Ok so I just started high school. I am 14/f. I am in the marching band and color guard. So, I met this guy(my age/Freshman) at Band Camp a few weeks ago. I didn't think he would want to become friends (he didn't seem easy to approach.) Then he sat with me and a few band friends at lunch during BC and our 8th grader said I was his best friend in the Guard (that made me smile) I said i didn't really have a 'best friend in band'and the guy 'W' said "Hey what about me!?" I was shocked and said yeah laughing. Then school started yesterday. 'W' kept teasing me because i was moving around the band room a lot! 'W's 5th period class is next door to mine (before lunch) and we left our classes at the same time, he walked up next to me and he was going to sit with me and my best friend (he was in 'W' class) and he came with us and we all talked and ate till near the end of lunch when 'W' left to go to his class early.
So then today. I have band with him. We talked a little (he started the conversation), then i realized i was lost.(It's a BIG campus)and he asked where i had to go. I said GEO and he led me through the huge mass of students. He and i talked a little more and i said i would meet him and my Best friend outside of 5th. So he walked me to class *smiles and blushes for no reason* and helped me find where i was suppose to go.
He did the same thing at lunch hung out till the end.
Now for my question... Do he and I seem to be making progress?? I really want to become good friends with him :)and... I'm starting to like him!!
Please help,any advice would be greatly appreciated!
It kind of sounds like you want him to be more than a friend. I say this because most people don't stress over just being friends with somebody. But answering you first question yes you are making great progress with just becoming friends. Just talking to him and getting to know him like you did the friend you have now. If you really like him in the "boyfriend" type of way, keep doing the same things you're doing now. Don't make it weird or awkward. Gradually it will be where you want it to be, where you both want it to be.
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So my boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over two months and we haven't kissed. I know he wants to kiss me, because he has said so before. I'm just nervous because what if I do something wrong? He will be my first kiss and it will probably be after school, in front of all our friends. Oh and so you know I'm in seventh grade so I'm not that young. Also, please nothing about " You're too young, you don't know what love is " because last time I checked you don't have to be a certain age to love someone. Thanks c:
Actually your to young to do other things but not kiss. Be honest with him and tell him your not comfortable kissing in public quite yet. So do it in private some where so you can get use to it. And even if you don't want to tell him its your first kiss, just kiss him alone first.
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I'm a 13 year old girl, and I got my period (not for the first time) around june 12th and then from about June 29 to july 2nd. Then I got it the 21st of July and I still have it. Is it normal to get it twice in one month?
And tampons. I really dont know how to put them in. Does it hurt? Advice helps! Thanks :)
One of my friends had her period for 20 sraight days the first time she got hers. Your body is trying to regulate itself for the months to come. Though if it keeps occuring then maybe you should mention to your mother and docter. For tampons I strongly reccomend reading the box. For some girls it hurts the first time, though after while it gets easier and you get comfortable with your body and you don't tense up as much. Try, and you don't like it stick with pads.
Lillian
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My sink isn't bad at all compared to some people, but I do have a few pimples and I wish my skin was clearer. I feel like everyone stares at one of my zits when I talk to them. I'm 13 and a girl so it's cause of my age I get them but not all of my friends have pimples. How can I get clear skin, quickly and easily. Easy facials, soaps, creams, home concoctions. Anything! And I do wash my face with a special skin product but I guess it's not working! Please help :)
If its because of age for sure then u should try Proactive because if theres only a few it will be easy to get rid of, and once you keep using it its hard for themm to reappear.
Lillian
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My boss is more then 50yrs old and lives with his parents. He does not have a lot of social skills. I have caught him following me around the office and looking at what I am doing, like what mail I put in the outbox or who am I talking with or where I am going in general. His behavior is creepying me out. I can do my job without even talking or speaking with him for weeks and have tried to stay out of his way to see what would happen and it seems this makes his behavior worsen. I find it creepy to come out of the women's restroom to find him leaning against the wall near the men's waiting for me. He then joins me and walks back with me into the office. He watches my emails through the network server (only mine as he moved my and his email to a separate server from everyone else) and watches the websites I go onto and programs I access.
What is the best way to handle this guy? If I tell him to back off, he tells me I am paranoid. And yet this continues.
You need to report this defiantly. Though know you might be risking your job depending what hierarchy scale there is at your office. But nothing should compromise your health and safety.
