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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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im ALWAYS comparing myself to my boyfriends ex girlfriends.. its bugs me so much cause one of the girls has huge boobs and she lets em all hang out and i have like none.. why do i do this? how do i stop helpp =[
Sometimes it's hard not to compare yourself to what you instinctivly want to consider competition. What you have to remember is that you don't have to compete with her.
For one thing, having big boobs is nothing special. Many guys aren't interested in big breasts, and if your boyfriend is, who cares? Obviously it's not that important to him. Letting her breasts hang out isn't cool either. It's sort of trashy. You don't want to be trashy do you?
Just remember that he is with you, not her. So obviously there is something about you that he considers special, and it's something she didn't have. :)
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Which school has a better Pre med program and why? If anybody knows somebody or attends these schools, what does it take to get in? I'd like to be a dermatologist, I'm not seriously in any clubs, im going to cheer, dance and sing all 4 years of high school, i've been cheer captain, highest singing and second highest dance class though, with a cumulative 3.5 gpa my sophmore year. I plan on joining Nu Delta Alpha and NHS for my last two years in high school if this helps.
I don't know anything about Georgetown, but I know a little about UVA. I'll be transfering to the UVA branch in Wise in a couple years. I have also been to UVA a few times to see a kindney specialist. That place is huge by the way!
I am sure both schools are tough to get into, and it's a good thing you are getting a head start on your future. Remember that you are only a sophomore though. You have plenty of time to decide what you want to do and where you want to go, and even change your mind if you'd like. Regardless of where you decide to go, the fact that you have so many extra-curricular activities is a good thing. So keep that up. :)
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This might be long, sorry.
I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 years now. He's really a great guy, comes from a wonderful family, works really hard in college, etc. He's probably the best guy out there. He's really perfect. I don't have anything bad at all to say about him.
Well, I've been cheating on my boyfriend for about a year or year and a half now. All the cheating has been with the same guy so I'm not like a whore or something. My boyfriend has NO idea that I've been seeing this other guy on the side.
Anyway, the problem is that I'm pregnant. I don't want to lose my boyfriend though!
Now, maybe you are asking, "Well, how do you KNOW it isn't your boyfriend's baby? Why not wait until you give birth and then have the baby paternity tested?" Well, because my boyfriend and I had decided to stay virgins until our wedding night. Yeah, in three years we haven't had any sort of sexual relationship. Yes, he thinks I'm a virgin just like him.
I REALLY love my boyfriend though! I want to marry him! I mean, I just feel like I'm totally in the wrong, but I know I'm not. If I tell him about cheating on him and stuff he's going to think I'm a whore. How can I like feel better about this?
You feel like you are totally in the wrong because you are! Questions like this make me sick, because it's women like you that give females a bad name. What you are doing is terrible and inconsiderate. You have been cheating on your boyfriend for MORE THAN A YEAR! To most of society, that does make you a slut. But don't worry, I don't think you are a slut; I just think you are a cold hearted bitch. I am usuallly one of the most compassionate and understanding advice columnists on this site, but what you are doing is disgusting. Rate me a one, it's worth it. You deserve to hear it.
I am going to stop ranting, and give you some advice now. If you loved this boyfriend of yours so much, you wouldn't be cheating on him. You say you plan to marry him? So what? You were just going to start your marriage off while having an affair? That's really genious. *sarcasm*
You are probably right. If you tell your boyfriend you've been cheating on him, he will think you are slut if he's got even half of a brain. But what choice do you have? Being pregnant involves having a baby, so he's going to find out regardless.
First you need to assess your situation. What makes you want to cheat? What is it about this other guy that makes you so intent on having sex with him? If you want to stay with your boyfriend, you are going to have to own up to your terrible mistakes, and take responsibility for what you have done.
More likely than not your boyfriend will probably not talk to you for a long time. Whether or not he decides to come back to you, I have no idea. I am not so sure he would be smart if he did. But who knows? If you are 100 percent sincere in your apology (if you are even sorry, which I am not convinced you are) then he may take you back.
If you don't tell him the truth, and if you don't stop cheating on him, you would definitely confirm what I already think of you. That would obviously mean you have a black hole for a heart.
