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Okay so I'm a 15 year old girl and yeah, here's the thing. So there was this one guy I liked who I hung out with who seemed really sweet and we had been friends for like a year. Anyway, while we were chilling we started to make out. He started taking it too far and when I told him to stop, he didn't. I tried to get away from him, but I couldn't. I mean, I was physically not able to. He completely overpowered me and I got really scared! He wouldn't let go off me and he wouldn't listen when I told him to stop. Then I yelled. Of course, after he saw that I was serious he stopped and apologized. I don't think he meant to do anthing, but still, I was REALLY freaked out. I never want to feel that helpless and weak again, and it really makes me sad for girls who have been raped. Because if I'm feeling this bad from that, I can't even imagine what they're going through.
I'd just like to add that I'm in shape, and I'm strong and stuff, but I'm a fairly small girl, and I just can't change that. Also, I have taken self defesne classes which I thought would come in handy, but they didn't. At least not in this case. And the reason I take care of myself and took those classes is because I HATE that feeling I got when that boy did that to me. I hate feeling weak.
Anyway, the problem I'm having now is that I'm really scared around guys that are like bigger than me. I just look at them and I think 'He could do anything he wanted to me and I wouldn't be able to do anything about it'. I even think these things about my guy friends that I've known forever. It's almost like trust issues? But it's also this pissed off feeling I get when I think about all those guys who take advantage of girls like that one boy could have done with me. It really makes me angry. What goes through those guys's minds? Why do they do that? I mean, I know they just want pleasure, but they have to know that they are hurting those girls in ways that aren't just physical don't they? Like why would you do that to a girl? Aren't guys supposed to use their strength to protect us? If someone could answer those questions, that would be great, because at the moment I am just so mad.
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I'm sorry that happened to you.
However, this guy was WAY out of line, No means No and despite whether they think you are joking or not they need to know to stop. I personally would of kicked him in the groin and yelled as he completely disrespected you and deserved it. I do not blame you for having trust issues every girl has trust issues when a guy doesn't listen to them. Keep in mind that not all guys are disrespectful though, There are caring guys out there too. This guy, Phrt he is not a friend ANYONE who disrespects you in that manner is not a friend and don't ever let a guy think he has power of you. I wouldn't hang out with him anymore nobody needs a friend like that. You could try to take self defence classes again or karate classes help also. Remember you are in control of yourself nobody eles. Kick him to the curb!
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Well thank you. I definitely did kick him to the curb. I am very happy with my self defense classes, but in the situation, I couldn't really use them. I hate going in to detail, but, because we were making out, he was laying on top of me on the coach. He had both of my hands in one of his hands and he had my arms stretched out above my head. When he started taking it too far with his other hand, I couldnt use mine. I couldn't use my legs either because he was laying on me, and I couldn't move them. My last result was biting him, but after I yelled, he stopped. I still didn't like how he didn't stop when I asked him to, or when he could obviously tell I was trying to get away, but yeah. I defintiely don't hang out with him anymore, and I've told my parents and stuff so I have that taken care of. I was mostly just wondering about what goes through guys' minds when they do stuff like that, but thank you very much for the advice.
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