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I am fifteen years old and all of my friends get their periods every month like no problem. some of my friends are irregular. irregular as in 4 months maybe? but not one year. yep that's me. i've ever only gotten my period twice. once a year. january 2009, i got it for the first time when i was 13. i hadn't gotten it in a year and then january 2010 i got it for a week. now it's december 2010 and i haven't gotten it ever since.. my boyfriend and i want to start having sex and we will use condoms and pull out but im soooo scared of becoming pregnant. it's so bad. like if i see that precum went through his shorts while dry humping i freakk out. can pre cum get you pregnant? also, even though my period is so irregular do i have just amount the chance of getting preg as everyone else? or am i infertile? my mom won't let me go on birth control.. i also hear it makes people gain weight like crazy and i love my body. so, can someone help me out? (link)
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You aren't likely to be infertile.
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome tends to cause ovulation problems. The egg is only released every once in awhile because of a hormonal imbalance that affects cyst growth on ovaries. It usually isn't too alarming in young women, and, at fifteen, you likely don't have that.
There could very well be a hormonal imbalance that is preventing your uterine lining to be shed properly. This doesn't mean your eggs aren't released and that you can't get pregnant though. It just would mean the tissue in your womb isn't as healthy or renewed as another woman's. Sometimes this is associated with endometriosis or uterine fibroids--both which are treatable.
If you're underweight or have a relatively low weight. The body doesn't send a signal if you are lacking the proper amount of bodyfat. A lot of 15 year olds are too thin for their bodies to ovulate properly. A typical woman should have about 20% to 25% body fat to be considered healthy. Anything lower than about 15-17% body fat you may notice a lack of menstruation because hormonal functions cease.
Not ovulating every month doesn't really mean you're infertile. It means the chances of pregnancy to occur are lowered, but not nonexistent. Unfortunately, we can't even say that ovulation is your problem. You may be ovulating just fine but just not shedding uterine lining as you should be.
Heck, there are PLENTY of women who have TRIED to get pregnant for 10+ years and then, magically, they wind up with a bundle of joy on the way. The female reproductive organs are funny like that.
You should really get checked out by a doctor for this. If it's gone on for 2 years then you may have a hormonal problem that is easily treatable and can cause your cycles to come more regularly. Not shedding uterine lining is really not good, actually. You won't die or anything, of course, but it isn't really good for the body. We'd meant to shed that each month if we aren't pregnant.
Birth control pills should only make a person gain about 10lbs, on average, if any. Some women end up losing weight (I did). Others end up staying a stable weight (my friend did). And others gain up to about 10lbs. No big deal, and with proper diet and exercise you can keep that weight from being packed on in the first place.
Yes, you can get pregnant from precum. While a full ejaculation can contain as many as 100 million sperm at a time, the sperm count within pre-ejaculate can be as many as a few million. It takes one to get your pregnant. If you vagina doesn't come in contact with the pre-ejaculatory fluid on your boyfriends pants then it isn't even a concern of pregnancy, really.
It's time to see a doctor. There is a misconception that women should wait until age 18 or until they start having sex to see a gynecologist. This is wrong. A woman should have a yearly check-up once she begins menstruating. It helps to keep up on things in the early stages. It helps to make sure hormonal balances are kept and that everything is healthy. See if your mother will let you talk to a doctor about the missing cycles. Something is going on inside of you. It isn't normal to go so many months without a period.
ANY time ANY woman misses a period for 3 months or longer it is time to see a doctor. It doesn't matter if you're a virgin or not, young or old, black or white. It's time to get this checked out.
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if there was a 6, i'd rate you that. best advice ever. so useful. thanks girl
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