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Q: I was trying out for a solo and I know all the words and i can dit every note but i cant sing in front of people it scares the hell out of me. But i just am upset I really wanted to be the lead soloist and all of my close friends say i am good and i could have made it. How can I get away from stage fright?!?! Last time I was doing a performance I past out back stage. I am mortified. None of the underwear tricks work. of course i dont know if you have stage fright your self or anything but, you seem more umderstanding of these nasty little worries.

Ok, well...I do have stage fright myself. Those underwear things never really helped me either. One thing I try to do is imagine the audience is actually not there. Like no one is around. Or I try to imagine that they are all with me on the stage and singing with me. One thing that stage fright says to me is that you don't believe in yourself. If you practice in front of your mirror and then family and then friends, you will slowly get more self esteem and then when you get in front of more people, if you know any of them, just imagine you are singing to only them, just like before. You can still be a lead soloist. Anything is possible. Just keep you self in check. Keep practicing even if you get it right. There is a saying that I heard once. "Practice until you can't get it wrong" A lot of people practice until they get it right and then they just celibrate and are finished. Then when they perform they mess up. The key is to practice until you get it right, and then remember what you did, and practice it right a bunch of times until you have it so memorized you can't mess up. I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open.

Q: I get made fun of a lot because I have red hair so people call me firecrotch AND Im not very pretty. I look like a fish. Anyway, guys on my bus are always making fun of me..and I want to know what I say to them. Swearing isnt working - they just mock me and it just gives them a reaction.

I'm made fun of a lot too, and there are two things that you can do to shut them up. 1-look at them, smile and say "yeah, you're right..." then say something to make fun of yourself. But that's not my favorate. 2-you can ignore them...who cares what they think? For all they know, you are going to be a model when you grow up...change happens...no one knows. 3-smile at them and say "yep I am" and then look away and continue with something else like reading or whatever.yeah...these may not seem like the best. But when you react like this it surprises the crap out of the people making fun of you... Have you ever heard of a girl that walks into a bathroom and girls look at her weird becuase she has a bunch of zits, and befor anyone can make fun of her she smiles and says, "geese, if I had anymore zits I could play connect the dots on my face!" everyone laughed and no one got to make fun of her, she did it for them, but she didn't get hurt like it would have hurt her if they would have said something... that's a good one... Just believe in yourself, and no one else matters. no matter what you think. I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q: okay this probably wont make sense but ill try. I can never get a bf at my school ive only had one bf that actually went to school with me and he was really the only true one i had. Its like guys dont like me at school but guys outside of school are always hittin on me nd stuff.. mainly older guys it annoys me cuz i really want a guy inside skool i like some but they only see me as a friend. whats wrong? i dont think im like hideous or anything im actually pretty cute from wut im told so whats wrong?

You know, you are doing the oposite of what you should be doing...you should be asking what's wrong with all of the boys. Nothing is wrong with you. You are who you are, and if they don't like it they can stuff it. You shouldn't need to change to suit someone else's thoughts and feelings. Be yourself, and that Mr.Right will find you when the time is right. Don't ever think that anything is wrong. Besides, maybe a lot of the guys do like you and are just too scared to ask you out, ever thought of that? Don't let it get to your head. I hope that I helped and remember,my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks

Q: alright it always seems that when my brother has friends over that im always home, because all my friends are busy and there is no one to talk to on the phone. Now his friends are really hot so i dont want them to think im a loser its just a cowinsdense (sp) that im home when he has his friends over, and no i dont do it on purpose. I try calling people to talk so i dont look like a dork but of course no one is home when i need them . What do around the house so they dont think im a loser? and i know like watching t.v or something but last time i did that one of his friends went " why is she sitting there watching tv"
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Why don't you talk to your brother about it? He should understand, tell him that you don't want to look like a dork, but you don't have anything to do. Ask him if you can hang out with his friends, or just ignore them, besides, who cares what they think. He probably just said that to het your atention or your bro's. But if you really don't want to be there, go for a walk, or hang at the park. I wouldn't want to be alone, but hey, if you don't want to hang with your bro, and his friends, it is your choice. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q: Ok so I still love my ex and he loves me back but i dont want a bf and now my other ex who hurt me basically denying he ever liked me said he just did that so me and my other ex could get together and he wouldnt be in the way, i'm not sure if he's lying to me, but i really want to be with the ex i love but if i even start hanging out with the other one i'll fall for him again too, but he's one of my best friends so what do i do?

Who do you love the most? When in doubt, follow your heart! I would go for the one that didn't lie to you , but you don't even have to pick one of them. I can't tell you what to do. I hope that I helped and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice!Thanks!

Q: My 9th grade math teacher is so sweet! I am in 10th grade now, and my teacher for Geometry is not a good teacher, so I go to my 9th grade teacher for help! and last year she helped so much, and this year she is helping a lot too! I want to get a picture frame, and on the outside put a wooden ruler and a wooden protractor and a crayon and a pencil. She is from Texas, and proud, so I want to add something from that, but I dont know what. For the picture inside of the frame, she nominated me for student of the month in 9th grade and I won, so I will use the picture of us from that. I am also going to give her some candy and her all-time-favorite soda, Diet-Coke! Anything else?

