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From a legal standpoint, not in most states, no. 16 and up is typically the age of consent. Any younger than the legal age of consent means, even if your partner is the same age, you could be charged with statutory rape (as in, raping each other).
13 is far too young to be making the kind of life-altering decision that is losing your virginity. If you don't use the right protection, you could end up pregnant, and that's a whole 'nother situation. A few minutes of intimacy is not worth a lifetime of having a baby you weren't ready for, having to go through an abortion, or having to put a child up for adoption.
I lost my virginity to my high school sweetheart. I was sixteen. I have no regrets, but I also no longer have the luxury of telling a new boyfriend that he's not the only one, or only the second one, that I've been with, and that the first guy was just a mistake. Of course, I would never be able to be with someone who required that of me. Compatibility is important, as is trust. Having sex the first time hurts a LOT unless your hymen is already broken - and believe me, you'd know. I had been playing sports, riding horses, using tampons, and all that, before I had sex, and it wasn't. Anyway, you want to have someone who really cares about you to share that special moment with. At 13, no matter how mature you are or he seems, I doubt that's the case.
At 13, you're going through lots of changes. The boys around you are also going through changes. They (and you) are going to want to experiment. When you're LEGALLY old enough, if you're okay with the possibility that you won't be the last girl that he sleeps with (and no matter how much you may think otherwise, it's unlikely), go for it.
If you're really in love, and that's really what you want with one another, BE SAFE. Use a condom, use birth control. Get on the pill. More than anything, don't ever let him pressure you to have sex if you're not ready.
If you have any hesitations at all, say no. If he really loves you, he'll wait until you're ready.
Siren
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