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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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Advice
let me put this simply..
i came out of my shell
and had sex with boys
because people were saying i was lesbian and such.
now im known as a slut
all my boyfreinds seen this porn video that this one guy took advantage of me then showed the world.
and i regret sooo much.
iwant to go back to my old life.
i just want my life back.
i dont want to be hated anymore..
help?
you made a mistake. live up to it. what else can you do? unfortunately for us, time machines have yet to be invented, so just try dealing with it. look on the bright side, high school SUCKS. and you won't be there much longer. also, at least they don't call you a lesbian now, riiight? =)
anyways, you can't go back to your old life. it's impossible. so just try focusing on what's important. education and friends.
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my boyfriend and i had sex on monday night and it didnt hurt when we were doing it but that morning when i went to use the restroom and peed it really hurt it was a burning feeling and when i was peeing i got up and it still kept feeling weird like it was hurting down there. i can't explain the feeling its like i have to go pee but when i do go sit on the toilet i dont have to go its like a feeling i have to go it hurts to down there. today is wednesday and it still keeps hurting. i don't know what is wrong with me i mean what is wrong with me will this every go away because its been two days and its making me cry. someone please help me give me some answers. i have made a doctors appoitment but i have to wait until october 13. to go and that is like two weeks away and i cant not wait that long. someone please help me! Thanks in advance!!!
it sounds like a yeast infection. if you can't wait until the doctors appointment, go by an over-the-counter medicince for the infection. then go to the doctor and be sure to tell them everything. [including the medicine]
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hi
im very young and scared.
I had sex one time with a condom, and then another time i got close to having sex [like we did it for 3 seconds] without a condom and he didnt cum in me, one day i woke up with a stomach ache but i didnt throw up.
And lately i think i gained like a pound or two.
Im really scared but how would I know for sure if I am or not without seeing someone?and by the way , i only got my period 2 times in about a year and a half, so i wouldnt consider myself having my period.
Im very scared and Im so young, please help!
well, wait a month [if it's already been a month take this advice and use it now] and go to get a home pregnancy test. problem solved. what else could you do if you thought you were pregnant?
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i recently got raped by two boys unprotextive.
and now "down there" itches like crazy and instead of discharge there is little black dots in it.
please
14/f
help and my parents hate me i cant talk to them to get help like doctors or anything..
WHAT IS IT??
WHAT DO I DO?
do i have a diesese!?
aids etc.
please help me
i've never heard of the 'little black dot' scenario, so i can't help you out much there. if you were raped, tell an adult you trust. [it doesn't have to be your parents] you're fourteen, so you obviously go to school. try talking to your guidance councelor there. she will help you out.
I can't tell you what it is.
You need to talk to a trusted adult.
You could, & that's why you need to get help from an adult.
hope i helped.
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ok im 13 and im in middle school and there is this kid who is ubsesed with me and he has told me i want to have "IT" whith u!
im not redy for that im 13 yo soo what should i do? im scard he will bad mouth about me if i dont and if i do he will tell everyone and then ill be called a slut so what should i do? :(
he'll call you a slut if you do have sex with him, not if you don't. people are going to talk, and you have to learn to ignore them. you said you don't want to have sex, and if you do, you are going to regret it SO bad it's not even funny. ignore him.
you obviously aren't ready to have sex. you aren't mature enough emotionally or physically. for example, you referred to sex as 'it'. why would you want to have 'it' if you are to scared to even say the word sex. also, it's 'obsessed' not 'ubsessed' and it's 'ready' not 'redy'.
see my point? just don't do it. let him talk.
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after i have had sex with my ex why does she walk all funny
because having sex stretches your skin. think about it, you're gonna be pretty damn sore.
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hi i was wondering how you give a girl head. i usually just kinda lick her vagina, but am i supposed to stick my tongue way up in there? also, am i supposed to pull at the skin with my lips? do you get head after or before you have sex? finally, what are some good, non-messy masturbation techniques for both guys and girls...do you have any personal favorites? thanks.
i've been getting a lot of sex questions lately. good thing it's my specialty :]
you don't really have to stick your tongue all the way up there, my boyfriend usually just flicks my clitoris with his tongue, and i love it.
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i was wondering what some good masturbation techniques were for girls... i usually just rub my lips with my finger or a dildo, but is there anything else i can do? what do you do?
i actually don't really masturbate often. weird i know, but true.
try rubbing your clitoris. that usualy makes girls get off. other than that, idk?
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hi i was how you give head to your bf when having sex...i'm not sure what to do after sticking his penis in my mouth. i've tried biting it a little and he seems to like it a little bit. what do YOU do? any suggestions? thx
well, hmm.
i can't say that i've ever bit him, that's a little kinky, though ;)
when i give head, i don't just suck it. i kiss it, lick it, literally the suck the tip of it, and flick the underside of his penis with my tongue. that's about it.
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i've been best friends with this guy for 7 years now. we've liked each other on & off for the past 2 years, but never at the same time. but now, we finally like each other at the same time & it feels a little awkward. we both really want to take it to the next level, but aren't sure how to go about doing so.. we've kissed a few times & he's fingered me twice. we really want to have sex but he won't ask me to be his girlfriend for some reason, & i don't have sex with anyone i'm in not in a relationship with.
please help. i love him so much [as a friend, for now, at least], & i really would like to call him mine. i don't know what to do, help me. :[
explain to him that you aren't going to have sex with him until he's ready to make a commitment. sex is a big deal, and it can't be taken lightly. if you both want to have sex, explain to him that you won't do it until he's sure he wants to be with you. if you are willing to have sex with him, you need to be willing to date him. that simple.
