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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I am 13/F and not the best christian. I dont go to church but I do pray everynight. Well on Sunday my brother's best friend asked me out and I thought he was joking so I quickly and coldy said No way! Then that night I really liked a guy and foolishly prayed "lord, I know I havent been the best but please you know how much I like him could you please somehow influence him to ask me out? Ill pay the price like......you can make this week torture for me if he just does that one thing" then I went on with the prayer. Now me and the guy WERE really good friends. Then on Monday he got mad at me for no reason and one time when we were shoving eachother in the snow he just yelled "STOP FLIRTING WITH ME!" I was taken back but not too mad. Then everyone starts calling me names and a looser and stuff for no reason. I get really confused cause im actually very popular. Then I find out I failed a Math Test! I have been a straight A student since grade 1 and have NEVER failed a test. Then at lunch since I forgot my lunch the guys start calling me anorexic. I also got tripped in the hall and other stuff. On the busride home the busdriver said she couldnt see me in my seat and gave me a checkmark for it! The next day my best guy friend got mad at me for not telling him who I liked. In the end I gave him a note (a VERY sincere note) saying how I thought that there was no need to ask and he didnt need to know and how it didnt matter who I liked because im ugly and not like girlfriend material like my best girlfriend and how I was happy he was my friend and I considered him my best guy friend. also on that day the rumors kept going on and getting meaner and on the busride home I got another check mark for being a little late even though my teacher kept us in 5 minutes after the last bell. Then today I find out the guyfriend thinks im a freak and I scare him. These guys shove me to the ground and kick tons of snow in my face for a long time (they like held me down) then someone found my agenda and said that on the frontpage it says im in love with this one guy and how I think he really likes me and when I go to prove he's lying its written there in MY handwriting in ink. So now that guy thinks im a freak. My best guyfriend told people what I thought about myself so now everyones bugging me about it. I sat in gum wearing my favourite jeans and I got a third checkmark which means im getting a bus write-up in the morning. What is happening to me? Is he seeing if I can take the week or is he punishing me or what?!
You're just having a sincerly bad day. Your God isn't supposed to torture anyone, and if somehow He's the reason all these things are going wrong, something isn't right.
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I'm 13/f. But my boyfriend was 16.
1. My step father had started sayig saying That if me and him had sex then that would be statitory rape, consensual or not.
Is it possible for him to get into trouble for having sex with me?
2. My parents put a restraing order against him. Once I'm not a minor anymore is it possible for that restraining order to count like would he get in trouble for being with me again?
--Sid
Depending on where you live, your boyfriend can't get in trouble with the law. If he's under the age of eighteen, your parents can't really hold him up for statitory rape. Don't take my word for it, but i'm pretty sure i'm right.
- The only person he can get in trouble with is your dad probably.
Once ou turn 18, the restraining order won't mean shit. YOu can do whatever you want & he can't get in trouble.
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Well, okay so there is this guy that flirts with me a lot. The thing is that he's a junior and I'm a freshie.
What are the chances that he:
1-does really like me
2-just being goofy [thinks that i'm cute--age wise]
3-just wanna get in my pants
he's not all that popular and neither am i and we're kinda just one of those poeple. if that helps. haha thanks
The age difference doesn't matter at all. Guys are all different, and i'm not going to judge the majority of eleventh grade guys by making a sterotypical conclustion that they are all the same.
That's the same age difference between my boyfriend & I. Accept i'm a sophomore & he's a senior. We've been together for 1 year & 4 months so I know he wasn't just being goofy or trying to get in my pants. (I got lucky with this one =])
1-Ask him. If you aren't going to ask him, hang out with him and maybe you can decide for yourself.
2-Once again, if you hang out with him, he'll know.
3-Guys have a penis, and guys are going to think about sex. But that doesn't mean that's all he's after.
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My parents are overprotective. They won't let me go places when there are gonna be boys there. My brother, however, has a girlfirend and he can go anywhere with him (he's going to be 16 later this month.) I am 14- and when he was 14, he was able to do stuff. Any advice to say to them? HELP PLEASE...:'(
-Jam
The best advice I could give you would be to confront your parents about how you feel. Explain to them that you appreciate them caring so much, but you think they are being a little to protective. If this doesn't work, try bringing up your brother. Mention to them that you know your brother had certain priveledges at your age, and you expect the same.
If worst comes to worse, just deal with it and be glad your parents care about you enough to be overprotective. They are just looking into your best interest.
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I can't do handstands or cartwheels but I really want to do them. Like figure it out on my own without much help since I'm just doing it for fun and not all gymnastics competition thing.
