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hi my name is Becky. i am 14 years old. I have gone through some rough times myself and I hope I can help anyone that might need it. If you're looking for a straight up answer or just someone to listen to you, i'll be here. :)

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Hi, I'm Jacky.
My life has been rough, because of me.
It got better, until I did stupid things, and now I feel like there's nothing else I can do to make it better, I just mess up more and more. The more I mess up, the more I look like a dumb ass.
First, I have a friend over and I sneak two guys downstairs at 11 at night, and my dad's caught us.
So, my dad and mom have absolutely no trust in me, what so ever. I actually think my family hates me, because I don't listen, and I do things I'm not supposed. I've been doing that, for the past years. Plus they found out I tried pot and I'm sexually active. So that's a huge minus. I get in huge fights with my parents, mostly with my dad. I feel like I just failed my family, honestly. I don't know how to talk or act around them anymore. I just feel uncomfortable and awkward.
And then, I reported this kid for selling drugs, which he sold them to me, and I told a teacher at school about it, and she ended up telling the principal on me, I thought I could trust her. Then I had to rat him out because of what I told my teacher, then I have to go to all this court shit and be a witness, which I don't really want to be. I wish this would've never happened, this kid is going to have a fucked up life with my involvement. What the fuck is wrong with me. It's all my fault. And I can't take it back. But that's my fault.
And 3rd, I cheated on my boyfriend with another guy. I couldn't stand my boyfriend, he's attracted to assholes, shit, and farts. And I'm being honest. He hits me. He's just a jackass. But he knows how to cover himself to make people believe him. But honestly, he was a huge part of my life. And now that's gone. But now I'm with the other guy, who hardly calls me, he says he thinks it's best because he doesn't want us to get too attached and end up being bored with each other. Now, I love talking on the phone, and really like him, but I don't know. I just think there's something wrong with me. I honestly think I'm hated by a lot of people. I do not know what to do with my life anymore. I'm really scared and stuck. I've cheated and lied before. And I've just been a bad person lately.
I wish I could've handled things differently. But, I didn't. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I've fucked up my life. I think a lot of people hate me too. But that's besides the point.
Please anybody, give me advice. I don't know how to start know, I have no idea what to do with myself anymore.
Thank you.

babe, I've been through the same sort of things. I've lied and been a horrible person. I've done drugs. almost got raped when i was drunk. i fight with my parents, and i never tell them anything. I think you should try to start over. clean your slate and start fresh. Tell your parents how sorry you are for what you've done and tel your ex boyfriend how you feel. stand up to him. thats what i had to do and it felt GREAT. show your current boyfriend how much you like him and tell him that you want to talk to him all the time because you just love/like him. if he loves/likes you as much as you love/like him then he will want to talk to you alot too.

Also... I always felt like i screwed everything up too. but it's just a way of learning. if you never made any mistakes then you wouldnt know how to deal. thats just the way life is. but if you clean up after your mistakes then things will get better. :) hope i helped. if not, then sorry. :/

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(Rating: 5) Thanks so much for the advice, I really do want a clean slate.
But people have that saying, forgive but don't
forget.
Honestly, I don't want that reputation.
It really hurts too.
But thanks so much. :]
I hope everything gets better.

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