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Okay, so I am 18f. When I was about 4 I had brain bleeds and because of this, when I was 17 I started having minor epilepsy. I would just blank out for about 10 seconds and basically I was staring into space for a moment. Now, because of this I have had brain surgery over a month ago, I am completely fine now. Heres my problem, I used to drive and one time I fell asleep at the wheel and now my mom is all like "you had a seizure and drove into the ditch" which is completely untrue. You are probly asking "how do you know?", but I know because before when I had seizures, I would get a feeling that one was coming on and then it would pass. I was seriously tired that day and I was just about to pull over when I fell asleep a second too soon. My mom doesn't believe me when I tell her the truth all the time, she just assumes what she wants. Then, I had my vehicle and I was driving on a grid road, the axle broke on me, and I rolled three times into the ditch and landed on the roof, I swear there was nothing I could do... thud the wheel just dropped and I was screwed. No, I didn't get hurt, I came out with not even a scratch. Now, I want another vehicle and my mom won't even let me buy my own. I have a broken foot and it would be convenient to have one, plus I would like to drive to see my boyfriend on weekends and be able to do things independantly and not have to ask to be driven somewhere all the time again. I always think that my mother just sees me as a medical statistic and never a person. Its been this way my whole life. How can I convince her that I am completely fine and a vehicle would help me get around easier?
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Your mother won't let you purchase a vehicle?
Do you actually have the money--your OWN money--to buy it?
If not, then it's REALLY her financial situation.
If you've recently had a seizure or the doctor's found bleeding in the brain and that's why they did the recent surgery then, chances are, it's probably illegal for you to drive right now. Many epileptic people are unable to drive because you never know if some day you won't have that before signal.
I knew a guy in high school. His mother was our art teacher, actually. He was her only child. He was in good health. He had had seizures when he was a child but not in SO many years. One night he was driving to the hospital to work (he was a male nurse) and he had a random seizure. During it, he hit the gas and drove his car into an oncoming truck. He died that night.
This is a really serious matter. I know you want independence. I know you want to drive. What you say is not logical though.
With a broken foot--even if it's your left foot--you are impaired. Most people with a broke foot or leg are completely unable to drive until it heals.
You are not a medical statistic. You are a person. That's why people want to keep you safe. You aren't a lab rat. You're somebody's daughter. Somebody loves you. They want you safe.
Give it time.
If you must, have your mother take you to the DMV and explain the situation. I'd bet money they'd tell you that you were not legally allowed to drive right now. When my mother's best friend had brain surgery (she had a tumor) she was not allowed to operate a vehicle or any machine equipment for quite some time. It's just the rules to keep EVERYBODY safe. It's fair that way.
Your mother just cares about you. Really. Let your body heal. Give it some time. You've already had two accidents and you're still young. She doesn't want you to keep risking your life. So what if it takes another year before you can drive again, right? If you live until you're 70 then 1 year isn't anything, especially when it entails having to drive a vehicle around all over the place.
Relax. Take a deep breath. Everything is OK. Nobody is treating you unfairly. They just love you.
Give them some time. Give you some time. Give you body some time to heal.
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I have been driving legally for over two years already and the doctors say I am fine to drive even now. Also, yes I have my own money to buy a vehicle. I just think that sometimes, people can care too much
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