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Q: so i just turned 16 and i have only ever pecked a guy and been felt up. thats it! some of my friends have had sex and ALL of them have atleast made out. I always get the chance to kiss some guy and its perfect but I find a way to get out of it because im sooo nervous. I dont know how the hell to kiss like that! I once pecked a guy and he like opened my lips with him tongue i was like wtf is he doing so I pulled away, then realized he was trying to make out later on haha. It felt so awkward, and I wasn't even involved, which means it will be way way awkward when I am actually kissing back.

I feel so freakin prude and I have to turn down SOOOO many sweet guys because I am too scared to kiss, and theres NO way Im telling anyone I havent before, all my friends think i have because its annoying when they always talk about it. Once when i was drunk I was laying in bed with this guy and we kissed and he tried to make out with me, but i cant remember if we actually did or if i just pushed him away hah. so i consider him my first, but im not sure, i know its sad =/ all i can remember was that it lasted for like 5 secs and it was awkward =p

I know to just go with the flow, but any advice at all?! and also, what if you dont know when to stop since your eyes are closed or what if you miss his mouth should you wait to close them til your kissing? haha any personal experiences or stories are much appreciated! thanks!!
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So, "any advice at all?" is what you asked for but was not what you wanted? If you are looking for a step by step manual on the art of physical affection, I feel sorry for you.
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Kissing is awesome and you should be kissing lots of people and enjoying it. In fact, I would say it is more important to master this skill and really know how to bring it, before attempting any other sexual act. A person can be known through their kiss. Kisses are very telling, so learn to talk and listen to them. Don't waste time on potential lovers that don't pass the kissing test. Bad kisser equals bad lover in almost every case.

thanks but you didnt at all answer my question...

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