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About what side bra do you think this girl wears? I'm considering breast implants and i would like to be her size. Can someone throw a random guess out there what side bra you think she wears and how much you think she weighs she's about 5ft tall maybe she is really short. Thanks.
http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/maggies104.jpg
http://i36.photobucket.com/albums/e22/hotsauce_n_spyda_r_fine3/maggies108.jpg
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She's not a D. Her breasts appear larger because she is short. However, there is no way she is a D cup.
Also keep in mind that people don't always wear the correct bra size. A girl with A cup breasts can wear a C cup and say that's what size she is and vice versa. If I had to take a guess, I would say she is in the C range.
And by the way, if this girl doesn't know you are using her pictures, you may want to get permission next time before you put her pictures on a website and have people scrutinize her breasts. :)
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this is probably going to be super long.thanks SO much if you actually read the whole thing.
ok. so, a little background.
I am 19, my boyfriend is also 19. we have been dating for 3 years and want to be with each other..well, forever. we are very committed to each other. I am personally against underage drinking. i have never had a drop of alcohol in my life. i am scared of what i might do while under the influence.. i really don't want to embarrass myself.
My boyfriend has drank with his friends/groups of people before. i dont approve and i've told him that. the way things are..its like, .. him drinking is only something to do behind my back and he has a ton of fun and he likes to do it without me around because he doesnt want me to see what he's like around other people.
He never takes me places, like out with his friends or anything. i am slightly overweight and kinda shy but i always try my hardest to be outgoing and not clinging to him when we go places. i'm getting better, i think.
ok. last year we both went to different schools after graduating high school. he promised over and over and over, i will not drink, i did not drink, i swear, i love you and i'm not lying. i believed him.
today he confessed that he drank every single weekend and alot of the weekdays, for 6 months straight. he also drank 17-18 cans of beer, puked, blacked out, and was driven home by guys who had the same amount of alcohol. and he went to strip clubs but..supposedly just stood in the corner. he swears he didn't cheat....but now i'm not sure what to believe.
i am SO SO relieved that he told me that. he says he's sorry for lying and that he is very glad he got this off of his chest and he feels like we're closer now. which is amazing because we never really have "intimate" talks about really personal stuff.
he wants me to drink with him. (every once in awhile). he wants me to go to parties with him also only every once in awhile. i am afraid to drink. i'm afraid to see how he'll act towards me while he's drunk because i've never been in his presence while he was intoxicated.
my questions are:
*i'm a little ticked off about him lying to me. is that wrong??
*is it THAT bad to encourage you to wait until you're 21 to drink??
*should i consider drinking with him(not getting wasted,only like 1-2 beers)?? i would like to do it but i don't know.
any thoughts or advice about my situation?
THANKS!!
Before I attempt to answer your question, I am going to tell you a story of my own first. I understand your situation more than you could even begin to guess. I have been with my boyfriend (he's 20 & I am 18) for almost four years, and he has recently taken up drinking on Thursday nights with his small group of friends.
I too do not drink, and for a while I was very uncomfortable with him doing it. We fought every single week for around a month because he insisted on drinking, and I insisted on him staying home with me. Before I never cared to let him go out and be with his friends, but when he started drinking, I didn't want him to leave. I had no idea what he was doing and I had no idea how he acted while he was under the influence and that made me very nervous.
Our fighting continued and it felt like we were on a merry-go-round every time we started to argue. He thought his drinking was no big deal because it was just him and his friends and it was a normal thing to do for people his age. I thought it was inconsiderate of him to drink every week when he knew I didn't want him too, and I was terrified that his social drinking was the beginning of a vicious cycle of alcohol abuse.
I didn't want our relationship to end because of something as silly as drinking, but it appeared that if someone didn't bend, then that was exactly what was going to happen. I was so sick of fighting with him every week, and I missed the way our relationship used to be. I eventually realized that I am lucky to have a boyfriend who is willing to tell me the truth, whether I like it or not, and that our biggest problem didn't have to be a problem at all. I told myself that just because my dad is an alcoholic doesn't mean my boyfriend will be. I eventually told him that if doing this was that important, then just do it. I told him not to get plastered, not to drive, and NEVER have girls involved in any way, shape, or form. We compromised, and I am glad. I know he probably drinks when he goes out with his friends, but who am I to say he shouldn't? I am his girlfriend, not his mother. If in the future it becomes a serious problem, then that's something we can deal with then.
Now I realize that our problems aren't 100 percent the same, but similiar enough. You have every right to be ticked off about him lying. However you should be fortunate that he was willing to be honest with you. He should have told you sooner, but it's better late than never.