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i'm 15/m and i don't have a gf or anything but i have these unbearable cravings for sex...do you know of any ways to satisfy these?
thanks in advance
jim - houston
masturbation. when you get horny, masturbate. it's the best thing in the world to get rid of these cravings you're feeling. if you don't want to satify these wants by doing anything sexual, try doing things to keep your mind off of sex or anything sex related. play a game, get on the computer, exercise, whatever.
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hi my name's sara i'm 15
me and my bf have been having sex for a while now and its starting to get boring almost. we have run out of ideas on how to do it and i was wondering:
a) do you have any positions that you recommend that are fun or any of your personal favorites?
b) what do you do to spice up your sex?
thx a lot!
the best thing i can tell you to do is go to wikipedia.com & type in "sex positions" the results you will get are unbelievable! trust me, it will help you out way more than i ever could.
a) one of my personal favorites is being on the bottom. this may sound boring, but if you put your leg on his shoulder, it hits just the right spot and it's amazing!
b) when my boyfriend and i have sex regulary, i will admit it gets a little routine. what we do when this starts happening, it fooling around some days instead of having sex at all. oral sex, mutual masturbation, fondling, whatever. it's amazing because you get really horny and want to have sex, but if you keep yourself from trying, it gets very.. interesting.
=)
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hey well ive been kinda thinking about doin it with my bf but idk. after he sticks it in what do u do
you don't do anything?
after he puts his penis in you, you go. simple as that. what else would there be to do?
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ok well this is gonna get complicated. me and my bf from camp made out. then after a couple of days i gave him a bj but then when ppl found out i told them i didnt want to..i started to believe it myself and the story rly got mixed up. i mean of course now i no it was so stupid and i no i shouldnt hav but at that very moment i was feelin a weird vibe like if i didnt we would brake up. do u think next yr we should go out again even tho we hated eachother for a while cus we got in so much trouble? thx! btw im 13
if you still like him, don't break up with him to begin with. if you already have, get back together with him if you want to. who cares if you got in trouble? if you wanted to do it at the time, you should have. if you didn't want to, you shouldn't have. but that's something private that not everyone needs to know about. so next time something like this happens, keep it to yourself and tell your boyfriend to do the same.
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ok well me and my boyfriend had sex but i have my period now so im pretty sure im not pregnant and it was protected sex..but i was just wondeirng people tlel me different stories but can you be pregnant even if u get your period?
there have been cases where pregnant people still got their period, but it's very unlikely. especially if you used protection.
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13/f
My uncle had aid's, he was gay. he died before i was born. I had sex with this guy about 3 weeks ago. he used a condom. but then like 2 weeks ago we were in my bed and he was fingering me but then i think he might have put soemthing in there that wasnt his fingers (his dick) i am not sure though but as soon as i felt it i was afraid so i made him take it out and he said "what baby i was just fingering you" so i dont know but could i have std's or could i have given him std's?
i think you're just paranoid. maybe he used to fingers instead of one, & that's why you thought he stuck his penis in you. but it really doesn't matter if it was his penis or not, because you said your uncle had aids, not you. btw; being gay has nothing to do with aids.
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What color shoes do you wear with a turquoise dress or shirt? What color leggings do you wear with this also?
when it doubt, wear black.
black leggings & black shoes would be totally adorable with any top that is turquoise.
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what are some symptons of getting herpes on the mouth? cause i gave head like 2 weeks ago and a few days ago i got a cold sore and then yesterday i got another one and it was like a blister but on the mouth and also smaller though..
usually with oral herpes, symptoms start appearing anywhere from 2-14 days after being exposed. if you are having symtoms now, and you gave a boy oral sex a few days ago, these symptoms would start appearing about this time, so it's a possibility that you may have it.
through the duration of sickness, symtoms usually last about 2-3 weeks. you may experience a fever, tiredness, muscle aches, & irritability. pain, burning, tingling, or itching may occur where your sores are. the blisters appear in clusters, and are seen as usually being gray ulcers on a red base. later on, they become crusted and yellow.
these blisters can occur on your lips, gums, tongue, throat, the insides of your cheeks, and can lead all the way down to your chin or neck.
in teens, herpes can cause a painful throat with ulcers and gray coatings on tonsils.
want any more information? ask me.
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So basically I woke up this morning at 3:50 am && i threw up. && also this morning at 6 && 7 am.
This is the first time i have felt sick like this. I had sex a few weeks back && also on Thursday. I was wondering if you are pregnant && you have morning sickness, does it come day after day or just once && that's it, because i really doubt that i am pregnant but waking up throwing up this morning really scared me. Can someone help please.
P.s. i haven't had any other pregnancy "symptoms"
&& this is the first time i have thrown up like that.
Precum can get your pregnant, and you could be. I'm pretty sure pregnancy symtoms don't start that eary though, so maybe it's just a virus. wait for your next period, if it's late, take a home pregnancy test. if it's not, problem solved. =]
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my brother needs help talking to a girl and hiw to ask a gurl out because he is scared he will act like a dork please help
thank you write back as soon as possible bye
tell him the best thing to do is just straight up ask her out. maybe try a group date or something first so it won't seem as weird. tell him to get one of his friends and a date and then just ask if she wants to hang out with you guys. go bowling, go to a movie, to eat, whatever. it doesn't really matter. the smartest thing to do while on the date, is to relax and treat her just like another person [only one he tends to be very drawn to] and then he won't seem as shy or as you say, dorky. After the group date, tell him to ask her if she had fun, & if she did, if she would like to go out with just the two of them.. do you see where i'm going with this? hope so.
but if you need any further help, assistance, or guidance just leave me another :]
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