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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.
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Well i've been with my boyfriend for four years, and i'm one of those girls who no matter how many times i hear that porn is okay i can't get it through my head and it still hurts, well i had learned to accept it as long as he did it when we weren't going to have sex, but i recently found out he does it like after or before we have sex i asked him not to because it bothers me and i caught him again, and after a while he admitted he had a problem and was addicted and was going to seek help, so i stumbled upon porn filters and i mentioned it to him and he said he wouldn't mind but i don't know how porn works with guys, will this cause him to want to do others girls now that he can't wack it to just the thought of others? cause i always researched how to accept your guy looking at porn and they always said " you should be happy he's trying to control it not doing the real thing" hes always looked at porn so i don't know what problems it's going to cause if i apply this filter. What do you think?
If you've been with your boyfriend for 4 years, I honestly think he's commited to you, if he watches pron or not. Watching porn isn't going to make someone unfaithful or cheat. He just might want it from you more, haha. He could be saying he's fine with the filters, but he really might not be. Talk to him about it once more so you know for sure its okay. I can imagine how your feeling, I wouldn't be comfortable with it either. He needs to understand that too if he's going to continue to be a good boyfriend.
Let me know how this all works out in another Inbox. Good Luck Sweetie!
(Rating: 5) Yeah, well i have tried talking to him about it he says its fine and he does that cause he needs help and he loves me but a lot of people answered in other websites where i asked this question that he will find a way around it or go behind my back and bypass it just tell me what i wanna hear, and i just don't know what to believe:( i don't know if he's lying telling the truth or what its driving me nuts:( Some people say most guys watch porn some say all some say half and some say i will never find a guy who doesnt some say to leave him some say its normal its just so confusing! i believe it's wrong though.