If you think drinking is wrong before the age of 21, then don't compromise your beliefs. Don't drink because he wants you too. Remember the saying, "If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything." That's very true, so do what you feel is right and what you are comfortable with.
As for your relationship, you have some issues to deal with. First of all, if my boyfriend went to a strip club, I would rip his head off. That is not okay with me, and if it's not okay with you then that's something you need to discuss with him. Let him know that you are not okay with that at all, and if it happens again you WILL leave him. You said you didn't know if he cheated on you or not, and if he has been plastered enough before, he may not know either. That's something you are going to have to get past if you want to continue your relationship with him. In order to be happy, you have to have trust in him, and if you don't then it's time to break up.
As for the drinking, you two should compromise like my boyfriend and I did. If you do not want him to drink anymore, you can't force him to stop. Like I said, we are girlfriends; not mothers. So if you honestly can't get past the drinking, maybe you two just aren't right for each other, and it's time to find a partner that has the same beliefs as you. If you can, set some ground rules. For instance, he can't drink at parties, he can't drink where their will be girls, he can't be drunk in public, and he can't drive. So talk to him about that.
Good luck! :)
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I'm 17/f going into senior year, and really, really stressed, embarassed, sad, disappointed, intimidated, and scared to death. This summer I took on this job that is only 3 days a week but enough to make me go crazy. So, my boss is this crazy, compulsive foreign woman (not that that matters, just giving you a picture). I am absolutely scared to death of her. The jobis at an office and it involves a lot of paperwork. If you make one minor mistake, she'll scream at you, and I mean really scream. Sometimes, I tend to be a very nervous person. I get really jumpy and I'm not very good at working when I'm nervous or under pressure. Things also get to me really easily and I get upset. Lately, I've been very, VERY careful at work to not make even the most minute mistake. The past few times at work, though, she's screamed at me. She's done it in front of my other co-workers who are also around my age. They don't get yelled at because they've been working for a while and are used to the job. And I've really, really been trying. Omg it's soooo soooo embarassing. When I can sense she's about to erupt, I get this terrified hot feeling inside my gut. When she's done yelling at me, I wanna crawl into a ball and die. I always feel like the stupidest person in the world when I'm there and I know the co-workers think I am too. I feel like I'm "that person" who always gets yelled at and I don't want to be. It lowers my self-esteem tenfold. And then afterwards, when I'm sitting at home trying to enjoy my summer, I start thinking about it and it depresses me. Thinking about the place and that woman just scares me to death sometimes. Imagine having extreme embrassment, disappointment, low-self esteem, and fear all rolled into one. I cannot quit because my parents are making me work this summer. I'm trying to find another job but I've been applying to a lot of places and jobs are really hard to get now, i don't think I'll find anything. And plus, I don't wanna just give up. And if you're thinking I should talk to the woman about how I feel, it's out of the question. I'd get fired, she has no sensitivity whatsoever and I would be too scared anyway. Should I be so upset by this? Do you think I'm just overreacting? This is another story but lately, things I would normally just be nervous or anxious about are almost terrifying me. This job is making it worse. I used to be really excited about growing up and going into the real world but now I'm getting pretty scared. I was watching my baby videos the other day and just burst into tears at the fact that I had such a loving, carefree life back then and now it's just the opposite and I can never go back to that again. But, anyway sorry to go kind of off topic. Just please tell me something, anything to make me cheer up. I need it. Thank you
-Jess
You should stand up for yourself in any situation where someone else makes you this uncomfortable. It would be best for you to talk to her. I know you said that talking to her is not an option because she would fire you, but she cannot legally do that. If she does, you can tell your parents and the three of you can talk to her boss.
When you talk to her, let her know first and foremost that you are uncomfortable in your work environment. Let her know that you are trying very hard, and that you do not take well to hateful critisism. Kindly suggest that maybe when she gets the chance, the two of you could review everything the job entails so she can help you with what you have been doing wrong. Try to understand that she is the manager, and if you mess up, then she messes up. If you are working in a stressful work place, just remember that what she is experiencing is probably worse.
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is there a place online you can watch girls gone wild videos for free?
No. Not the actual company videos of "girls gone wild" There is probably definitely some kind of knock off porn that's similar that you can watch for free online, but not the actual "girls gone wild" videos.
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Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?
People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?
I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.
Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned.
