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Me and my boyfriend try to have a baby, but a lot of my friends have baby's and they tell me if my boyfriend have a low amount of sperms i can not get pregnet.... :-(
how i know if my boyfriend have a good amount of sperm to get me pregnet?????? (link)
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Without going to a doctor you have no idea if the infertility problem is part of your partner's sperm count, something wrong with you reproductive organs, or something both of you two are having issues with.
You absolutely need to talk with your doctor about this.
If you have been trying to conceive for one full year and haven't been successful yet then you will be thrown into the infertile category. From there the doctor can evaluate your body (and your partner's) and look for things that may be damaged or experiencing problems.
Your partner COULD have a low sperm count. It's entirely possible. The only way to find out is for him to give a fresh sample to a doctor in an infertility clinic so that they can put it under a microscope and count the little guys.
Your partner should be ejaculating about 40 million sperm in about 2ml of fluid. 75% of those sperm need to be actively alive. 30% of those should be of normal shape and form. 25% of those should be propelling themselves forward rapidly. Overall, 50% of the sperm should be moving forward, even at a slow pace.
So, as you can see...this is really something a doctor needs to check out ;)
The odds of the reason you're not conceiving is actually about 50% yours, believe it or not. Only about 50% of couples who are infertile are such because of the male. So, you have just as much to be concerned about in regards to your own body.
There are lots of things that cause infertility, including poor health and drug use. If you've ever had any form of STD then you may even have your fallopian tubes damaged or impacted to where they are blocked and won't allow the egg to travel down. You could have scar tissue in your uterus from periods that came too close together and too long, fibroids that have grown in the uterus, cysts on the ovaries that are preventing proper ovulation, etc. If you've ever taken the morning after pill, birth control pills, or had any sort of medical procedure on your reproductive parts then things may be having trouble getting back to normal.
To find out if you are actually ovulating you can purchase over the counter ovulation predictor kits from various stores and pharmacies. You should take them for a full 6 months (which kind of turns out to be pricey but very worth it) so that you know how frequently you ovulate and when that is. It will help you conceive or help you figure out that you are: ovulating on time, too frequently, less than the normal amount, never ovulating, ovulating too late, etc.
If you are leading an unhealthy lifestyle, eating poorly, engaging in harmful activities such as smoking or drinking, or are under a lot of stress then now is the time to make those proper changes. While you are young your body does have a chance to heal and repair. As you grow older things are more likely to remain stagnant and dysfunctional. The longer you lead an unhealthy lifestyle, the more odds the damage won't be reversible.
So, talk with you doctor. Pick up some home ovulation tests. Track your menstrual cycles and ovulation cycles as per the tests. Change your lifestyle if needed. Try not to worry too much.
Your doctor may be able to offer other methods to help you conceive in the future if you are found to be infertile and they can figure out what the root cause is. For example, if you rarely ovulate they can prescribe a pill that can help your body to do what it should be doing each month and release an egg.
Lastly, all hope is never lost. I've read multiple stories about women who have tried to make babies for 10 years or more and were never successful. They gave up and just coped with the fact that they were infertile. Some 10+ years down the line they miss a period and wind up pregnant. Miracles happen and you should always look at the bright side and hope for the best.
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Thank you very much for your replay.... well i saw more then 5 Dr. with my boyfriend, and all tell us the same that we are ok and to keep trying... about the ovulation tests yes i have i will start my 3th month..(not 6 months) i will do it every month.. and about Dr to give me some to help my body...NO that is what he say because i am only 28 i should not take it...so that only think what i can do is keep hoping and praying!! :-)
we want so bad a baby that i tink we stress to much i think we need to relax and just stop thinking about it! :-)
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