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Q: i was very very deeply hurt by a person 4 years back ,i have no contact with him for past 2 years,but now i heard that he got ms orthopaedics in good college,on hearing this i felt jealousy and unhappy,sad.i am 25 years old.i am from india.i am doing md community medicine .initially i was content with my career but now i felt discontent by comparing with him like that he will earn more money,he will get more recognition,approval than me.need advice
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I totally hear where you're coming from.
You can't let this guy get to you. He may be in some "well-known," prestigious college, but he could be at the bottom of his class. You, in what could be a slightly easier program or less well-known college, have the opportunity to excel. It's entirely possible that you'll get a better education, and be a better doctor.
Regardless, don't compare yourself to him. You're two different people headed down different paths in life. You're free of him - you no longer have to feel hurt by him, so don't let his place in life cause you pain.
I know, easier said than done. On some level, you have to trust that those who harm others will pay. Karma, or whatever you believe in, will come back to bite this person at some point in the future. Hopefully you'll get to hear about it, but have a little faith.
As for the recognition/approval issue, the people who really matter and who love you WILL approve. You can make your own recognition in your field by being truly passionate about what you do, and being good at it. Trust me. You don't have to go to the best medical school in the country to be a good doctor or be recognized. Have a little faith in yourself!
Things will work out. He'll get his comeuppance, and you'll excel. In the meantime, relax and enjoy yourself. Don't worry so much about what's going on with people who don't belong in your life.
Siren
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I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.
I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.
I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.
Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.
***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***
If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.
I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.
Siren
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