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17/f

ok so my best friend who just so happens to be a guy do everything together. people call him for me and people call me for him..
anyways, one day he calls my house not quite being his self. he starts talking stupid and stuff so im tryin to figure out whats up. well eventually he starts cryin and sayin how much he loves me right.
i like any normal person was in complete shock and didnt know what to say. i told him to just call me when hes sober and we ll talk about it then...
thats the right thing to do right?
we were talking and i explained that i would much rather be friends because im moving away in june and idk how a long distance relationship will work with me being in college and all. he didnt like the sounds of that and he completely stopped talking to me. i was mortified.. my bff not talking to me for whatever reasons but i thought he would get over it. this happened right before christmas and he is now willing to be friends again which im happy with but its weird to say i think with not talking to him for this long has made me miss him on a whole different level..
i think im in love with my best friend and i have no idea how to tell him saying that i hurt him so badly a couple months ago.
im not expecting him to be like "omg ill do anything to be with you"
BUT IM STUCK!!
any suggestions on what to do??

Have you ever heard the expression "If you love something let it go, if it comes back to you, it was yours to begin with"? I think you just had that moment. That alone will tell you that your relationship could take the long distance aspect. If you truly think you love him, then give it a shot. You have already lost his friendship once before, so if things go sour in a relationship with no recovery of becoming friends, then you already know how it is going to feel like. The good thing about that is, you are going to be in a new place, with new friends, and it will help you move on. That is if it doesn't work out between you and him.

Now, for the way to approach him and let him know your feelings, just tell him that while you two weren't talking, it left a hole in your heart. You couldn't figure out why it was hurting you so bad to not have him in your life, even as a friend, and that is when you realized that you love him too. Let him know that you were shocked by his confession of love to you and didn't know how to handle it. Tell him that you hope he can see past all of this and realize that maybe this was the best thing for you two so you could realize your true feelings for him as well.

Happy "love" to you!!

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(Rating: 5) thats a huge help thank you so much..
ill get to talk to him saturday hopefully all goes well =)
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