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We are currently living together. We both have full time jobs, and I go to school fulltime for Nursing. Well, I work 10 hours a day, and he works the typical 8 hours.
The problem is my fiance is so lazy!
WE've been living together for almost 10 months and he never cleans. If he does I have to ask him to do things, for example:
I have a dry erase board on our wall in our bedroom, and I'll leave him messages before I go to work telling him what needs to be done when I get home.
(I work 8am-6pm && he works 8pm-5am && he sleeps ti'll about 2:30pm---He works at a factory and I work at a daycare with toddlers)
Well when I get home, NONE OF IT IS DONE. So I end up doing it. I've got to the point to where I'll clean up after myself, but not him; and it kills me because it'll be weeks before he even touches it. Matter of fact, there is laundry that has been in the hamper for almost a month!!!
It's driving me insane. I told him how I feel like we both should be putting in effort equally, and I'm not his mother, so he shouldn't rely for me to pick up after him; but he still doesn't!
He is an adult, and yet he is so messy! When I get home from work he is on his video game, and when I ask 'how come you didn't pick up the house' his reply is, 'idk, i forgot'.
Ugh! I shouldn't have to ask him to do any of this; if its messy, he should just pick it up. Like dishes, he leaves them in the sink- I, on the otherhand, I do them as I mess them up; he never does his dishes!
what do I do? (link)
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You need to inforce how you feel about it. agreed you are not his mother. and it is normal to leave stuff for a while. but leaving dishes and dirty laundry for a month is discusting. tell him. if you two are going to get married this has to change. you are not his mother nor will you be. Tell him you have talked to him. let him be. but make it clear to him. you will not allow this to continue. It's either the mess or you. Don't worry he will pickyou
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