Ooh, I was in a similar situation, except I was the lead in the play, I had to kiss another guy, and my boyfriend at the time was in the audience whenever possible. I felt terrible at first knowing that I had to kiss that guy, but my boyfriend's acceptance of it as just what it was - a stage kiss - helped immensely.
It can be difficult to deal with the situation from either side, but keep in mind that it's not him kissing the other girl, it's one character kissing another. It would happen whether it was your guy or not. I'm sure he's not such a fan of doing it, especially because I'm sure he knows it bothers you, but there's no way around it in a performance.
As far as hating the other girl, I can imagine how it would hurt to be a constant witness to that act, but be comforted in the fact that you ARE seeing it - it's not behind your back, it's not something he would do if he wasn't the lead in the play, and it definitely wasn't his idea.
I asked my high school sweetheart at one point how he dealt with it, and he said he just reminded himself that after the play, I was still his.
Hopefully some of this will help you out.

Siren

that's incredible. i'm keeping it to help me throughout the remainder of the play. thank you sooooo much! i'd rate 1000 if i could. :)

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