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Q: ok so im a dood (obviously) im 17 and i skateboard alot and snowboard too i love metal and hiphop and to be honest i dont think theres a Homosexual strand in me (i'd just like to say now that if anything offends anyone i honestly do not mean it in the way that it seems unless i make it block clear i do NOT hate gays and lesbians i have a couple of freinds who are)

now then... i am the only guy in a class of girls and have been for a year now. all of them have boyfreinds and i am single and have been for a loong time.. at one point or another everyone of them have said "my god i swear your gay *Followd by a chuckle*" i dont get mad or anything i know thier joking but recently its been getting silly... i work for Asda on thier Home shopping and recently they have employed a few people on for seasonal summer work. theres a sweet Thai girl around my age who's basically asked me if i was gay. i asked her why does she think im gay (after telling her the story of the girls in my class) and she said its cos' your pretty.

I AM NOT PRETTY!! AAAAGGHHH >:( i dont think i am at least. i mean there are times were i ACT a little fruity to get a laugh an a half from everyone because i play on them all thinking im gay but thats very rare that i do that. hmm, im gettin a bit frustrated thinking about it because my second question is

2.) is it because of this that i havent got a girl freind?? i havent had one in a very long time and its starting to bite me in the ass a little now because i get lonely in class thinking they ALL have someone.. :( is it because of this that i am a complete turn off to girls? is it that they would rather have me as a freind? dont get me wrong i would rather be with the girls in my class sometimes because theyre all great fun to be around. i dont fancy any of them im not obbsessed with sex, i'm more interestedon what thier thoughts are and i mean it. i'v been told by all of them that im not like the other guys but is it because ime "gay" or because im so nice... im casual no worries most of the time i play guitar skate snowboard i have a bunch of stuff i love to do besides sit on the pc for a bit. i might have trailed of the point a bit so ile shut it now.. thanks for responses. D
You yourself would know more than any one else what you are inside. If you are not feeling overwhelmingly homosexual, and you have not acted out any homosexual behavior, then who is anyone else to say? A lot of people do not date until much later into their twenties, and it is not because they are confused about their sexual preference or gender identity. Shyness, lower levels or hormones, having lots of other interests, being busy with other priorities and other factors can delay dating. Sometimes the homosexual guy who is in denial of his sexuality will be the one trying too hard and dating all the girls and acting the most macho. If you are comfortable with yourself and happy then that is really all that matters. People say stupid stuff and everyone has an opinon. Learn to filter out the stupid stuff and not take every opinion personally. Sometimes people blame or accuse others of what they themselves fear about themselves. You should continue to do only what feels natural to you at the right time for you, period.

excellent answer it was just what i was looking for thanks so much :D .D

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