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I KNOW ITS LONG, BUT PLEASE PLEASE ITS VERY IMPORTANT PLEASE READ ALL AND PLEASE TRY TO HELP ME!
i dont have school for the next 2 weeks and today i went to see my mom at work when i got there she was talking on the phone in a veryy flirtatious way. if you knew my mom u knew she has a very strong voice and is often being mean to people. but on the other hand she was actually laughing at what the person on the other line said and was being verrry flirty and talking in a low voice. i listened more and i KNew it was a guy. i also knew it wasn't someone that i knew because that was not the way she usually talks to people. her and my dad have been married for about 19 years now. they always say that they dont belive in gettin divorce and that they love eachother very much. also this might sounds very discusting but i have heard them have sex a lot recently because i cant sleep so i can hear evrything in my house. so then i walked into her room and she went to the bathroom as i got my chance i checked her phonee and this number had called her and she had been takling for about 1/2 n hr. i also checked her messages and in her inbox this number had sent to messages, on saying "what else lady" and the second "can i call you" the only perosn that calls my mom lady is my dad in a cute way sort of saying babe but i knew it wasnt my dad because that is not his cell number nd it would be stupid for him to secretly have another one. the messages in her outbox to him where "uhmm lemme think about it" and "okay call me for like 2 secs" those '2 secs' turned into 1.2 n hr. later when we got home i went to check her mesages and her calls again and she had deleted all of it! meaning she didn't want anyyone seeing that! i wrote down the number before when she was in the bathroom on my leg so she wouldnt see it. i later called it a man that i have neverr heard his voice before picked up. i go everywhere with my parents a lot so i know of all their friends and people around them. i really think she's cheating, WHAT SHOULD I DO? my mom is very religious and i KNOW my dad is crazy and completely in LOVE with her, i dont want to hurt him, but i feel as though im hurtin ghim more by keeping it from him, please HELP.
Well first off be absolutely sure that she is cheating...
Second you should tell him, but only if you are 120% sure...it would hurt him more if he knew that you knew all along and didnt say anything, trust me..
So if you are 120% sure then tell him that you think she is cheating on him and tell him the whole thing you told us...its nice you care about your dad so much!! :)
-hayley
(Rating: 5) exactly. thats the hard part, knowing if i should tell him or not.
and i knoow it would hurt him so much to find out i have kept it from him because he tells all the time he has never in his life lied to me, so its so tough for me to hold something like this in. if you only realized how much love my dad has for my mom, i coudnt believe she would do something like that to someone like him, its just os hard to deal with. but thank you soo much ill deff make sure to be 120% sure about it bfore going ahead and talking to him abou tit, i greatlyy appreciate everything!
-LL