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opinions please
Hey I'm 18 and I met a guy through a site that is meant for Christian's to talk and meet to get to know more Christian's in their area...
Well, I met this guy and he seems to be really nice so far. He wanted to hang out and go to a younth group together or something and I normally would never want to meet people online, ever, but it's SUPPOSED to be safe since it's Christian based site it's not a dating site or anything it's meant more for friends really...
He even said I could bring my Mom or a friend or family member and we'd definitely, obviously, be in a public place if we did...
Now I'm 18 so I wouldn't bring my Mom but I would definitely probably bring a friend or something... But, I have been hurt really really hurt badly in the past by guys and I'm not sure if this guy is for real?
He said he's 26 which would make him like 7 years older than I am.... But like when I looked on his myspace and stuff all of his friends (which weren't many) are all 18-22 at the oldest... And he told me he was out of school but I read a comment on his myspace of someone needing to ask a questions before their test? So, if he's out of school, why is he taking a test and why does the person need to get his notes or ask questions or whatever? He said he isn't working right now because he is leaving for a military medical thing in Janurary but that he'll still be able to talk...
What do you guys think of this situation? I wasn't and I'm not looking for a relationship so it's not so much that but as a friend do you think that's okay? Do you think he's being shady and maybe just hangs out with yonger people? If so id that creepy? Any extra input is fine but please don't be rude I'm asking for advice because I really am not sure, I've never been in this situation before, so there is no need to be mean please. I will rate and give feedback.
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You are young and free to choose to date a million people, so why pursue this??? Get out in the real world and turn off the computer. You want to meet guys, then do it naturally where you normally like to hang out, at church, playing a sport, whatever. You probably have nothing in common with this guy, and calling yourself "christian" means nothing. You do not know him from Adam and he could be a harmless dweeb or a serial killer. Never go anywhere alone with a stranger...even after a few public dates. He has no real connections...no job, no school, nothing to really ground him or for you or the police to track him down if he turns out crazy. Older guys hanging out with younger kids is always creepy, yes very creepy and a bad bad sign of his immaturity at best or bad intentions at worst. Avoid both and date guys that you know through friends and dependable sources for reference and safety. This helps screen out a lot of losers.
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Hi. I'm Sarah.
I think that you shouldn't meet him because it's more likely a trap. But if you do which I don't recommend, but he might be fine because it's a christian site, but anyway if you do meet him bring a friend. And make sure to tell him you're not in for a relationship just yet... Please give my feed back if you like my advice,
Sarah
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Nah, don't worry, it's clear enough. Anyway, about this guy you met, I can definitely see where you're coming from in your suspicions, but from what you've described, he doesn't really sound like a threat. What kinda guy would give you the go-ahead to invite your PARENTS to your first date? That doesn't mean you shouldn't be careful though. Do bring a friend, and go out to a very public place. Don't worry about him thinking you don't trust him, cause he suggested it! About his myspace, there's not really many years between 22 and 26, so it doesn't necessarily mean he's a pedofile if his friends just happen to be slightly younger. At least he didn't say he's 26, when in fact he's like 50, and the people in his myspace are 16 year olds. That would be disturbing. Maybe when he told you he was out of school [college?], he meant he was off for the semester or taking a break. These are both pretty answerable questions you can and should ask him, and not at all the kind of things to seriously worry about. Again, be sure to take a friend and be safe. Hope you hit it off =]. Good luck.
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