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-Kelsey

That is a very good idea! I'm sure she will love it, but I think that you shoud(if you want to) give her a note. But get an empty one so that it is all what you write. Other then that, it sounds great. Good luck, and hope she likes it!I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q: I'll be brief. There's this one pretty girl I knew in Junior High; although we weren't offically an item, we were very close friends. During the time we knew each other, we didn't exchange phone numbers, email, or anything like that. To make a long story short, I got in trouble with the law and was kicked out of the seventh grade. After the ugly rehabilitation process, I was missing her ALOT, but eventually I had to get over it, and started high school on a fresh note. Today, I get a call, and it's her. Obviously, I'm stunned she called; she tells me she got my number out of the phone book. She said she missed me and we talked for a looong time about our lives right now. During our chat, she talked about how she thought she was worthless, how her mom was being treated for AIDS, and bascially, things aren't good for her. She also said she liked me then(she even used the word "soulmates"), and although I told her I did too, the words didnt quite come out the way I expected. And thats where my question comes in. I have little to no experience with women, and would like to know ways to assert myself confidently, while not acting like a total jerk. I also want to make her feel less worthless about herself, because I do care for her. On top of that, she has a boyfriend already. How can I do all of this, without her thinking I'm trying to intrude on their relationship? She wants me to call her tomorrow at 7, so answers would greatly be appreciated before then. But don't worry if not, I'm sure I'll eventually talk face to face with her soon. For your information, I'm 15, and male.

well, that is a pickle. I think that when you talk to her you should ask her how her boyfriend is. If she sounds annoyed or wierd when she talks about him, it might mean that she isn't too interested in him. no matter what she sais about him make sure that you respond. About being assertive, just don't be too shy, but don't like attack. treat her nice and don't act different when with your friends. don't ditch her to go with your friends, and always ask her before you do something that includes her. make sure you don't move too fast if she isn't ready, and always tell her how you feel. be there for her in times of need.
To make her not feel worthless, always give her compliments, and tell her that she isn't worthless. Give her comfort when she is having a hard time, and let her talk about her mom if she feels that she needs to. Whatever else is bad for her, try to help. I can't say much more because you didn't give me anymore info, but good luck and tell me how it goes. I hope I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it woudl be nice if you did. Thanks.

Q: its hard to say that my golden years are gone and i have to help my family do stuff witch i dont care about that but when something happens to me i cant tell my mom what im feeling because my mom would tell the world so i want to depend on my friends but im ganna move because im ganna loose the house well not me but my parents i cant do anything to help but i cant fall on anyone to help me and my only cloose cloose friend is kayliegh and she likes my 17 year old brother but has never mate him or said 1 word to him so thats the problem i dont know if shes just useing me to get close to scott im not sure i dont know if i can fall on her without getting hurt.im a 13 year old girl and im interrested to boys not girls

It is really hard to figure out if a person is using you, and it just seams easyer to assume that they aren't. You could ask her, but of coarse she would say that she wasn't. So have a friend of her's ask her if she is then have them tell you. She shouldn't realize that you know, all you have to do is ignore her if she is. Don't tell her that you know or you will get her friend in trouble, and that would be using. I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate if you don't want to, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q: I'm a LONER,a LOSER,a complete chatter box, and people think I'm anoing,I don't have any cool clothes either,Ialso don't stick to anything a start for exsample:baseketball,music lessons...! How do I make friends or even have them to want to be friends with me and maybe get a guy too like to go out with me? P.S. I'm 13 years old, Female,and super shy.

Assuming what you mean by "sticking to things", I think that you should try talking to someone. what I mean by that is, I know that you are super shy, but so was I. But I made friends quickly. Do you know how? I used my anoying talent to be funny. I was always making jokes. I was the second class clown. There was a boy named Nate that took the place of the class clown, but that was because I still wanted to get good grades. He was always in trouble. So first you have to get over your fears. here's how. When your family is going to go somewhere, ask if you can call the place and ask some questions. Then you will learn how to talk to people. Now you try talking to people at school. Here is a hint; People like to hang out with a person that is always happy, no matter what. (That's me) I'm not saying you can't be sad every once and a while, but if something like a bad grade hit's your scedual, don't get all mad, make a joke about it. Make people understand that you will be there for them if they ever have any problems. Other than that it is up to you. You are the only person that can get over your fears. So get rid of the shy thing and stick yourself out there. I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. you don't have to rate if you don't want to, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Q: i met this rele hot kid on buddypic. and i talked to him for a while. hes rele cute, nice, funny, hot, blah blah blah. but he hasnt been online and he hasnt replied to n e thing on buddypic. whta would u suggest is his reasoning?

Now, don't take this wrong, but maybe he thinks you aren't right for him. But most likely he is just busi. If he doesn't reply to anything for a week or so linger then find someone else. It will be good for you. Maybe he just wants some space. The last thing that you send him should say that you are going to talk to other people, and if he answers you will know what he wants.I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. Please rate.

Q: This past year, my hair was wavy/curly (as it naturally is) and always up in a ponytail or bun with tons of frizz. 2 days ago, I got a ceramic straightener. Other than straigtening my hair, what can I do to segregate myself from myself in the past? Also, how can I look older without being a slut or looking like my mom? I'm entering high school and that means hot guys!!

Well, you said that you are streightening your hair right? so do some more to it also. Maybe give it some color. to look older you could get more mature clothes, I don't mean granny clothes, but more like dress pants instead of jeans. But if you really want a guy that you will like and that will like you back,you might want to be your self. Hope I helped!

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Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!