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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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So, I am in cheerleading, and well, of course we have to do cheers, and I really do try to practice them at home, and we do the cheers like right before we go home to, but right when i get in the car and i go home i completely forget the cheer and the moves. Is this Short Term Memory Loss?? How can I fix this? because I am the only one on the team that keeps messing up the cheers, and I feel really stupid and the coaches seem kind of annoyed about it..
Thanks
I've been cheering for 5 years, and this still sometimes happens to me. If i'm tired after a long day of practice, and i'm ready to go home, I don't pay attention and absorb as much information as I would normally if I were less tired and more in to it. So try paying close attention.
Keep your mind on what you are doing, and don't let it wonder. I catch myself thinking about what i'm going to have for dinner, or when I'll see my boyfriend, or random things like that. Focus on what you are doing.
And if you honestly can't remember, have your coach or captain write down the words to take home with you. This may trigger the motions once you get home =]
So basically:
1. Be Dedicated To What You Are Doing.
2. Focus & Pay Attention.
3. Write Down Information.
Good Luck
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When my boyfriend fingers me, eats me out or we have sex, I always end up having a really intense orgasm where my legs shake and it's the whole arched back thing. Though... afterwards, I get like... after shivers? Is that normal?
Yes it's normal. When I orgasm, my legs go numb and tingly. [=
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http://www.wikihow.com/Easily-Pierce-Your-Own-Nose
does that sound about right? i want to pierce my own nose. i want to make sure the sterilizing is correct
Piercing your own nose is not a good idea.
Anything that starts off with "Have a friend video tape you with cellphone so everyone will know you did it" is not a good source.
Get it done professionally.
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Can yeast infections permanently damage your body if you don't get treatment? Because if so, this sucks.
I got this from a website:
"Is a yeast infection dangerous?
Yeast infections can cause severe discomfort but rarely cause serious health problems. Left untreated, vaginal yeast infections often clear up on their own, usually when menstruation begins. Menstrual blood raises the vaginal pH, causing the number of yeast cells to decrease because they can't grow in the pH present during menstruation.
Recurring yeast infections may be difficult to prevent or cure. There are significant differences between occasional, easily treatable yeast infections and recurring infections that seriously affect a woman's life. Women who have recurring yeast infections should be tested for underlying causes so that the appropriate treatment can be chosen."
This is the website:
http://www.brown.edu/Student_Services/Health_Services/Health_Education/general_health/wh_yeast.htm
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im a 13 year old girl and i havent even started my period and i am having sex dreams and i masterbate at least 5-9 times a day and i think it would be fun to have kinky sex so i guess what im really asking is should i have sex?
Should you have sex even though you haven't started your period yet? Is that honestly a serious question? No. You shouldn't.
It's normal to have sex dreams, and normal to masturbate. It's also normal to want to have sex.
That doesn't mean you or your body is ready for that yet though.
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im 16 years old.
and a female.
i have been with the same guy for about two years now. and yes, we are sexually active. i was just wonderin if i was supose to douche and how often.
Douching isn't healthy.
So don't do it unless you absolutely feel it's neccessary.
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So I think I have a yeast infection, I don't know that much about it but i looked up the symtoms and I pretty much have it I think. I'm fourteen. Is this possible? I'm totally not sexually active at all. can someone just tell me all about it?
You don't have to be sexually active to get yeast infections. I've gotten them since I was a baby.
https://www.msu.edu/~eisthen/yeast/causes.html
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I have not cut my hair in 9 years. It is down to my behind. and yes, it is a bit unhealthy and has split ends, but it is really pretty (strawberry blond, fine) and I feel it is my best asset. Lately i have had the temptation to cut it because then I could just get out of the shower and not have to brush it or anything. that and my boyfriend of 3 years really wants to see it short. I do not want a trim and I hate shoulder-length hair, so it would have to be all or nothing. If I did I think I would choose the haircut that is chin length in front and shorter in back. I really just don't know?! Keep my long hair and with it the hassle...or chop it and forget the hassle, but possibly regret it and be depressed?!
