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I am glad to help. The truth is always subjective and from the tiny glimpse I have of your perception of the problem, I am limited in my advice. However, it is obvious that you take that knowledge with the grain of salt and do the best you can. All of life is flawed, but for the creative, it is all useable. I have no doubt that you will do well and flourish. -------------------------------------------------------




I want to scream. Okay, I took a deep breath instead. What the heck does a "strong" Christian family mean? Why doesn't anyone ever say a "brainwashed" or "sexist" or "narrow-minded" or "strict" or "psycho" Christian family?...which would be closer to the factual truth in most cases. And why do people "receive prophecy" about everyone else but themselves...oh sister Mary, God told me he wants you to start dressing sexier or to go learn to sew. Be aware of these so-called "prophecies" that are used to control people. It is like owning your own Chinese Fortune Cookie Bakery and writing out the little fortune papers yourself and then pretending they are true for those that read them. Now for the tongues crap. The Bible does not require you to speak in tongues. Tongues is the least of any of the gifts given in the Bible...read up on it and you will see I am correct. Tongues in the Bible was not gibbly-gook nonsense, but real foreign languages! So, don't be impressed by "Hooba-Wabotho-shimmdigitty" unless it is real Korean or German or ancient Hebrew for example and can be accurately and immediately translated as such. This speaking in tongues crap is about impressing one another in the spirit of ignorance, not in the Holy Spirit. Oh now about touching your own body and the guilt. Well, your zealous family has really done their job if you feel guilty about feeling good. Yikes! Feel guilty about starving children or being a Republican, but not about touching your own body and feeling exactly the way God designed you to feel when God made you..."He" (for the sake of another arguement)made every part of you, so be grateful for your body and your nerve endings...that is not your "main problem." Your main problem is that your family is going to try to control every single part of your life and thoughts and feelings from birth to death. Don't let them.

My family is 'spiritually strong', meaning that were close to God; not brainwashed bible huggers. I think your perceptions on my question is off or just not what I meant. You make the problem seem exaggerated.
Buut, nonetheless, you helped A LOT. Thankyouu[:

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