I wanted to know what workouts would behelpful for me to achieve this goal
If you want to acheive handstands and cartwheels, then workouts aren't what you need. Practice is. If you know the basic idea of how to do both, then all you have to do is practice your technique a lot.
Cartwheel:
To begin a cartwheel, stand in a lunge. Your most comfortable leg should be in front, knee bent slightly, arms up by your ears.
Let's assume you are right handed; if you're a lefty, simply reverse these directions. Reach forward with your right arm, kicking your left leg up as you do so. The left hand should follow very quickly, and as it touches the ground, your right leg should be off of the ground also. You should pass through a straddle handstand briefly. Your left leg will reach the ground 1st, followed by the right, which you will place in back, finishing in a lunge, just as you started, but with the opposite leg in front.
The trick, really, is the rhythm of the skill, which is 1,2,3,4, or "hand, hand, foot, foot", and getting through vertical. Most gymnasts tend to kick around the side when they are first learning this skill. Take your time, and be careful.
Handstand:
Find an area where you will have plenty of room to move around. Be sure the area is smooth and level grounded so you don't fall over.
Stand straight up, lift your hands above your head, and swing them downwards in front of you. Lower your upper body towards the ground as you do this. As your hands touch the ground and you transfer your weight from legs to hands, kick your feet up (one right after the other) so that they come at least above your head. This is the most difficult part and most people do not kick their legs up hard enough for fear of overshooting and flipping over. Instead, however, they end up with their feet back on the ground. Once you are in the upside down vertical position, move around on your hands to balance yourself until you are steady. Use your hands and your natural sense of balance to move around and stay upright. Slowly bend your knees so that your feet hang over your head. This helps you to balance much better than having your legs extended straight above you. With enough practice (and it takes a lot of practice), you will be able to hold handstands as long as you want, and even walk around on a handstand. Most people can't do handstands because they're afraid of falling over. For this reason, start practicing on a grass field or somewhere else where it won't hurt if you fall over. Practice falling over without hurting yourself. One way is to bend your arms and tuck into a roll. You should be able to, when you've practiced enough, fall onto concrete from a handstand position without hurting yourself. It's about teaching your body to absorb shock and not hardening your muscles on impact.
Strengthen your core body muscles as well as your upper body to help support your weight and keep your balance while in a handstand.
Use your entire hand to keep your balance. If your legs are falling over your head, push hard in your fingers. If you are falling back down, push hard in your palms. Keep your back as straight as a board. Doing this will help you when you are starting out. Once you get your balance right, your back doesn't need to be straight anymore. Stop when your arms are tired. You aren't training by falling on your head.
Get a friend to spot you by standing a safe distance in front of you to catch and then hold your calves while you're in a handstand.
You can also practice or start out while facing a wall. The wall can act as your "spotter" and help you work on balance, as well as keep you from falling farther and landing on your back.
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okay so..this is probably going to be long. sorry!. but anyways umm one day at school i was walking and then this guy was walking with his friend (btw were all in the same grade(11th) as far as i know) so i was walking by them and the guy pushed his friend into me..?( i dont know why) and then again today i was walking to my bus and this other friend of the guy just came up to me and like hugged me, his friend was like im cold then he hugged me.( came out of nowhere, theyre really random) i dont know why i dont even know the guy and his friends. it seems to me that theyre like picking on me =[ and i dont know why. i hate being picked on this has never happened to me or are they just kidding around? but why would they joke around i dont even know their names and who they are. do they seem like theyre picking on me or because one of the guys friend like me or the guy likes me? but i mean i dont know why they would like(crush on me) me im average looking im not pretty and tall. im just average an average looking girl, average height, im quiet, not TOO quiet, people say that im really nice =] i dont know why theyre doing this they dont know me. please help cause i dont know what random thing theyre going to do next. i dont wanna be embarassed i mean i dont wanna tell my parents or my counselor about this cuz it will cause drama and i hate being in dramas. please please help me!! theyre so immature cause were in 11th grade. what do you think. are they picking on me?? i know theyre not teasing me cuz they dont call me names.
some guys are just flirts. these guys are exactly the kind of flirts i'm talking about too. they are flirting with you, but that doesn't mean they like you. it's completely your choice whether or not you flirt back, so yeah.
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what is a cunt??
veryy verry bad word for vagina.
kind of like dick for a guy, only way way worse.
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17/f
ok. So I lost my viriginity today. We used a condom, and he's been tested so I know he's clean. When it happened it hurt a lot, but it's normal, right? I also didn't start bleeding until about an hour after it happened. It stopped, but my stomach still hurts.
So basically here's my question:
How long will it take until sex stops hurting?