My hair was really long too, and I cut all mine off. I liked it at first, but now I wish it was long again. But I remember the hassle it was to take care of =\ I think i'm going to let it grow back out though.
I say chop it off. Hair grows back, no reason to be depressed over it.
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i am 14 years old, and about two months ago i lost my verginity to my 17 year old boyfriend. we werent even going out for 2 months yet, and we didnt even know eachother for 3 months. but we were both vergins and i know he really wanted to lose his verginity. and it was prom night, so it was kind of expected. i wanted to have sex with him, but i never wanted to become who my friends are who lost their verginities at 12 and 13. there is something seriously wrong with my town where girls thing its okay to have sex in junior high, and i know its not wrong. i dont feel like i was pressured into sex but i feel like i wanted to wait and now theres no turning back. and me and my boyfriend are incredibly close and i know we'll be together for the rest of my high school and i honestly want to grow with him into a family when we get older but i just dont know if i feel right about this.. like when im a parent, and my kids ask me when i first had it, im going to have to say 14 and im going to have to live forever knowing that i was a little slut. and im so worried that im going to like emotionally break down because i worry too much about this.. i dont know what to do, should iu stop having sex with him? even though theres no turning back, and i do enjoy it.? i just dont know. and i absolutly cannot talk to my mom about it. she believes in sex after marriage and expects me to stick with it. and she would deffinitely dig a hole and burry me in it if she found out.. please help
I lost my "virginity" when I was 14, and I don't consider myself to be a "little slut" - I'm now 17 actually, and i'm still with my boyfriend.
Every once in a while I question my decision on having sex in highschool. I wonder the same thing you do; What am I going to tell my kid some day? But the truth is, there IS no going back. So why regret my choice? I chose to have sex, because that is what I wanted to do. So why question my decision now? There is no point in it. I'm sexually active, and i'm not afraid or ashamed to admit it. I know a lot of people on this site look down at me for it, but the truth is I DON'T CARE. I DON'T regret my decision. I am very happy with my boyfriend. I've been with him for 3 years.
When someone comes onto this site and says they are 13 or 14 and they are wanting to have sex, I try to explain to them that it is a huge decision to make. One that can honestly and truely change their lives, and it can. I try letting them know the downfalls, but that I too wanted to have sex at there age and I did. And I don't regret it. I try giving them both sides of the story.
Here's the thing: If you enjoy having sex with your boyfriend and you think the two of you will be together for a long while, then still have sex with him. People ARE going to give you crap about it, but they don't have to know if you don't want them to. If you would prefer keeping your sexual relationship to yourself, tell your boyfriend that. If he doesn't respect your wishes, it's time to get a new boyfriend. If you don't feel you want to continue having sex, because you'll regret it, then don't.
It's simple, really.
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I was recently diagnosed with polycystic ovary disease. To help with the symptoms, I need to lose weight. I know that this means I need to change my lifestyle - the way I eat and how active I am. I don't have a lot of money and I live in the city. My apartment is fairly small. These aren't excuses, just information to give you an idea of my situation. I don't need anyone saying mean or obvious things like "don't eat as much" or "get off your ass" because that is in no way helpful.
Basically, any advice anyone could give about how I can lose weight, either to do with eating or physical activity, would be very much appreciated. Thank you.
To make things easier on you, it's probably not in your best interest to just cut out all foods you are used to and start excessively exercising just so you can lose weight. It's best to do things in moderation.
If you snack a lot, try cutting it down to just 1 snack a day. And if you can, make it a healthy snack. Like, yogurt or nuts or something. When you go grocery shopping, avoid unhealthy junk food to keep you from slipping up. Also make small changes in your diet. For example, if you eat something like Cookie Crips for breakfast, change it to Speacial K, or Honey Bunches of Oats. If you eat white bread, change it to wheat. Just small things like that can make a huge difference over time. Once you make all these small changes, if you want you can try cutting portions or other more drastic diet changes.
