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Some background information before I start: I'm in high school. My boyfriend just graduated high school. We have a fairly strong relationship and plan on living together as soon as we both finish college. He's had one other serious girlfriend, who he dated for 3 years. He loved her but went too far one night with another friend of his. Though he was completely honest about it with her and they tried to repair their relationship, the damage was done, and they broke up. He met me soon after, and our relationship began.
Even though I know we truly love each other, I can't help but think that I'm only second best in his heart. He has conflicting feelings about his ex-girlfriend still, after all of this time with me. He says that he can't stand her anymore and wouldn't talk to her if he saw her, but it's clear to me that somewhere inside, he still loves her.
This is where the problem begins. They're going to college together. The chance that they would see each other is very high, and knowing the type of person my boyfriend is (the type who likes problems resolved and who can't forget problems), he would talk to her. I know he wouldn't plan to do anything with her and that if anything did happen, he would tell me straight away. But I'm scared that it will happen, and that he'll choose her over me. I would be truly heartbroken if I lost him.
I'm scared to talk to him about this because I'm afraid of the truth, hearing what I don't want to be true.
What do you make of this situation?
P.S. Sorry about the long post!
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Honestly, It sounds like your boyfriend isn't over his ex. Why would he still talk to her when he is with you? That sounds weird to me...There shouldn't be any reason at all that he would have contact with his exgirlfriend. If he truely moved on he wouldn't even bring her up. I would talk to him about it, Tell him that he needs to move on and focus on the relationship with you. If he keeps having contact with him anything could happen despite whether she is his exgirlfriend or not. Yes, He might be an honest kind of guy but when they screw things up they can also be very secretive. Let him know where he stands with you.
-BahaiMa22
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Rating: 4
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Sorry for initially rating you a 3. I realized that I didn't say I was the one who brought her up in the first place, so I'm raising your rating. :) You gave good, realistic advice, and I'm glad about that.
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