Lillian
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ok so my friend recently got a bf at the beach like a summer beach romance...and she wanted me and my friends to meet him. so i did at first when she wasnt there at the beach and i was like ya he\'s cool, whatever. so the second time i met him feelings grew inside of me and i cant help it. this is soo bad becuase my 2 of my friends did the same thing to me like they basically cheated on me on the guy i was with. but lastnight they broke up and i\'m like im so sorry! like comforiting her but she said she didnt even like him that mucha anyway.. but anyways this is so long...ok so when i was in 1rst grade there was this guy me and my friend (the one im talking about) and he asked me to go hangout with him...sorry if this is confuseing..yes 1rst grade idont know why i remember...anyways so i\'m pretty sure it\'s him! but i feel so guilty for even thinking hes attractive...becuase i know how it feels for ur friend to do that but i don't know... and i know even if she doesnt even like him shed be mad that i would go after him. what do i doo =[ i don't know how to stop the feelings...i have a feeling i m gunna be seeing alot at the beach since we go alot like everyday ...thanks
If you really want to go out with him, tell her your feelings for him. If she really wasnt into him it reallly shouldnt matter. But something tells me that she was saying that to say it. But tell her that you want to go out with him. If she sais no respect that. she has been your friend longer than youve known him. I dont know how old you are since your talking about first grade. I hope your not in second haha. But good luck.
Lillian
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How can I get attention in class and outside of class in school. I'm not an attention hog or anything. I'm actually really shy and I'm just sick of being a wallflower. Last year people didn't even notice that I was in their grade. They thought I was new and I've been living in my town for years! So how can I be noticed?
If your into it. You can join a club or sport to make friends that are into what your into. Or you can just meet people in your school by going up and talking to them.
Lillian
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There is a guy that works at the same store as me but in a different department. I always catch him staring at me. I've seen him stare at me from upstairs, at our morning briefings, even he has come in on his day off once and I saw him staring at me. He seems nice but on the shy side. The looks I get are not lustful but more puppy dog looks. I have also noticed that he seems more cheerful around the other workers since I have been smiling at him and saying hi. He used to be a lot quieter and looked a bit down. Also he is taking better care of his appearance. Do you think he's interested?
I'm pretty sure he's intrested. unless you have this thing on your face everyday haha. If he looks at you like that a lot he sees something.
Lillian
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K so I'm 13, in 7th grade, (girl) and all my friends (girls) are like all prude, but I would like to grind and make out with people that I'm not dating but all my friends would judge me. We have parties all the time so there's a lot of grinding going on. I didn't grind at the last party because my parents were invited but in school today my friend and I were joking around and I ended up in front of him against the wall and he started grinding me without holding my waist and now everyone is making a huge deal out of it and calling me a slut and I feel horrible but I really want to do stuff like grind! Am I being a slut and should I feel bad???
Grinding at a school is not cool because thats showing dudes that your easy to persuade(if you know what I mean).But at a party, it has to be at the right kind of party. You are young, and these are young parties but its not that slutty. But the making out with strangers yes is slutty. These dudes mouths have been god knows where. Plus if you like making out, so do other girls so you wouldnt be the first one.
Lillian
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Well i broke up with my exboyfriend about 2 weeks ago because there were rumors that he was playing me which i kno y people thought he was playin me but he wasnt i figured that story out but it made me get more aware and my eyes became more open well i broke up with him because another girl messaged me and told me he was goin out with her too but he says he wasnt and that the girl was just obsessed with him i really dont know who or what to believe i miss him and he tells me he misses me but i dont know what i should do i really need help im soo confused what do you think i should do? what would you do in this situation?
Your first reaction is usually the right one. If you know in your gut and heart that he cheated on you then he probly did. Or if you feel like he didn't cheat on you, and you were only listening to the people who told you the lies then get back together. But maybe takiing some time off from each other is not a bad thing. But ultimately its your choice. Hoped I helped.
Lillian
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Ok so i have a gf. Btw 14/m
I wanna hang out with her at like my house or her house. She doesn't want to hang out at her house for w/e reason in not totally sure. So she asked if she could come over sometime. I said yes. But im jw is it normal for me to not want her to come meet my parents because idk how they would act and it would be first time i had a gf over. Also i don't really like how my house looks like because idk i didn't pick out how it should look inside is this normal too?
O yeah its normal for any body to bring gf/bf over and not want them to come. Its natural. I mean she doesn't want you over her house either. Bt she is there for you not your parents nor your house.
Lillian
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15/f
so around the end of august this year I started talking to a guy at my school. We talked every day after school from the bus ride to about 11pm. (usually texting, sometimes calling). I see him every day in the halls and we have every lunch shift togther throughout the week.
This continued all the way to the middle of october, then he told me he liked me and asked me if I felt the same. Which ofcourse I did.
He called me beautiful and said every romantic thing in the book and I couldn't help myself think that he REALLY cared about me.
The whole time he had a girlfriend and some of my friends told me he was a player. I didn't believe them because he was so different from all the guys I know that are.
Anyway, about a week after they broke up he stopped talking to me all togther. But the days after he started to flirt more. But then I thought he mightve been depressed but he just became totally secluded from me. He didn't talk to me in the halls when he saw me and he never picked me up from my classes either.
I suspected he liked my friend cuz they were everywhere togther after that. But about a month ago I figured out he met an 8th grader and had been talking to her and going to her house.
(I'm in 9th btw)
so I immediately got so pissed cuz this girl is prettier than me, sooo very immature, and just all around slutty.
About 3 weeks ago they got togther.