I can def. see us doing it again in the future, maybe as soon as next week. Will it still hurt? I had fun anyway with the fooling around we did, but I'd like to enjoy it as much as he has, lol.
Thanks in advance!
-L
You'll probably stay sore for about a week depending on how bad it hurt you and how little you are.
And most likely it'll hurt the second time too, but def. not as bad as the first time did.
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This girl who is 12, in my school, had sex with a 14 year old.
I don't know the details or anything, but I know she has done it like 10 other times with a 16 year old too.
She agreed to, and wanted to, but couldnt they be charged with rape or something?
I live in ohio.
if she wanted to also, no one can get in trouble because the boys are under the age of 18. the only trouble i'm guessing these boys can get into is with this girl's dad.
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16/f this morning my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. He's had sex before, but until 8 hours ago I was a virgin. He's been tested and he doesn't have any diseases. We used a condom and everything went ok. It hurt, but I know that's normal. Then afterwards I had to wear a pad for about an hour because I was bleeding. I also know this is normal if it's your first time. But then, just a minute ago I used the bathroom for the first time since this morning and peeing stung. Is THAT normal?? How long until it goes away? I'm kinda freaking out. Thanks for any help you can offer.
-De-Virginized At 7
That as well is normal. I've been having sex for over 7 months, and if I go to the bathroom right after sex, it burns me also. Don't worry.
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Alright well my bf and I had dry sex and I had only my underwear on and he only had his boxers on. He didn't ejaculate on me, then after that he jacked off and he lost a lot of sperm, then later on we had dry sex again except everything on me was off and he only had his boxers on. Then I wan't to stop and he said he didn't ejaculate at all on me or anything and his dick wasn't even inside of me. But he got a little cum where his dick was and I was really wet. Do you think that was my cum? Do you think there is any way possible I could be pregnant?
A lot of people that I told had told me it's really doubtful..
They're right. It's highly doubtful that you are pregnant. I'm pretty sure it was probably just your cum, so I wouldn't worry.
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19/F
Okay, I'm really sorry if this is disgusting or gross or w.e but ... how do you give a blow job? Like make it really good for the guy. I know not to like get my teeth in the way cause it's painful and stuff but, what do I do with my tongue/hands? Is there anything I could do to reallllyyyyyy make him happy/pleasured =P? Thankyou and I'm sorry if this is really gross or anything but, I need advice and fast!!! THANKS
Lick the tip of the penis instead of taking the whole thing into your mouth. Suck on the head, and just stroke the base. Flick your tongue on any loose piece of skin you can find, and when he gets off in your mouth, suck down every last drop of his cum. It will seriously turn him on if he thinks your enjoying yourself as much as he is.
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This is mostly for the ladies, or the gays pertaining to his or her boyfriend. If you and your boyfriend were messing around and he got hard but couldn't hold an erection for very long or had an orgasm, does it turn you off or make you think less of him to a point where you no longer want to have a relationship with him? (he says that it's not you but just because he's nervous). This is simply just messing around like playing naked no intercourse or anything.
The point is, is that I get really nervous around the guy i'm dating, we're not official but we've been going out for more than a month now. We have been messing around and I can't seem to hold an erection for very long. I believe it is because I am nervous and have performance anxiety... during the time that we've been dating, I have messed around with other guys that were not looking for relationships and have found that I can hold my erection for quite sometime... I'm really confused because I don't know whether or not it's just there's no physical attraction between us or just because i'm nervous... neither of us have really had a steady relationship or just a steady dating partner... I really don't know what to do and I think it's bothering him more than me... Any advice??
If my boyfriend couldn't get an erection around me, it would probably make me feel pretty bad. But only if he didn't give me an explanation. If you just tell your boyfriend (partner, whatever) that you are nervous, and can't seem to keep an erection, he'll probably understand. Just try to relax around him. I'm sure it's not a burden of physical attraction.
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ive heard some people say that you may not even relize that your hymen has been popped, is that true? or .. yeah idk and another question, does it always hurt when it gets popped by tampon,sex etc.?
For once people are right. The majority of the time, girls don't realize when their hymen is being ripped because the hymen breaks down little by little, making the final rip almost unnoticable all together.
So no; girls don't always know when their hymen is being ripped. And no; it doesn't always hurt when it gets ripped.
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what is dry sex?
People have many misconceptions on what the actual definition of dry sex is. It can be a number of many things, so make sure not to get one idea confused with another.
One defintion of dry sex is when two sex partners wipe away the vagina's natural lurbication before and during sexual intercourse, making the woman's vagina dry and tight. The practice is supposed to generate extra sensation for the man during intercourse but is often uncomfortable for the woman. The practice of dry sex is generally used without condoms (which require lubrication to avoid breakage). It may also result in vaginal inflammation and/or traumatic lesions.
