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feeling jealousy and discontent
i was very very deeply hurt by a person 4 years back ,i have no contact with him for past 2 years,but now i heard that he got ms orthopaedics in good college,on hearing this i felt jealousy and unhappy,sad.i am 25 years old.i am from india.i am doing md community medicine .initially i was content with my career but now i felt discontent by comparing with him like that he will earn more money,he will get more recognition,approval than me.need advice
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I totally hear where you're coming from.
You can't let this guy get to you. He may be in some "well-known," prestigious college, but he could be at the bottom of his class. You, in what could be a slightly easier program or less well-known college, have the opportunity to excel. It's entirely possible that you'll get a better education, and be a better doctor.
Regardless, don't compare yourself to him. You're two different people headed down different paths in life. You're free of him - you no longer have to feel hurt by him, so don't let his place in life cause you pain.
I know, easier said than done. On some level, you have to trust that those who harm others will pay. Karma, or whatever you believe in, will come back to bite this person at some point in the future. Hopefully you'll get to hear about it, but have a little faith.
As for the recognition/approval issue, the people who really matter and who love you WILL approve. You can make your own recognition in your field by being truly passionate about what you do, and being good at it. Trust me. You don't have to go to the best medical school in the country to be a good doctor or be recognized. Have a little faith in yourself!
Things will work out. He'll get his comeuppance, and you'll excel. In the meantime, relax and enjoy yourself. Don't worry so much about what's going on with people who don't belong in your life.
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I know what that's like. I hear about people I used to be friends with and what they are doing with their lives, and it makes me feel sad sometimes. I begin to think that they are so accomplished, but when I think that way, I forget about all the things I have achieved. Having a certain job does not mean that person is happier than you are. It simply means they have that particular job. Even if they are actually happy with their life, find the courage to accept that the person is happy. I used to wish some of my former friends would have an unhappy life without me, but that just made me bitter. Now, I either don't care what they are doing with their lives or I want them to be happy. Wanting others to be happy, will make you feel more at peace with yourself.
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