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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Ask him about it. Tell him you found the facebook page and it concerns you. Here him out. If he acts weird or you still feel something isn't right, then end it. Without trust there is no point in having a relationship.
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I am a seventeen year old female and i have wanted to get my tongue pierced for a while. problem is, my mother might kill me if she finds out. i am determined to get it done, i just need help with how to hide it. she threatened to kick m 21 yr old sister when she got hers done, tried to rip it out herself and refused to speak to my sister until she took it out. i am seventeen, God only knows what she would do to me. can someone please help me by telling me how to hide a fresh tngue piercing? (i HAVE to speak around her, she's uber religious and makes me pray the rosary everynight. so absolute silence is not an option)
http://www.bodycandy.com/cgi-bin/category.cgi?item=10985
Use a retainer like the one above. More than likely she will eventually find it though. You will probably talk funny until you get used to it.
Make sure to go to a reputable piercer. Although that will probably be hard to find without parental consent.
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okay i'm 16 and i lost 30 pounds but I still have a little of a tummy, so i was thinking of wearing a corset, but i wonder if teens wear them? Im not trying to wear one to be trashy
Don't wear a corset. Lose the weight the old natural way! Corsets are very bad for you, especially if you plan on wearing them in a continuous fashion.
I completely understand your problem though, because I have the same one! My a pair of spanx. I wore a pair on my prom night, and it worked miracles.
Go to ebay, and search "spanx" and then choose a pair!
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hi melody...my name is aaron, aka bigdogdaddy; i read your answer to the girl's question about not knowing how to make love or sex or being lost altogether...granted it's good but what about the consequences if she gets pregnat by him? is she emotionally ready, financially ready...you make it sound like it's a hop and a skip and a jump to happyville....i agree with 90% of your advice but i think you really needed to add about the aftermath if there is an oops involved...
best wishes, take care...
If it came off as a hop and a skip and a jump to happyville, then that was unintentional. Perhaps I should have elaborated more on the consequences.
However I have been on this site for about six years, and I have found the "preachier" someone's advice is, the less likely the person asking the question is to take it. They come off with a response such as "that's not what I asked, rated 1" or "thanks but your not my mom, don't preach to me, rated 1" so nothing gets resolved and I have completely missed the target on reaching them.
I try to get as much information as I can about pregnancy, STD's, etc. out and hope they don't think I am trying to talk them out of sex, as that's not what I am doing. If they are asking about sex, they are more than likely going to have sex. All I can do is give them advice on how to be safe and hope they take it.
If you feel the person should get more advice on the aftermath of sex, such as dealing with a pregnancy, feel free to answer the question yourself as it was asked to the pool and not just myself.
Thanks for your opinion! :)
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excuse me, but my boyfriend and i want to be physically together, but i don't know that much about sex. can i have some advice please?
http://www.coolnurse.com/
Use the cool nurse website as a reference guide to all things sexual. It has some really interesting information and facts about sex and your sexual health in general.
Do you know that the man's sexual organ (the penis) penetrates the female's sexual organ (the vagina) to generate feelings of pleasure & intimacy?
That's what sex is.
There isn't much else to know. If you love your partner & are comfortable with him then it will be a learning experience for both of you. You can discover things about each other & your own bodies that you never knew before & that's what sex SHOULD be about; two consenting people that love each other & want to express it to each other.
Remember to be safe. Go to your health clinic or gynocologist if you have one, to get an examination. They can answer any questions you might have and can make sure you are sexually healthy. Ask about birth control to prevent an unplanned pregnancy, and remember that hormonal birth control can take up to a month to enter your system, so use back up birth control (a condom) to prevent pregnancy that month, and to prevent any sexually transmitted diseases or infections your partner may have.
It's best for him to get an examination done as well if he has ever been sexually active, just to make sure he doesn't have any nasty problems down below :)
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I'm 17 years old and I'm transgender (ftm). I have a really feminine Spanish name right now, but I've been wanting to change it for starting my transition. I was thinking something like Ari, or Adriel, since they both sound like my middle name and they're unisex, which I like. My first name starts with an M, so a unisex name starting with M would be good.
