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I have a friend who is like pretty cool and the thing is that I haven't really had a proper guy as a friend before. Every best guy friend I've had in the past was someone that I liked as more than a friend. Pretty much when any guy gets close to me [not physically, emotionally] I end up having a crush on him. It's really rather annoying. So this friend of mine was someone who I thought I liked but now I'm questioning how I really feel. We get along perfectly, but I don't want to mess anything up. Any ideas on how to figure this out? thanks.
My opinion: time is the best test. The long and short of the matter is that, sometimes, feelings have a funny way of changing the better you get to know someone.
For example, you can meet a guy and not feel the slightest hint of attraction. Then one day, you're talking to him... You look at him... And suddenly you realize that he is attractive. Or you meet a guy, you think he's the most fabulous person to have ever walked the face of the planet... Then three weeks later he says something and you begin to suspect he's a moron. Both, and sometimes something inbetween, has happened during my dating lifetime.
So... I would suggest that you take it nice and slow and give yourself plently of time to investigate the personality of this new friend. Start thinking about the qualities you would like your boyfriend to have (dismiss perfection but have some standards) and what you want out of a relationship. Try to find appilcable ways to decide if this guy is a match or not. Also... Be yourself. Talk about what's important to you: your beliefs, interests... And ask about his. Ask yourself if you think that the two of you would be compatible. And until you come to a decision... Relax. (I know... Easier said that done.) Things in life have a funny way of working themselves out when you let go.
And lastly... While basing a relationship on attraction is never a good idea... You still have to be attracted. So... If what it boils down to is that you're not... That's okay. If you are... Well, you may have found a potential boyfriend. ;)
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Thank you for taking time to answer my question. =]
I really have been letting go of a lot of things lately and I want to really try letting go of my insecurities involving people as well. You've been a big help!
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