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Okay so I've asked this question before but I didn't exactly word it right so I didn't really get good results, so here it is. I have a huge crush on this boy ( let's call him dave ) and he's told me he likes me, but made it clear that now is not a good time for a girlfriend, I don't really know how to explain our relationship, its pretty confusing but my friends call us "the couple that isn't dating" so that's kind of what's going on there... Anyways, one night dave and I were talking and we got onto the subject of this other boy at our school ( lets call him mark ). Now dave and mark aren't exactly friends but they are friendly, if that makes any sense. So I told dave that I didn't really like mark all that much, and dave seemed kind of surprised by this, and he asked why. Then I told dave how things went between mark and me. See, mark can be a jerk sometimes, I feel like he can be really nice and sweet but he hits on girls a ton and sometimes he takes it a little too far, which is what he did to me. At lunch he started grinding on me and pushed me against the locker, I didn't tolerate it. I tried to push him off, I couldn't, but he got the idea and stopped. I told him how out of line he was and we haven't had an incident like that since, but it still makes me mad and he continues to hit on me. When I told dave about this incident, I told him the story as an explanation for why I wasn't very fond of mark. But then dave said something that really pissed me off, dave said "mark is just tring to have some fun." now I know this is just a comment, and maybe im over sensitive but it really made me mad that dave saw the situation like that. What mark did was disrespectful and not only was dave seeing it as no big deal, but he was acting like it was okay that mark did this to me. Sorry, but I am not a toy, I get enough crap from mark and it upset me that dave would defend him like that. Dave has always been so respectful and sweet to me, so I couldn't understand how he saw the situation like that. After dave made that comment I was about to argue but dave said it was late and that he had to go. I've let too many days go by so I don't think I can really bring it up again but I don't know if this should concern me that dave said that or if you think I'm making a big deal out of it. That attitude didn't seem like the dave I know, and I don't want him to see me like that... (link)
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First of all, You are not over-reacting you stood up for yourself and didn't let him take advantage of you and you should be proud of yourself. If "Dave" said to you "Mark" is just trying to have some fun then "Dave" sounds just as much of a jerk as "Mark" is. They are just two peas in a pod and they are just not worth your time. You are too good for them and you deserve someone who is going to treat you with respect. No woman is a boys toy and they should never be treated like one if they don't want to be. Don't let them talk you into thinking otherwise. Remember they are the ones that have no respect it isn't you.
BahaiMa22
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I really want to believe that Dave isn't worth my time, but I just can't see that... I like him so much. I dont know if I can throw all of it away after everything dave has done for me and everything we've been through. Dave has always respected me what if he really isn't a bad guy and he was just being a boy?? (We are only in 8th grade) is forgetting about Dave a little too harsh? This im where I am so confused!!! I really like him and I want to shrug it off as him being an immature boy but it DID bother me that he said that, is he allowed to make a stupid comment every once in awhile? But what if it isn't just a comment and those are his views? I have NEVER seen him act disprespectful or say disrespectful things to girls but what if I am wrong? I will really think about what you said and I will try and see if I am overlooking things about him... But I dont know if I am quite ready to just throw it away...
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