A more commonly known defintion of what dry sex is refers to foreplay and sexual acts that do not involve penetration of any kind. This may also be known as dry humping.
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ok theres this guy and hes older than i am and has a lot more sexually experience considering that im a virgin and really havent done anything yet and he knows it and well we knew eachother for a few months and we would talk and than after that he dissapeared for like 2 months and i heard he had a feiance and than seen him making out with another gurl while talking to me and well i just seen him latly and we exchanged numbers and well weve been kinda talking and the first night we were talking he was asking if i would ever sleep with him and asking me all this other stuff and mostly talking bout sex and he told me that the first time we hangout he bets that he can make me loose my virginty to him the first time we hang out but made it a point to say that he wont force me cause he wouldnt have to and than the second convo was much different we didnt talk bout sex once we joked and shit but after that first convo i dont know plus he moves pretty fast so is he just in it for sex or no plus were just talking not dating so what should i do should i hang out or no if i do what if i say no and he still trys to cause hes gonna be a perfessional boxer and well my mom and dad dont know so were talking on the down low help before i make a big mistake
Let's look at the facts first.
- He's older.
- Your parents apparently won't like him.
- He's a man whore.
- He had a fiance.
- He thinks you are loose. (As in he thinks he can take your virginity easily.)
Now let's look at my opinions.
- He'll cheat on you.
- You'll end up having sex with him and then regretting it.
- Being with him is a BAD idea.
End of story.
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What are the positives and the negative to masturbating...? I always wanted to know
Despite what a lot of us may have been told by our parents or others, masturbation does not cause physical injury or harm to the body. I'm sure we’ve all heard plenty of myths about masturbation. Some may include blindness, growing hair on the palms of your hands, becoming impotent, developing a mental illness, reducing libido, the list goes on. But I assure you that none of these are true. They have all been tested and proven to be false by the medical community. Though masturbation has no physical consequences, you may need to watch out for some of the mental consequences masturbation can bring to you. For example, if masturbation occurs within a marriage or relationship, where masturbation replaces having sex with your partner, it could potentially damage the self-esteem of him/her. Mainly, masturbation may have negative social consequences if you become preoccupied with self-pleasure to the point that it interferes with your day to day activites. In the end though, masturbation is considered to be a natural and safe way for men and women to express sexuality and may help promote self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-confidence. Just remember that masturbation is in no way unhealthy as long as it doesn't interfere with other things such as school, work, dating, etc. It is a completely healthy addition and offers a way for you to enjoy your own body. Masturbation can help you learn more about what you might want to try with a partner as well. Sharing what you know about your body with partners can enhance your sexual relationships. Mutual masturbation, where you masturbate while watching your partner masturbate, can be very arousing. Masturbation is a fun alternative to other types of sexual pleasure that holds no risk of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.
POSTIVES:
- May help to reduce stress & release sexual tension.
-May help a person become more comfortable with his or her own sexuality
-Eliminates the potential possibility for pregnancy or transmission of STDs.
-Being self-aware of one’s body and sexuality may better prepare him/her for sexual activity with a partner.
NEGATIVES:
-Frequent and vigorous masturbation may produce skin abrasions or superficial bruising/temporary discoloration.
-Masturbation may become an obsession or addiction.
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What disease can you get by licking/sucking a males privates without a condom? If both people have not been with anyone else?
If neither of you have been with anyone else, then no disease can come from it.
But some STDs that you may contract if he has been with someone else is genital warts, chlamydia, herpes, and many more.
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what does it mean to "get your cherry popped" and what happens?
The first thing you need to know, is that this doesn't neccesarily have to be under the sex category.
Your hymen can rip doing a number of things that actually aren't sexual in any way at all. As in bike riding, horseback riding, gymnastics, wearing tampons, stretching, running, and many other things that cause strenuous stretching of the legs.
Basically though, it's when a thin layer of skin that's located on your vagina is ripped. You may experience a little bleeding and a little pain, but it's not as bad as people make it out to be. And remember, you can still have your hymen even if you aren't a virgin. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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Is there any harm to your partner or to you if you have sex with a yeast infection?
The only harm is your partner can contract a yeast infection as well if you have one during sex.
Consider this: You have sex while you have a yeast infection. Your partner then contracts a yeast infection, but neither of you know it. You treat your yeast infection. Then the two of you have sex again, and what do you know? You have a yeast infection again!
What i'm getting at here is that the two of you can continue passing the infection back and forth between the two of you, and it's left untreated. If you suspect you had a yeast infection while having sex, tell your partner so he can go get medicine for it also.
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