I'd like to change my name to something that sounds nice with Lopez, which is my last name.
If you have any ideas for Spanish/Italian sounding names that would be awesome and they don't even have to start with an A or an M. Thanks in advance (:
Manuella was the name my spanish teacher called me by (my name is Melody). Have you considered Manuel?
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Female. 15. 10th grade.
This is a story back from my years in the Jr. High (7th grade to 9th grade). People think my band director and I had a little bit of a strange relationship. I was close to him, everyone has their favorite teacher. He was mine. He was a sweetheart, he cared about his students but he was stern when he needed to be, he wasn't a pushover. I am now in the Sr. High band which is a lot more difficult due to competitions and all of the practices but one thing my Sr. High band director brings up a lot is how we weren't properly trained in Jr. High, which makes me think of my Jr. High band director. I didn't really think much of the way we acted in Jr. High but looking back on it, our relationship was kinda strange.
-In seventh grade I didn't really care what I looked like, so I wore my hair up a lot. When I started wearing it down and making it look pretty like curling it, my teacher noticed and said I looked different, that it was a nice change.
-If I was late for a class, the teacher would tell me to hurry but they would always ask me to do things for them, I would wind up being late but they would never write me a pass because they warned me to hurry. So, I would walk to the band room and my band director would write them for me. Every time.
-If I wanted to skip a class like gym or something, he would excuse me from the class by telling the teacher I needed to practice my instrument, we had a concert coming up or something.
-One day at sectionals, it was me, my close friend and my band director. He sat next to me on the right and my friend sat next to me on the left, two seats over, so it was him-me-empty seat-her. I kept trying this part that I couldn't get down and once I finally got it, I was really excited so I was like "yea yea! woo!" and accidentally put my hand on his thigh, in excitement. I know it was wrong now, thinking about it, I shouldn't have touched any part of him but it wasn't intentional, like trying to make a move, I was in seventh grade.. gimme a break. But he didn't look shocked nor move my hand, I moved it when I actually realized it was there.
-His office is right in the music suite hallway so he always keeps his door shut to keep the noise of the practicing instruments or chattering kids out. I would go into his office to talk with the door shut and the other kids would look in on us.
-He would know when something was wrong with me, because of the way I acted, I'm usually talkative and happy so he knows when something's up with me and he'd always ask or when I wasn't being myself in band, he'd look at me a lot to notify me that he knows I am not okay.
-He always called me my full first and last name and I would always tell him he can just call me by my first name but he never did. So, one day I said that I am going to start calling him by his first name and I did sometimes and he didn't seem to mind, when we were with other kids, though, he would tell me that his name was Mr. ___
-He had since had his first child when I left for the Sr. High and we had always joked that he was going to have a girl and name her after me and she's going to play the same instrument I do and he joked back he would put her up for adoption if she was ever as talkative as me. He doesn't joke around like that with other kids, especially about his family and such.
-He would be walking out of the band suite and I would be walking in to practice and say hello to him and we'd stop in the hallway and talk for a few minutes.
-He let me sit in on his music classes (if you teach band or orchestra you also teach music class) and sit in on his study halls.
-My mom said a few times "if you had this relationship with any other teacher, I would be worried.
Be completely honest, just don't scold me or yell at me if you think we crossed the line. Do you think we passed the student teacher boundaries? Why do you think that we did or didn't? Maybe he just favored me.. do you think he kinda liked me?
Also, he was 27 when I had him. He let me use my phone, when I had my phone out in his class, he would ask what kind it was and what provider then he would take his out. Everyday at lunch he would come over to my table and ask what I thought about the new songs he was picking out for band and asked what I brought for lunch.