For exercise, if you can afford it, try buying a cheap bicycle to work, or the grocery store, or wherever you need to go. If it's walking distance, then walk. Or when you are bored and are just laying on the couch watching tv, try jogging in place or doing jumping jacks for 5-10 minutes.
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ok. i'm 14, i'll be 15 in october. and i STILL don't have my period. EVERYONE else does except me. isn't there a range of ages you should get you period in? i don't wanna be like an underdeveloped freak:/
also, this is really weird talking about but i have NO BOOBS. i mean i see ten year old with bigger ones than me. i'm 5'1 and 95lbs. which is littler than average i guess, but i have a friend who's practically the exact same size as me, and she has boobs and period.
when will it happennnnnnnnnnnnnnn!?!?!?
http://www.obgyn.net/displayarticle.asp?page=/yw/articles/first_period
Visit that site. It has all the information you need.
I started my period when I was 13. You are only 14, you have plenty of time to go. I also have no boobs, and i'm 17 years old. You'll grow in your own time, so dont' stress out.
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When my boyfriend eats me out I don't think it feels good at all, and people tell me how it feels amazing. This is the first guy I've did anything with like this. And I'm the first girl he's ate out, so I don't know if he's just bad or I'm just not normal.
And when he fingers me it feels good, but like I feel like I should orgasm from it but I don't. And it was stupid, but I fake it now, because he thinks he's doing really good, so I go along with it ha. I don't know where the "spot" is.
I think I've masterbated like ten times in my life, I don't really like it, so I've never found the spot. Everything's wierd.
Not everyone can orgasm easy, and you seem to be one of them :] It's completely cool, and nothing to worry about. It will just take a little experimenting to figure out what you like.
Don't Fake It.
- From now on, if you don't orgasm, me honest about it. Just because you don't orgasm, doesn't mean it doesn't feel good. Let your boyfriend know that. Experiment with yourself until you find something you like. Your boyfriend can help you.
Not everyone likes to just be fingered, or oral sex. Some people [like you ;)] are a little more complicated.
You'll eventually find what's right for you.
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15/f
i sweat a lot and i use secret clinical strength..but i still sweat so much that it leaves sweat stains and stuff. i'm not overweight or anything i just sweat a lot even if i'm not really hot. but now that its summer i sweat more and i don't know what to wear or do about it. i wear black mostly but i want to be able to wear anything. this sucks a lot, any suggestions? can a docter help?
Black actually attracts heat. I would try wearing a different color.
Everyone else gave you great advice, so I just wanted to add that.
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My ex boyfriend moved to Sweden for two years, and we've talked on msn every day and stuff, and now he's moved back to our town.
I was so fucking happy when he called me and said ''I'm back in town, let's meet at Starbucks at 12''
So I go there to meet him, and I didn't see him anywhere.
I look around and there's a guy waving at me.
And I did a double take.
Before he left, he had blonde hair, messy, some piercings, and gauged ears.
Now, he has black long hair, more piercings and something that makes me want to cry, he's gauged his center lip piering to a 00g
( like this guy's lip:
http://www.bmezine.com/pierce/05-lips/A80502/high/npqe-rafa-e-dessa-9829.jpg)
Meanwhile I've had some boyfriends, and he's had some girlfriends, but I wanted to start dating him again.
But now...I feel so unattracted to him :(
I mean, I can't even kiss him. And he talks all weird.
And he's changed too. He's obsessed with gauging his lip now, and he thinks I should gauge my lip too.
What do I do now?
I still love him, but I feel like I love him as a friend, and he wants to get back together.
Help?
People change.
That's something important that you are going to have to accept in life.
Is it even possible to kiss someone with that form of a piercing? I hope to God you choose NOT to gauge your lip, because that is incredibly unattractive. How anyone can think that looks good is beyond me. You should be honest with him though. Tell him you would love to be friends, but as far as having a relationship again, you don't see it happening any time soon. Hopefully he will understand.
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Hello, I recently had sex for my first time on Sunday, the 22nd.
I bled, A LOT and he said I was extremely tight.