His ex asked him what I was doing with him(to help me) and he said "oh I was just joking around with her and she knew that."
when I certainly did not.
I've been wanting to confront him and I have no idea what to do.
He was pretty much a part of me already an now it's like my heart has just been put through a shredder. Nothing I do can help me feel better and everywhere I go I see couples or reminders of him at school. And it makes me sick. I find myself thinking of him although I can't stand him!
And now I've been hanging around my other friends a whole lot more and I believe I'm starting to like one of my bestfriends who is gay... So I don't know how to deal w that either.
What do I do? Should I ask him if he meant any of it? How do I deal with liking my friend? I just need to feel happy and wanted again.
I'm sorrythis is so long, but I really need some advice.
Thank you so much.
You are 15 in 9th grade. Girl you are going to have many dudes throughout your high school carrier. So you will feel wanted again trust me. When you confront him( If you want too) don't make him think you are just waiting for him just tell him what you feel and that your glad that he left because he left space for a real man to come in. And for your gay friend your probaly just looking at him as a rebound guy that you can't have. He is just there and great for you right now. Something to love on during this break up phase.
Lillian
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15/f
I could never trust anyone but my closest relatives.Everyone I knew would betray me.People would always make fun of me for reasons I wasn't familiar with.First there were the ones I went to elementary school with.I'm not exaggerating when I say I had almost no friends at all.Only a few out of hundreds of them could actually understand me.For 8 years it seemed like nothing would ever change.I thought they hated me because I was and still am a straight A's student who doesn't like going out at night and getting into trouble.But that's not all.I had a boyfriend who I was truly in love with.He was with me for 7 months,but then cheated on me with my best friend who ended up not caring about me and went for him.I was destroyed for months.He was my everything and I grew up with her.Luckily,my grades remained the same.The thing is I can't bring myself to trust anyone now.Especially boys.For some weird reason I always think they're kidding me.I'm in first year of high school now,and today a guy from my class who's apparently hitting on me came up to me and said I was the hottest girl in class,and instead of feeling good about it,I wanted to slap him! I did say thanks though,but I have major trust issues!I always think people hate me and make fun of me behind my back... I want to fix it but I'm lost and I don't know how.I hate when some people who are good to me,mostly girls tell me they wish they were me,because they have no idea how I feel and what emotional mess I am.What should I do about this? It's just too much for someone my age to handle.Thanks for taking your time to read this.
I'm a freshman too. Out of this world you will be lucky to find one good friend. So don't exspect it to come at one time. My childhood friends and I broke up and we all don't have really true friends at are school. Though you can VCR those friends who are there but you don't have to trust them with everything. The boy might be good and he might be bad but don't let one bad friend and one bad relationship screw up your life. But what ever you do don't screw up your grades. Those are your tickets yo a better future.
Lillian
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Ok so im 16 almost 17 in a day or two
I have a girlfriend who has repeately broke up with me like 11 times in the year and 2 months weve been dating. She breaks up with for now reason like shell say she needs space or she says is mad at me for no reason, but then she usually comes back in less than a week and apolizes, even though I tell her she doesnt have to apologize. She did again with stupid reasons and she was acting unlike I thought she would because she is my best friend and she just wasnt talking so I asked her why and she said because she wanted to give me another shot then she didnt know if she could do it and then I asked why she even said anything she said "I Love You" then I said whats the problem then she thinks I need to be the leader in relationship and doesnt believe I can change.
Other things you should know are she is 16 also and when I say, say I mean she sent it in an email and Ive set up times for us to talk and boy can she talk an hour solid so I dont understand why we cant communicate.
You guys might not be that compatable. You might need two different things in your life right now. Talking is a big part of going out with someone and if you guys can't do that maybe it shouldn't be.
Lillian
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I hate the place I'm living. I complain about it all the time but there's nothing anyone can do about it because whether I like it or not - I'm here for another 2 years (about). Anyways, I hate all my friends. I had one really close friend; Camilla. But she totally changed. I don't even know her anymore. I'm a freshman in High School, so is she, and now she's friends with all the sophmores and the juniors. It seems like she forgot all about me. I feel so angry, like I hate her, and everything is her fault. But maybe it's not her fault, maybe I'm not used to this idea of her not always being with me. But she's never with me, not in school, not in weekends. She was invited to this movie night and now all the upperclassmen like her, and it's so annoying. Maybe I'm just jealous, but I can't take it. I can't let things change with us because I know it'll ruin me. What should I do?
Another question -- I'm depressed, and it's killing me. I always do research but there's no way I can explain to my parents that I'm depressed so I need therapy/anti-depressants.
Is there another way to cure/better my depression?
Why this ruin you. You don't have to be like her to have her friends. Have new friends and be yourself. Now if the problem is her friends are the problem find people you do like. I'm a freshman too at lyman and all my friends went to lake mary. I am different from a lot of people. Trust me when I say different. But I jioned a sport and found a lot of people who have the same likes as me. Jion something. It might help.
Lillian
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