I apologize, I know it's long but you seem like a genuine, honest person and I just need a good answer from someone. I know I was in the wrong for some of these but I didn't look at our relationship as anything more than playful, then. Don't get me wrong, he was a cutie, if he would have made a move, I wouldn't complain.
Thanks again!
I'm glad you think I am honest. I try my best to be when giving advice, so I am going to do the same with you. :)
I try my best to take situations that involve teachers with a grain of salt. Honestly they have it tough. That student-teacher relationship has such a thin line, and what may seem abnormally friendly to one person may seem down right wrong to another. The fact he was 27 when you were in seventh grade makes me think 2 things: One, he probably wasn't attracted to you as you were still very much a child. But two, he shouldn't have had such a close friendship with someone your age anyway.
I plan on teaching after college. I don't know if it will be elementary, middle, or high school, but regardless I plan on teaching. I don't ever plan on getting that close to a student, for the simple fact it raises questions (obviously since you are questioning the relationship now). I don't think he's a total creep. In none of those scenarios did you mention him touching or making any sexual innuendos at you. Most likely he is just one of those men that have an extrememly friendly personality, and as such can occasionally come off as flirty.
You are senior now, so forget about it. Do you like him? It doesn't matter. That was five years ago, and you could never have a relationship with him anyways. You were probably his favorite pupil at the time, but that's over now. Forget it. Teacher/student relationships aren't all black and white. There are plenty of shades of grey. Just put it in the back of your mind, and try not getting so close with an authority figure again.
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i've been with my boyfriend for awhile now. our relationship hasnt always been easy but we always talk and work things out.i love him more than anything and id take a bullet for him any day of the week.people always say that theres no way we can be together through high school and college because people change which i get.is it possible that we could actually last through college and get married?
Being realistic, normally it doesn't happen. But can it? Yes.
I am still with my high school sweetheart, mind you I am only a sophomore in college. It's a pretty good start though, right? In fact, we met in middle school, dated all throughout high school, and have been together two years after senior year so far. Of course, no one can say what the future will hold, but we still love each other as much as we ever have, and have plans on staying together, period.
I am not the same person I was when I was fourteen, and he is not the same person he was when he was sixteen. We have both changed a lot, but have accepted those changes in each other because we knew it was going to happen. That doesn't mean every relationship will be able to handle those changes, but we were lucky.
So don't be discouraged and automatically assume it won't happen. It can. You should just know if it doesn't, that you don't have to be disappointed. It's a normal thing.
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Literally, that's it. I just want somewhere I can get advice on how to get my book picked up by agents or publishers.
Persistence.
Don't give up, & keep giving your work out to publishing companies. It's hard work, but eventually someone will pick it up if it's worth reading. Even Stephenie Meyer had a hard time getting published, and you see what a big success she is now. :)
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I just graduated from college with an education degree and am now uncertain if I want to be a teacher...plus I'm having trouble finding a job anyway. I'm living back at home, while the rest of my friends have either not yet graduated or have found jobs and moved away. I'm trying to decide what to do with my life...I'm only 22 and still looking to have some fun...but at the same time want to utilize my degree. I know grad school is an option, but then I'm really over-qualified if I do decide to become a teacher. What should I do?
You won't be overqualified if you go to grad school if you are wanting to teach K-12. If anything it will give you an upper hand & you will be paid much more.
If you are wanting to be a professor at a post-secondary school, you will have to go to grad school. Either way it's a good idea :)
Just because you have a teaching degree doesn't mean that's what you have to go to grad school for. You can get a Master's in another subject of interest that is in someway related to teaching. That way you have more options.
Good luck!
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why cant 13 year old get a job and 14 year olds can?
The same reason 17 year olds aren't considered adults, but 18 year olds are. The same reason someone 21 can by alcohol but someone 20 can't. The same reason some hotels will only allow someone 25 (but not 24) to rent a hotel room.
There has to be an age limit. If you go down the line of "why someone 13 can't have a job but someone 14 can," eventually there would be no limit at all. If a thirteen year old could get a job, a twelve year old would ask why they can't, and so on and so forth.
