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Q: Hey I'm 18 and I met a guy through a site that is meant for Christian's to talk and meet to get to know more Christian's in their area...

Well, I met this guy and he seems to be really nice so far. He wanted to hang out and go to a younth group together or something and I normally would never want to meet people online, ever, but it's SUPPOSED to be safe since it's Christian based site it's not a dating site or anything it's meant more for friends really...

He even said I could bring my Mom or a friend or family member and we'd definitely, obviously, be in a public place if we did...

Now I'm 18 so I wouldn't bring my Mom but I would definitely probably bring a friend or something... But, I have been hurt really really hurt badly in the past by guys and I'm not sure if this guy is for real?

He said he's 26 which would make him like 7 years older than I am.... But like when I looked on his myspace and stuff all of his friends (which weren't many) are all 18-22 at the oldest... And he told me he was out of school but I read a comment on his myspace of someone needing to ask a questions before their test? So, if he's out of school, why is he taking a test and why does the person need to get his notes or ask questions or whatever? He said he isn't working right now because he is leaving for a military medical thing in Janurary but that he'll still be able to talk...

What do you guys think of this situation? I wasn't and I'm not looking for a relationship so it's not so much that but as a friend do you think that's okay? Do you think he's being shady and maybe just hangs out with yonger people? If so id that creepy? Any extra input is fine but please don't be rude I'm asking for advice because I really am not sure, I've never been in this situation before, so there is no need to be mean please. I will rate and give feedback.
You are young and free to choose to date a million people, so why pursue this??? Get out in the real world and turn off the computer. You want to meet guys, then do it naturally where you normally like to hang out, at church, playing a sport, whatever. You probably have nothing in common with this guy, and calling yourself "christian" means nothing. You do not know him from Adam and he could be a harmless dweeb or a serial killer. Never go anywhere alone with a stranger...even after a few public dates. He has no real connections...no job, no school, nothing to really ground him or for you or the police to track him down if he turns out crazy. Older guys hanging out with younger kids is always creepy, yes very creepy and a bad bad sign of his immaturity at best or bad intentions at worst. Avoid both and date guys that you know through friends and dependable sources for reference and safety. This helps screen out a lot of losers.

Alright but I definitely said it's not dating. I'm not looking for a relationship. It was ONLY to meet CHRISTIANS in my area that's all. And I already have met people out in the "real world" and I don't live on the computer or antyhing. Thanks for the input though anyway, it's still feedback which is what I asked for. And I do agree he could turn out crazy...

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