When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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I'm a 26 year old female and I just want someone to please tell me what you think! Ok here goes... About three years ago I meet this guy... And real and kinda soon I fell real fast for him... We became inseprable, and I have a daughter that's five and she grew attached to him as well... My family did to and he and my brother became fast friends... We were so in love... And a year later he broke up with me after a argurment... But instead of telling me it was over he decided to just dodge me... He never even spoke to me or my family members... He wasn't even man enough to come to me and tell me how he felt... And my daughter who grew attached to him was deeply hurt... It really took me about over a year to get over him and to this day I still harbor hate and resentment issues towards him... So about 6 months ago I went to enroll my daughter in school... and to my disappointment his mother works there... So I had to run into her... Even though I didn't feel it I was nice and I spoke to her... And until today I really never held a convo with her... I would just see her around in school... But today I had to actually go to her office to talk to her about my daughter missing school... Because she was sick... And his mom is the school nurse... So we begin talking... And she started bringing up his sister... And how she was doing... And then she brought up him... She actually told me that he was getting married... To his exgirlfriend which is his sister best friend and the women that she wanted him to be with all along... She even went as far as to take his fiances picture off her desk and show it to me... Ok now here goes... My opinon of it was that she was super insensitve... She shouldn't have brought that up to my face and it was like she was bragging and boasting about it... It really hurt my feelings because even though we've been broken up for two years now... I still had a small hope that one day we will reunite and now it's totally out of the question... So please someone anyone tell me about this siuation let me know what you think thank you (link)
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I think it was the lowest cruelest act to just walk away and leave you like that, and for what, for an arguement? It doesn't seem to me like the arguement was anything major, cause if it was you would've mentioned it, so him just leaving that way could be of several reasons and i can't assume anything, but maybe he felt too committed and that pressured him and he wasn't ready especially being so close to your daughter and your family, made him feel uncomfortable, like he was married to you or something, and some people have commitment problems. Or maybe something was going on in his life, or he met someone else, or this ex of his and he kind of fell for her so he just walked away on you before he hurt you, or maybe he didn't see the relationship you had the way you saw it, or he couldn't give u as much love as u gave him ... there could be many reasons, or maybe he could just be an a-hole and that's probably it. All what i just told you are simply assumptions, don't take anything personally or into consideration.
And about his mom, somehow i don't feel like she meant to hurt you or rub it in your face, but i think that what she was trying to do was to tell you that he is moving on,and indirectly she's trying to tell you to do the same thing too, maybe she feels bad for you, you never know, she probably had a fight with her son about walking out on you, but its not as if she would take your side against his, you know, so just ignore her, and it was wrong of you to even stand there and hear her say all this or show you pictures or whatever, and you shouldn't even show her that you still care and have hope to get back together with him, you should've told her that you don't care and that your over him and you don't care about his future love life, and with all do respect in a polite manner.
And for you, you should move on, and let go of whatever hope you have, cause that's not gonna happen, and its good that you feel hatred and resentment, cause that will help you get over him, and honestly, what he did just overcomes any good thing you might have had together or any good memories. I know its hard and especially that he got close to your daughter and stuff, but he's just one loser, and there are many other nice guys out there who are much better than him, so don't give up or get depressed or stop your life right there, no, move on and meet new people and someone else, and someone who would really deserve you and you'd be happy with.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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