Well to my question, its been about 4 days and I'm still in pain down there. I have bloody discharge, and it hurts when I pee. I also have had no appetite for the 4 days and when I do try to eat I just feel really sick, and feel like I'm going to throw up.
How long did you hurt after your first time & is this normal or should I be worried ?
Thanks so much
My first time was very painful, but it was short lived. I was sore for a day or two, but by the end of the week, I was completely fine and felt like I was back to normal.
I'm sure all people react differently, since everyone's body is made different. But the fact that you are nauseous and have had a bloody disharge isn't a good sign. Take it easy for a few days, wear loose fitting clothes, and if things aren't better in a week or two, you should probably let someone know.
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having unprotected sex...yeah I know dumb. Anyways he was going to tell me when he was gonna cum, but next thing I new he was cumming in me...me and him are both freaking out now. In on birthcontrol, but missed one day last week and took two the next day. Could I be pregnant?
If you are on birth control, then you are having protected sex. You need to be more careful about taking your pills correctly, but the truth is you most likely aren't pregnant. So don't stress out to bad.
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hi i have this really angry-red boil thing on my vag. it doesnt hurt and it only itches sometimes, but im scared to scratch it in case it bursts. ive never had sex and i masturbate with my hands but not excessively.
what is it??
It could be an ingrown hair if you shave. Or a heat rash. It could be anything. If it bothers you, or gets to hurting, next time you go the OB/GYN, tell them about it.
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How do you have sex? Which hole is the penis supposed to be inserted into? By the way, I'm 13/f and I don't know whether I want to have sex with my boyfriend or not. I really like him, and he won't leave me alone about it. What should I do?
You should break up with him.
If you don't know which hole the penis goes in to, the fact you want to have sex makes me somewhat sick.
Think of your period, if you've had one. Are you thinking? Now, the hole your period comes out of, that's called you vagina. When you are older, and understand this concept, you can consider sex. Until then, tell this guy to get lost.
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i'm not sure if this is the right category, but anyways..i was out with my mom today taking my duck to the vet. as we were leaving i started feeling like i was going to puke. then everything got blurry and i got really dizzy. then my ears started ringing and i fell to the ground. they put ice on my head and neck and i felt better after a little while. what happened to me? did i pass out/faint? this has never happened before. so why now? thanks! (oh, and i dont pass out from blood so it was nothing like that)
Maybe it wasn't your blood, but blood sugar. If you didn't eat anything before you went to the vet, then your blood sugar may have gotten low, causing you to faint.
Or if you were having a rough period, that may have caused it. I always get really weak and light-headed when i'm on my period.
It could be a number of things. If it continues, go to the doctor.
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I'm 16/f. I don't know how I'm going to tell a guy, who I might possibly want relationship with, about my sexual history. I've had sex with three guys, I feel terrible about it and one of the guys wasn't even planned (I was almost passed out drunk when it happened, if I was sober it never would have happened) The first guy is the only justifyed one because I went out with him for a year, and we did it on your 6 months. The second guy was to get over the first guy (he ended up being abusive and I needed to feel loved by someone) I was 15 when all of that happened and I haven't had sex since. But I don't know how a guy will react to hearing that I've already slept with 3 guys and I'm only 16. I regret it every day and it makes me feel guilty thinking about it. I've taken a vow to not have sex until I'm with a guy I truly love (and sure about his intentions) for at least 6 months. I'm afraid guys will be disgusted by it or think I'm a slut if I tell them about the three guys and not want to go out with me, but the other 2 guys were truly mistakes. Do I tell tell a guy everything or not tell him about all of them & is there any chance the guy won't care? :/
If he asks you about your sexual history, then you should tell him. If he doesn't ask you, you aren't obligated to tell him until he does.
Just tell him what you just wrote. Explain that you were in love with the first guy, and you thought you would be together for a very long time. As for the other two, just be honest and tell him they were mistakes that you regret everyday. If he isn't understanding, then he doesn't deserve you anyway.
Just don't lie about it. That will make a bad situation terrible.
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