It's understandable to be upset. One of your role models just passed away, and it's okay to be upset by his death. My mom was a huge fan as a teenager, as were many people who were teens in the 80's.
I'm not personally devastated by the news, but I do thinks it is very sad. He was a strange man in his last years of life, but that gives no one the right to ridicule him like they did. (Though I probably did at some point in my life).
Maybe he was sick during the trial, and maybe he wasn't. Maybe he did molest those children, and maybe he didn't. What you need to realize is that it doesn't matter now. Nothing does. He's gone, and you will just have to tell yourself he is in a better place now where no one will poke fun at him anymore. Hopefully he's peaceful now.
And honestly if you watch television, you will see that no one is mourning the death of the black man who bleached his skin and was accused of molesting children. Everyone is recognizing the King of Pop. Take comfort in that, and understand that people that have been fans in the past are fans once again after his death. Everyone is celebrating the life of Micheal Jackson, instead of mourning the death.
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18/f
I am going on five days late for my period, Ive been under a great amount of stress from dealing with fincial issues, not to mention his car breaking down and is unable to be repaired that caused me to have to move out of my fiances house and back in with my parents which of whom i just started to begin a relationship with after about a year of not speaking with them. I've been missing my fiance, and i have no car of my own to go and see him he is the only person who has ever expressed care/love towards me. Now we had sex just about every other day of this month because we were trying to get pregnant so i was not using my birth control my mother thought i was on and now with all of this stress he is unsure if he even wants a child which i feel is just him acting out because of all the stress going on, i dont even have enough money to buy a pregnancy test. All of these things are sending me into an emotional spiral, so my question to you is do you think stress is preventing me from having my monthly visit? I know you don't have all the answer but it would be nice just to get some feedback. Thank you in advance.
First of all, I think your fiance is in his right to question whether he wants a child right now. If you have no car, and your financial isssues are so bad that you cannot even afford a pregnancy test, how do you think you will be able to afford going through a pregnancy or ultimately having a baby? My questioning this has absolutely nothing to do with your age. I would say the same thing to a 30 year old if she were in your shoes. Think about that before you decide if a baby is what's right for you right now.
Depending on how long you have been off of your birth control, if your period is five days late there is a good chance you are pregnant. Stress can cause periods to come late, but it's best to get a pregnancy test. Ask your parents for the money. Then get a job. If you want a child and a husband, that's what you need most right now.
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I am turning 16 years old and on my birthday my parents are letting me get a tattoo. I want a quote that is meaningful, inspirational, etc etc I want it to be short but be able to get something out of it. Also along with the quote I would like to be able to have a small picture relating to the quote. Any ideas of good quotes with a picture OR without a picture too. thanks
It's your body, so you should choose what you want. However I would just like to mention that having a quote by itself would be just as, if not more powerful, then having a picture with it. Just an idea.
I really like "Carpe Diem". Someone already mentioned that, but I would just like to say that I really like that idea.
I like Chinese tattoos. You could get the chinese signs for "peace, love, & happiness"
This website has all kinds of short quotes for tattoos:
http://hubpages.com/hub/Tattoo-Ideas-Quotes--Strength--Adversity--Courage
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If you haven't read, or finished reading Breaking Dawn, then please don't read any further. I do not want to spoil anything for someone.
My question, or questions rather, are about Jacob and Renesmee. Let's start with some straight forward facts.
A. Jacob is a shapeshifter, he rapidly aged to about physically 25. As long as he decides to keep phasing, he will not age. So he technically could live forever.
B. Jacob imprints on Renesmee, making her the center of his world.
C. We learn from Nahuel, that Renesmee will take 7 years to grow to about physically age 25, then stop aging. She is immortal, even though she has a beating heart.
Now the questions:
1. Do you think Jacob would stay immortal for Renesmee?
2. Would you like to read about their story, and why?
First of all, Renesme WILL be in love with Jacob as she gets closer to his age. Jacob explained this in Eclipse when he told Bella that even though a person isn't forced to be with the one who imprints on them, they would choose to be with them because no one can refuse that strong of a commitment. When he was explaining Claire's situation to Bella, he told her that Quil would be whatever Claire needed him to be. A babysitter, a big brother, a friend, and eventually a lover.
And yes; Jacob would stay a shape shifter for Renesmee. The reason I say this with certainty is because he has no choice. Imprinting is the strongest of all holds on any two people, and regardless of whether he wants to be a shape shifter or not, he will stay one so he can be with Renesmee. I believe that this was Stephenie's way of giving everyone a happy ending. Though technically there will be no ending assuming they never meet up with the Volturi again.