So that's why :)
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19/f
I was in a play my freshman year of college. After the play, I hung out with and started having a fling with a guy from the cast...and it was horrible because all he could talk about, even while we were in bed together was how great this woman he'd had an affair with had been and how much he was in love with her still. He and I stopped our fling but being in that play really opened my social doors, I started hanging out the theater people, and I changed my major to theater; so far it's been great and they're like my family now; plus my new boyfriend is a theater major also.
But there's a huge problem because I found out who the woman was that the guy I had the fling with was always raving about...it's a professor from the theater dept, for a class that's required of all theater majors and she's the only professor that teaches it! And even worse...I found out that she knows...because he told her all about me, in lurid detail, and he even told her in very detailed terms how much better of a lover she was for him than I was.
What should I do?
If you love theatre and she is your absolute only option, there isn't much you can do but suck it up and deal with it.
Are you worried because it will simply be awkward? If so, see if she offers an online class. If she doesn't, just pretend you don't know. Pretend you never met the guy, and try your hardest in the class. It's just one semester.
Is this women his teacher? If so she could get in serious trouble because of this, so she will probably be careful not to step out of line. If she is mean to you, grades you harshly, or talks about you to the class or behind your back you can talk to the dean or department head about it. She can't get away with that, and she won't.
Good luck & I sympathize with you!
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Ok well i like this guy...lets call him Kadin. and we are friends like we talk on facebook and go to parties. not together but we talk there. and he is really popular with girls like not as they like him but he has a lot a girls as friends and he is just so cute...and he is super nice that its so hrd to tell if he likes me or not..i just want to know if i should ask him out or not?
Why not? If you like him there is no reason why you shouldn't ask him out. Try doing a group thing first so it's not as awkward. Then try a double date or something, without actually calling it that.
If he seems interested, then ask him out just the two of you. You will never know until you ask!
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I'm an idiot
I've been seeing this girl, and we had sex couple nights ago but unprotected, and I came.
I pulled out straight away afterwards thinking of how stupid I am, and I told her what happened. Thankfully she takes half the blame on herself as well..
Anyway, this was about 2am.. and 12 hours later she went into town and got a pill.
I'm still quite nervous though, she doesn't track her periods so she won't now if she is late or not.
She said she will take a test anyway and I told her to get another pill tomorrow (that would be within the 72 hours still)
what can i do?
You had amazing advice already, I just wanted to add a little to it.
I am assuming the pill you are talking about is the Plan B emergency contraceptive. That's good, and it will significantly lower the chances of a pregnancy. There is also a chance that she wasn't ovulating at the time. You shouldn't automatically assume she is pregnant, because there is a pretty good chance that she isn't.
The best thing I can tell you to do is be there for her this following month. Support her, be there for her, and try not to get to upset until you know for sure. Tell her to take a pregnancy test in about 30 or so days. If it comes back negative, and she still hasn't started in a couple more weeks, tell her to take another one.
Learn from this situation. If you are going to continue seeing this girl, be sure you use condoms everytime, and talk to her about going on the birth control pill.
Good luck!
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17/f, I'm going to a concert with my boyfriend and i want to look SEXY. i need outfit ideas.. I'm horrible with clothes :/ I know it's not a good picture but this is of my body kind of, I'm on the right obviously..http://s103.photobucket.com/albums/m141/gvastola/?action=view¤t=27820_1386718661066_1025012333_3115.jpg I was thinking a low cut top and a pair of cute jeans. any links would be great to sexy shirts. any advice is appreciated. :)
Skinny jeans, fitted tshirt, & flats or flipflops. You don't want to be uncomfortable, especially at a concert.
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I plan on getting a different car. I currently have a 98 Chrysler Sebring Convertible JX. I have $5000 to work with and i want a car under 100K miles. I have been looking at the 2005 Dodge Stratus and I am starting to think more about that car. I also want a 4 door car if that helps. I like the body style of the Grand Prix/Grand Ams but i heard that they have alot of front end problems so i'm not going to go that route. Basically i want a car that will be good in the winter and looks kind of sporty. I'm a girl too if that helps any! Thanks alot everyone!
