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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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i lov a girl n she loves me too. she was in a relation with a boy for an year then they broke up.she said that on the name of physical relationship she had only smooched him once. after 6 months since our relationship started i met with the boy and he claims to hav had sex with her,when i questioned her she admitted that he had touched her , but not below the belt. now should i belive her or not? is she telling the truth?
she say she cant live withot me but am a kind of guy who wants to marry a virgin girl.
p.s. i am 19 and my girlfriend is 18.

If you are too concerned, there is an option to find out if she has lost her virginity. You can take her to the doctor and have her hymen checked. That is the only way to ensure that she is a virgin.

I want to say a few things, first, it is very rare that if someone is in a relationship for a year, that they only kissed once. It is also unrealistic to believe that she would expect you to believe this. I agree that yes she lied to you, but it may have not been as bad as you think.

The other thing that I wanted to mention is trust. If you cannot trust her to tell you the truth, or you don't believe her, then this relationship is doomed to fail before you even give her the chance to explain herself. A relationship is based on trust, and once you lose that trust, it is hard to gain back.

It is hard to tell if she is lying or telling the truth, because we aren't the ones living in this situation. We don't know her personally and we can't judge a lie from the truth based on the information you have given us. It is best to say that communication is key when it comes to relationships. I would suggest talking to her. Let her know that you can possibly overlook the fact that she isn't a virgin, but you cannot over look the fact that she lied to you repeatedly. Maybe then, you two can work together and find a compromise on this situation.

Happy "findings" to you!

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(Rating: 5) thans for the sugession there man. actually she had lied to me coz she didnt want me to leave her.now it looks that she is telling the truth and she is also ready to go through any tests i want her to . but i am not able to digest the the thing that she lied to me.
anyways thanks there . you were great help.
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