I don't think that Stephenie will write a book about Jacob and Renesmee; at least not any time soon. And even though I love the saga, I don't think she should write anymore books involving any of the characters. She ended the series perfectly, and she tied up all loose ends. Continuing the story would just drag it out way too long, and Stephenie said this herself on her website. But yes, I would read the story if she wrote it because I love those characters, and I really just wouldn't have a choice in the matter. I would be incomplete if I didn't read all the stories. :)
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okayy so i hung out with my ex and one of my best friends and then we met up with 2 other friends, so it was the 5 of us. it was chill, we talked like friends would talk, nothing serious. he brought up things from the past though like i had my favorite necklace on my mirror in the car and he pointed that out and one of my favorite songs was on the radio so he stopped and let it play saying "oh you love this song" when he doesn't like it. then at the end of the night i didn't feel like getting up so i said to like everyone "can someone give me a piggy back ride to the car" and he gave me one. he's been really chill and i want him back, but i don't want to come on too strong. so my questions are, 1. when should i ask him if he wants to go on vacation with me? (he probably does cause he wants me to teach him how to surf lol) and 2. should i just keep hanging out as his friend or should i hint i still love him? if so, how? thank you soo much..i should seriously be paying you haha.
Consider it a free service from the kindness of my heart :) Lol.
Like I said before, I don't think it's a good idea to go on vacation with him if you two are "just friends."
The fact that he is bringing up things from the past when you guys dated is a good sign though. That means he still thinks about you, and he doesn't have any hard feelings toward your past relationship.
If you are going to ask him to the beach then that's fine, but you have to let him know that you do still have feelings for him. This can't go on like it is, because you are going to end up getting your heart broken. If he is going to go to the beach with you, he needs to be aware that you are still in love with him. It wouldn't be fair to either of you if you didn't tell him.
EDIT: I can't answer a question from the feedback you give me. I have no place to send it to you.
I have told you what I think many times. You should tell him BEFORE you go to the beach. I have told you in past questions that I don't think it's a good idea to go to the beach with him under false pretenses. Apparently you think it's a good idea, and if that's the case then by all means follow your instincts. I have let you know what I think, but obviously we think two different things.
Do what you feel is right if you don't agree with me. :)
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Will jumping on a trampoline everyday help your weight problems? Please and thank you.
Yes.
If you jump long enough and hard enough you will burn calories and develop muscles.
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Hey i see you've had some problems with drugs . i am 15 year old female .can you try helping me out .. This summer i was completely drug free . I satrted hangin with the wrong people to early . I started cutting school ALOT i failed everythign my parents still don't know =/ . Then i started smoking cigarets ,then weed . When that phase was over i started doing ecstasy and now i sniff coke . I am really skinny by nature and drugs are making it worse , the thing is im not sure i want to quit as weird as it sounds . I want to do good in school and family but i just don't want to quit cocaine its something ido for my self , to relax kind off . what do you think ? how should i start of fixing this whole situation ?
I think you may have meant to send this to a certain columnist, but it was sent to the pool so I am going to answer it anyway.
You can start fixing this whole situation by wanting to quit using illegal drugs. But especially cocaine and esctasy. Don't you see that your drug problem is steadily getting worse? You started off smoking weed, and now you are doing hardcore drugs. Addicting drugs that have you hooked, even if you don't want to be. Your body becomes dependent and you have no choice but to use. Do you really want that to be you? Even if in the future you somehow wanted to quit, you may not be able to. Drug dependency is common with cocaine.
You should quit everything right away. There should be no "I will just use once a week until I can quit." Quit now! Quit smoking, quit doing drugs, quit skipping school. I know by experience that it can be done, but it can only be done if you really want it. If you really want to change, I will give you step by step directions on how to get there. Don't even bother reading the rest unless you want to change though. Unfortunately you said yourself that you didn't know if you wanted to quit and until you want to, you can't get help. When you decide you do, read on.
The first thing you need to do is tell yourself you are done screwing up your life. Don't use anymore after reading this. Don't put yourself in situations that will pressure you to use. Stay away from "friends" that do drugs, because I promise they are no friends of yours. They won't be the kind of people you want to hang out with years from now. If you have a genuinely hard time quitting or you experience withdraws, you will have to tell someone you trust; preferably your parents. Withdraws are dangerous, and can be fatal. It's very important that you get help right away if your drug use has become that severe. Your parents can be your support system. They can watch you to make sure you aren't slipping up and possibly get you into an out-patient clinic if you need it.
