I'd like to add to Adviceman and Zane's responses. One thing I want to mention is that no matter what you stick up there to try to break your hymen, that's what you're doing: breaking your hymen - tearing a thin piece of skin in there. Chances are it's going to hurt. You might even bleed a little. You might bleed a lot. It varies from person to person, but unless you find yourself bleeding more than you would for a period, it's all perfectly normal. I remember being almost in tears my first time (which was when my hymen was broken).

Also, if you've tried with your fingers and found them too short, chances are you won't hurt yourself or accidentally pop it until you have sex or use a vibrator/dildo. You may actually find that difficult, depending on how thick that piece of skin is. Just know that it isn't necessary for your goals.

Good for you, though, for looking to do it on your own rather than just boy-hunting.

Siren

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I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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