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Q: Ive been a cutter for nearly a year and my parents found out last month.Im still cutting and going to therapy.if anything its gotten worse and i dont want to stop but i want my privelages back.i know youll all probably say just stop and thats so bad for you but it helps me a lot.how can i convince my parents to trust me again and let me continue becouse it helps me deal with life?
I know this isn't what you wanna hear, but it isn't helping you deal with life, it's doing the complete opposite and giving you a way of escaping life, and ignoring it. Taking your pain out on yourself is NOT facing your problems.

If your parents love you (and clearly they do), they will NOT let you continue to cut, no matter what. If your parents were on drugs, would you let them continue to use because they said it made them feel good? If your parents liked burning themselves or putting their hands in a fire because the burning sensation gave them a rush, would you sit back & watch? I doubt you would, because no one wants to see a loved one in pain. You can't ask your parents to do that.

Like I said, I know this isn't what you want to hear but you'll thank them eventually. Until that time comes, I hope you get better soon & find other ways to deal with your emotions. Give the therapy a chance to help, don't just dismiss it. One thing they might help you with is channeling that pain & frustration & motivation to hurt yourself into something productive that will make you feel good about yourself (e.g. painting, competing in a sport, playing an instrument, etc). Not only will you be doing something to distract yourself from cutting, but you'll be actively relieving some pain & hopefully reduce the urge to even want to cut.

i dont think you relize that i am letting my parents do things that would hurt them and ruin everything(drugs) thanks for the advice!

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