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The first time giving my boyfriend a blowjob, I got awkward & stopped for a few seconds. For those few seconds he began to move his penis back & forth with his hand. Like kind of shaking it. Do you know why he would of done that? Did I do the whole "blue balls" thing on accident, or what? I just want to know for future refrence. (link)
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The truth is, it probably just felt good. You stopped mid-sex-act and he wanted to remain aroused so that you could finish doing what you were doing when you were ready again.
When the girl stops it can be a turn-off. If a guy focuses on, "The girl doesn't want to continue?! What is going on?! Why did she stop?!" then things can go soft. Staying aroused is obviously important if the girl is going to finish doing what she was doing in just a moment.
And sometimes guys do things like that just because it felt good at the time. Maybe it's just what he does when he's to a certain point. Just because you pulled away for a moment doesn't mean his entire sexual desire disappeared and his genitals are no longer present. He's still turned on and still wants to get off.
"Blue balls" is going to happen if he doesn't get off. The ejaculatory fluid will begin to move forward to be released and, then, suddenly, the arousal period is stopped (girl pulls away, something happens, someone stops doing something, etc.) The genitals go soft and the ejaculate cannot be released, forcing it to slide back into holding. The body then absorbs that excess fluid that was going to be released. Things are then, of course, a little sore for a short period of time until the body handles what it needs to handle and reabsorbs some of that fluid. If he "finished" in the end then chances of him having "blue balls" was fairly slim. "Blue balls" is, simply, when the guy doesn't get off during a sex act session.
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