The next thing you need to do it talk to your teachers at school. Tell them you went through a really bad time in your life, and you genuinely want to change. Ask if there is any extra credit you can do to raise your grades back up. Look into summer school to get you caught back up. You'll have to tell your parents about your grades, but let them know you are really trying to straighten up. I am sure they will understand you.
Cocaine cannot be used as a relaxant for you. It's not healthy. You need to learn healthy techniques to relax your body. This may sound stupid, but look into yoga. I do it, and it's so peaceful and it honestly does work if you do it correctly. You can buy a yoga video from a store, or you can do yoga videos online. Youtube has a channel called "Yogatic" and it has any and all types of yoga you could ever want. Look into it, seriously.
Try taking up a hobby. I love to read, so maybe go to your local library and find some books on a topic that interests you. Start writing in a journal or diary to help release all of your negative energy on paper. After that, go jogging or run in place. Exercise releases endorphins, which is a hormone that makes you naturally happy :) Maybe you can start a sport at school you've been interested in.
Have you ever been interested in any after school activities? Debate team, drama, school government, anything? If you need someone to talk to, ask your parents about taking you to a councelor. They are not psychologists, or psychiatrists, or anything of the sort. They are just there for you. You can tell them anything you want, and they are not allowed to tell anyone anything.
Spend all of your time focused on one thing. In your case, that should be school. Study as much as you can, and throw yourself into your school work. That's the best thing you can do for yourself beside quitting drugs.
I know this all seems very scary, especially telling your parents about your drug use. But I promise after they get past the initial shock of the situation, they will be there for you and they will help you. I wouldn't even be surprised if they already susect your drug use, and just don't want to admit it. You can't do this without them. If you want to get back on track, quit doing drugs. As long as you are on them, you'll stay on the track you are on right now.. that is until you crash. (Pun intended).
Inbox me if you need more help.
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My 17-year-old son, "Seth," is set to go off to college. He is going to a state university about 20 minutes from our home.
When filling out the paperwork for school, I did not sign him up to live on campus. His behavior during his senior year was less than stellar. I felt he needed to prove himself a little before I spent the money for him to live on campus. He's furious with me, and I admit I am second-guessing my decision as I talk to other parents whose kids are all living on campus.
I want my son to be independent. I told him if he did well the first semester he could live there the second semester. Did I do the right thing?
Whether you did the right thing or not is strictly in the eye of the beholder. Not everyone will have the same idea of what is right and what is wrong. Everyone will have a different opinion.
I personally feel you did the right thing, and you should never second guess a big decision you make as a parent. That will give your children a chance to control you and the decisions you make that could ultimately change their lives. If he was not doing well in high school, being in the college atmostphere while living on campus would make things that much worse.
You are spending money for your son's education, not for him to party. The college life can be a big change for some students, and if you don't feel your son will be able to handle that change, you shouldn't risk your money on it. I believe you gave your son a fair ultimatum. If he does well the first semester, then he can live on campus. I think that is more than fair since you are paying. Be sure to let him know that he'll be coming back home if his grades slip though.
He can be independent while living at home. But maybe he's just not ready to "completely leave the nest" yet. He will have plenty of opportunities to be independent. You will have to let him get himself up and ready for college, you will have to let him do his homework without you telling him too, and he'll have to keep his grades up. Let him start being independent at home, and then he'll be even more prepared for when he does finally get to live on campus.
Good luck!
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so i found this song in this video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLpSu5ILhdA
it starts at about 0:53 and stops at 1:26
its the only vid where i could find the song so .. :/
at the end of the vid it says its called 'kolamente' but i checked everywhere and i couldnt find it. could anyone tell me where i can find this song.
If you can't find it on limewire, then find it on google. Type in something like, "kolamente download"
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So next year i am taking english a, accounting, us history a, orchestram algebra 2 a, spanish 4 a, and chem a.. i cant decide wether to drop orchestra and take another math because most of my grade is on the excelerated path and already in precalc or if i should stay in orchestra since i have been doing it since the fourth grade. i am going to be a junior next year and i know its critical for me to do good so i want to take the best classes possible for me to do well in. Should i double in a math? or take another science? or just stay in orchestra.
