hot!” It was so upsetting… I dumped him quite a bit but I would always take him back because I loved him… one day I found out that it would be my last school year in Resica and that I would have to go to Middle Smithfeild for 4th and 5th grade… I was devastated… I did not want to leave my friends and I definetly didn’t wanna leave Tyler… but I lived out the rest of the school year like normal… One day Tyler wouldn’t really talk to me… so at recess me and all of my friends (which was A LOT cause I was miss popular!) chased him all around the playground… and when we finally stopped him he was at the bottom of the fire man pole… my whole posse and I were all at the top I was in front and everyone was behind me… I asked him, “whats going on?” and he said “I don’t like you… I never did” I was CRUSHED! I turned around and ran I pushed through everyone and ran into the field crying… it was one of the worst days of my life… I don’t think I ever talked to him again… I will always remember the last day of school in the 3rd grade because it was the last time I saw Tyler… I was on my bus crying and Tylers bus was right next to mine he was sitting there playing gameboy laughing with his friends… < and i have been thinkin about him so much i love him! and i think hes the reason i have been acting so weid lately i havnt been myself at all... like im usually outgoing and the life of the party but not lately idk what to do!! HELP!

Okay Kati at first when i read your letter it freaked me out (in a good way) i have been dealing with my own problem a bit the same as yours. I will tell you mine and how i fixed it. I was in 8th grade and i found out that this fat blonde boy liked me and i really didn't like him, he asked me out like 5 times and i said no and then i went out with him because i felt bad for him. I then started to fall in love with him (his name is Sean (shawn) ) well sean and i were on this on and off realationship for 6 months like he would break up with me or i would break up with him and then i would take him back because i loved him with ALL of my heart! well a few weeks ago me and sean were at his house (just talking and a few kisses) and i thought everything was fine. Then the next day i called his house and a girl answered (not his mom) it was his old crush Corey. She was at his house and they came down to mind. the whole time they were here he was acting weird. Well I found out that he still loved her and i couldn't beleive it well I broke up with him and ever since that i could only think about him! I love him still. See our problems are kinda the same and the way i got over him sorta was i thought about the good things with out him, like i don't have a boy holding me back from who i am and what i wanna do and the same goes for you Kati, just think your free now and he has no way of breaking your heart once again and a girl heart shouldn't be broke that many times probably like yours and mind. Your seriously better off with out him and he isn't worth your time if he does that to you. You will be okay and i know that you will live and you don't need him. Maybe if you call him and talk to him things will be okay but i am warning you if he is mean to you on the phone do not stay on hang up and go on with your life and NEVER EVER cry over a boy anymore you hear me Kati? i have cryed over Sean to many times and that is why he is so mean to me now because he knows he can make me cry and Tyler probably knows he can make you cry also Kati so you will be okay and try to move on with out Tyler. i hope i helped. anything else just email me or send through here.

-Katie

Q: okay well im 13 years old and all of my firends have made out with a boy.. I never have... its really weird... my best friend since forever and I WERE the only ones who hadnt made out with a guy untill she went out with this kid joe... so now im the only one who hasnt... and everytime im going out with someone and the subject comes up i get really nervous... idk im just really scared to show affection... like I will hug my boyfriend without a problem but when it comes to holding hands and kissing im scared... i have been kissed but never made out... i know what to do but at the same time i dont please help me!

Kati

okay well kati there is nothing to do when makeing out with your boyfriend except just kissing him. you can kiss him using the tongue or whatever you feel is right. My boyfriend and i went out for 2 years and i wasn't ready to make out with him then so i waited and he did also until i was ready to make out with him and you should just wait til you feel like your ready to do it. but if you are ready then just kiss him and do what you feel is right when your makeing out with your boyfriend like put your hands on his back or something. if you need anymore help please ask me and put a letter in my inbox and we can talk about this more.

-katie

bio

I am here to help teens like myself deal with pressure of relationships and parents and sex! Things i go through as a teenager are normal but i can't talk to my parents about them like sex with my boyfriend if i think it is right and if i am ready for it right now. That is why i am here because i know there are other girls and boys out there that have the same problem and i can help.

ABC's about ME!

Age: 15
Birthday: 01/16
Color: Red and Pink
Dream Guy: Heath Ledger
Eyes: baby blue
Fears: being alone in the dark and heights
Greatest love: Victor
Hair Color: Blonde
Intrests: sexy boys, cheerleading, and PARTIES
Joys in Life: see above
Kisses or Hugs?: X's and O's
Love Life: Taken and happy
Music: country, rap, r&b and other
Name: ::*::*:Katelyn:*::*::
Obsession: skaters, music, fire, shopping (not in that order)
Preference: Guys
Question: Why label me when you dont have a label yourself?
Role Model: Paris Hilton
School: MP
Talent: erm...I'll get back to you on that one...
Uniqueness: I love to stand out in the crowd...so i'll try anything once
Very Best Friends: Madeline, Kelsey, Cassie, Meagan, Michel, Brittany, Jasmine, Kayla, Jessica, Heidi, and Amanda
Worst Thing I've Done: ...well, there was this one time...
Xtra Sturf 'Bout Me: I'm 5'4 I love to party and when your with me you will have a REALLL great time!
Yum-Yumz in Mah Tum-Tum: I love CHOCOLATE, smoothies, and strawberries! I really LOVE Chocoalte covered strawberries
Zodiac Sign: Capircorn