Sporty & good in the winter generally don't mix. I have a 2000 Grand Am & I love it. It drives good, and we haven't had any serious problems out of it. It has a sporty look to it, but you are right. It is low to the ground, so generally you have to be careful where you drive it.
I recommend this website for you:
www.autotrader.com
There you can type in a whole lot of criteria, and find the car that's right for you!
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I used to give myself brazilian waxes, but have stopped recently. The other day, a lil spot on my vagina mound (the flat surface) was itchy, so I decided to check what it was and I found a black thing, I dont know what to call it, covering my pore, the pore where a hair was meant to grow. And so I just picked it off. I literally just picked it up off my pore. It was a hard and black. I have no idea what it is. I'm hoping someone has had this before and knows what it is. I've had this before but I ignored it. I have it once in a while.
Thank you.
Any ideas or support as I am terrified will be greatly appreciated.
If this is the only problem you have had it's probably an ingrown or infected hair. You can usually tweeze the hair out. If it's persistent, extremely painful (ingrown/infected hairs can be uncomfortable), or you have any other symptoms, see a doctor.
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This was began on the very first day that we met, he looks at me with a sharp eye making my body temperature to a higher level, time went on, now he always keeps throwing glances at me, and always do similar thing that I do, he always try to keep eye contact for longer period, also he becomes stuck when he saw me and completely forget what he is doing and where he is, some times he is looking at me with a open mouth,
he gets angry when I am interacting with other boys, at that time he tries to reject me, only after passing me some hints he becomes normal. If I don't pay attention to him he is always ready to do anything to take my attention to him.
he tries to show me that his taste is similar to me, one or two times he showed me to his brothers also and now they also are friendly with me, and also my friends try to pass me hints about this,
some times I feel that he is a real trouble for me, still I don't have any idea about his behavior, please help me,
please advice me, I want to know what is he trying to tell me, Is he really interested in me or just playing around me, please help me
It's kind of hard to tell with guys. The best way to handle it is just ask him straight up, but only if you are interested. If you aren't interested, you don't have to worry about it. If you are, ask him if he is. Simple, and to the point. That's usually always the best way to handle anything.
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hi, i have to find the cutest way possible to put my hair some way for cheerleading, I'm looking for something that goes on top of your head, needs a huge bow, can be possible for girls with long AND short hair,will last me and my squad thru the ENTIRE basketball game, and is majorly adorable, any suggestions? or a website that i might find what I'm looking for?
THANK YOU SO MUCH 4 UR TIME!
When I was in high school, my squad always wore one of three styles.
1. If we weren't studying, we wore it down with a ribbon wrapped around our hair like a bow.
2. Half up half down with a bow if we weren't doing shoulder stands.
3. All up in a pony with a ribbon.
What you suggested is kind of hard, because a girl with short hair is going to have a difficult time wearing her hair on top of her head. Ponytails are usually the way to go for cheerleading. They work for everyone and you can buy cute hair pieces so even the girls with short hair will have a cute style. Here is a link:
http://www.cheerleaderhairpieces.biz/home_1
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Hey, i jut took the SAT exam on june 5 2010. last week i got the scores and this is what i got
Critical Reading 330 5%
Math 280 2%
Writing 340 7%
Multiple Choice 27 (score range: 20-80)
Essay 9 (score range: 2-12)
- am just wondering if this is good or bad. am a little bit confused.
That all depends on where you want to go to college, what scores they will accept, and what your own person goal was.
Average is usually somewhere in the 500 range for math and reading. Your scores are significantly lower than that. Your essay score is good though.
The great thing about the SAT is you can retake it as many times as you want. There are SAT prep classes you can take, and books you can order to help you study. Don't let your low scores discourage you. You can always try again.
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