If you take too many hard classes you may start struggling. You should definitely stay in orchestra if it's something you love. Your class schedule is challenging, so don't make it any more difficult on yourself. Even colleges suggest a balanced schedule so students don't get burned out during the semester. Like someone else said, having orchestra will look great on resumes and on college applications. If it's something you love, keep doing it. :)
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Great. Just great! I needed relief from allergies so I heard about Zicam, and now just imagine what it is like to have had more than one doctor tell you that you don't really have a loss of smell, that your sense of smell and sense of taste isn't damaged or lost at all, but that it is in your head!
So you go to a shrink and of course you know that nobody is ever kicked out of a psychologist's office for being "healthy," so you go there for a year, which is making you feel pointless as a human because nothing works and you can't smell anything... worst of all you can't TASTE anything. :( Then you start hearing all about zicam side effects. About this time you find out that you have no business at a shrink. No business at all because they are YOUR identical zicam side effects!
Ok enough complaining and feeling sorry for myself, so here is the question: Should I get involved in the Zicam class action lawsuit? Do these things ever work out?
Is there anything that can be done to restore my sense of smell? Can the effects of Zicam be reversed? Is there any cure for any kind of loss of senses like the losses that have been experienced here: Loss of sense of smell and a complete and total loss of the sense of taste.
Help!
Thank you!
P.S. Anyone reading this who thinks they have a crappy life, just picture not being able to taste food again for the rest of your life.
First and foremost, you need to relax. Stressing isn't going to make anything better, if anything it will make everything worse. There are many things worse than not being able to smell or taste again. I promise.
You need to go to your doctor. Tell them you are a Zicam user, and you've had this sensory loss for a long time. They can tell you if it's reversible or not, and what you should do from there. This recall of Zicam is new, so research on it is probably new too. You may have to wait to see results one way or another.
As for the lawsuit, contact your lawyer.If you don't have one, get one. They can help you decide if you have a case, and then help you if you do.
I'm sorry about this, but just rememher there are always worse things.
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I'm 17/f and starting to think about where I want my first tattoo. The places I'm considering are my foot, ankle, ribcage and possibly near my hip. I'm planning on becoming a navy nurse and don't want any that are visable in uniform.
I'm worried about fading and which place would have the least ammount. I also don't know if the ribcage option is a good idea if/when I decide to have a kid because I don't want it to stretch with the pregnancy. Thank you.
Christina's right, tattoos probably do stretch with your body. But most guys with tattoos on their arms don't have stretch marks. Pregnant women do. So that is definitely something to think about before getting it. If it's a smaller tattoo, it probably won't be that big of a deal. However if it's going to be a larger tattoo that will take up most of your rib cage, then it will stretch and you may get stretch marks. It may or may not look right after your pregnancy. If you really want a tattoo here, consider waiting until after you have children to make that decision. The way you feel about life, and in return your tattoo, will probably change after you have children anyway.
The ankle should be okay. If you are working you have to think about the pants you will be wearing. Consider if your work uniform will ever involve your ankles showing, and what you will do if that happens. From what I have learned, the foot is not a good place for a tattoo. It's cute, but the coloring fades very easily.
As far as the hip, you could get a tattoo there, but once again you will have to think about stretching. As you get older and/or have children, the hip area gets much bigger and will stretch. So you need to think about that if you decide to get a tattoo there.
Have you considered a lower back tattoo? You shouldn't have any problems at work, because I doubt you would be wearing tops that would show your stomach. So maybe look into that.
The best thing you can do is talk to the person that will be doing your tattoo. Tell them about work, and ask them where the best spot to get one would be. :)
Think long and hard about your decision. It's permanent, so be sure to get one you won't regret when you are an 80 year old woman. Good luck!
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okay..so all summer i've been tanning outside..i usually take my strings off my top peice..cause i dont really want tan lines there..
but i've kinda been thinking about going tanning in a booth..but i really dont wanna pay for that..and since i'm not driving yet..i dont have anyway to get there except my mom..and idk if she would take me. but it's free just tanning outside...
so which would be better?
Neither is good for you. Both cause skin cancer, so either way just be aware of that.
I would suggest you lay in the sun if you are going to do one or the other. In the tanning bed, the UVA & UVB rays are concentrated all over your body, so naturally it's probably worse.
Try Juergens natural glow lotion. It really does work. :)
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