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Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
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Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
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(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
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'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months. It was completely fine. But I did end up liking another guy. I didn't let that get to me because I know that happens sometimes and I'd rather be with my bf. He is the best to me and actually cares.
But one of my friends, who is one of his friends is really close with me. We talk all the time. He tells me what a horrible boyfriend I have because he doesn't talk to me as much as he did before and that he treats me better than my own boyfriend. Honestly, he is a good friend and all, but its killing me because in a way the things he says is true but I don't want to leave him.
Recently I found out my boyfriend likes another girl too. My friend that I talk to all the time told me. I listened in on the conversation, so it's not like he's lying about it. But I know he doesn't want to get with that girl and he wants to stay with me. I didn't let it get to me since I like another guy. But I started thinking about it and now I kinda feel really hurt. I've been doubting us for a long time and I guess I just tell myself he doesn't care for me anymore because there is someone else.
My friend told me I should break up with him. I'm moving in the summer so it's gonna happen eventually but I don't want to. I really care about him and he swears he loves me. He really proved himself but now I'm so confused.
Maybe I should talk to him?
I would but I'm not even supposed to know he likes another girl.
Please help, thanks! (link)
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First of all, no you shouldn't talk to him about it because then he'd think your spying on him and not trusting him and that would really upset him. And even if you come to break up with him, you shouldn't even mention that you know he likes someone else or that you listened in on one of the conversations to prove it.
Second of all, it is obvious what your friend is doing, trying to break u up with your boyfriend and build doubts in your mind, so you'd listen to him, which you are doing, and break up with your boyfriend, which you are considering, then he'd make his move in and ask you to be his girlfriend, which you will also agree to. And yes maybe all he's telling you about your boyfriend is true, so its not really wrong what your friend is doing by telling you all this, but here is the thing, your kind of doing the same, i mean, you have your times when you unintentionally fall for someone else, or talk to that mutual friend you both have where you obviously have something going on between you both. So yes it happens, that sometimes you look to someone else or have feelings for someone else, its sometimes more like attraction or admiration or a new temporary phase of excitement, but nothing serious, and you can't judge the person till he actually does something wrong, like cheat on you, or sleep with this person or kiss this person or does something major.
Its obvious that your friend got to you with his words, and maybe part of it is because what your friend is saying is actually true, but unconsciously another part of it is because deep inside you have feelings for your friend, that you don't seem to care much anymore if you leave your boyfriend, and you are considering to break up with him, so you'd share your feelings with your friend.
So basically now, i'm gonna tell you to think about this on your own, without any of your friend's advice or influence on you, and think whether you love your boyfriend ,if you still do, and if you wanna be with him, and if you decide to break up with him, break up cause things aren't the same anymore, or cause you don't love him as much anymore, but not because he might admire another girl or is being nice to another girl,neither cause you might have feelings for your friend, cause you know something, maybe this other girl is a friend to him just like you have that friend of yours, and you probably talk to this friend in a sweet admiring way, and if your boyfriend would listen into your conversation, he'd think the same, but not just cause he didn't,makes him wrong and your not.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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thanks, thats not totally it but thanks for your input i guess.
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