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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.
You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.
Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.
-Volleyball2150
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I KNOW ITS LONG, BUT PLEASE PLEASE ITS VERY IMPORTANT PLEASE READ ALL AND PLEASE TRY TO HELP ME!
i dont have school for the next 2 weeks and today i went to see my mom at work when i got there she was talking on the phone in a veryy flirtatious way. if you knew my mom u knew she has a very strong voice and is often being mean to people. but on the other hand she was actually laughing at what the person on the other line said and was being verrry flirty and talking in a low voice. i listened more and i KNew it was a guy. i also knew it wasn't someone that i knew because that was not the way she usually talks to people. her and my dad have been married for about 19 years now. they always say that they dont belive in gettin divorce and that they love eachother very much. also this might sounds very discusting but i have heard them have sex a lot recently because i cant sleep so i can hear evrything in my house. so then i walked into her room and she went to the bathroom as i got my chance i checked her phonee and this number had called her and she had been takling for about 1/2 n hr. i also checked her messages and in her inbox this number had sent to messages, on saying "what else lady" and the second "can i call you" the only perosn that calls my mom lady is my dad in a cute way sort of saying babe but i knew it wasnt my dad because that is not his cell number nd it would be stupid for him to secretly have another one. the messages in her outbox to him where "uhmm lemme think about it" and "okay call me for like 2 secs" those '2 secs' turned into 1.2 n hr. later when we got home i went to check her mesages and her calls again and she had deleted all of it! meaning she didn't want anyyone seeing that! i wrote down the number before when she was in the bathroom on my leg so she wouldnt see it. i later called it a man that i have neverr heard his voice before picked up. i go everywhere with my parents a lot so i know of all their friends and people around them. i really think she's cheating, WHAT SHOULD I DO? my mom is very religious and i KNOW my dad is crazy and completely in LOVE with her, i dont want to hurt him, but i feel as though im hurtin ghim more by keeping it from him, please HELP.
alright so what I have to say to this is- I bet your mom really loves you... am I right?? If she REALLY loves you, which means that she would take a bullet for you, she would protect you and stop anything from hurting you. If she is like that, then she will tell you herself. Now first things first, you need to first find out if she is actually cheating on your father before you're jumping to conclusions. I WOULDN'T talk to your dad just yet. You should talk to him privately though when the time is right. but not now. Because you're still not sure if she is actually cheating on him, so you don't want to tell your dad this, because it might not be totally true and it could freak him out.
What I think you should do is talk to your mom. But not in a "who is this guy? are you cheating on dad?" sort of way. In more of a "what did you do last friday night? Do you have any adult friends that I don't know about?" But don't sound too suspisious. Remember, if your mom really loves you, she won't lie to you. Most mom's get seriously mad when their child lies to them, so most likely they won't lie to you either.
Or if you're not comfortable talking to her face to face, you could write your mom a note, email, IM etc.
Also, I saw this on a movie once. If you have a tape recorder, you could hide it somewhere where you'll know your mom and the guy will talk on the phone. then when she leaves, grab the tape and talk to your mom about it and ask her "what is this all about?"
It IS possible that you're mom could be cheating on your father, even if they had sex together, she still could be cheating on him. First talk to your mom and find the truth. If it is the truth, ask your mom if she is going to tell your father, and if she isn't then you should tell him. If she is going to tell him, then before that happens, drop a little hint to your father about what is going to hit him. If she is not cheating on him (she says she's not) then still do a little more digging and find proof. MAKE SURE YOU GET PROOF. because without it, people will assume you're making this up. If you 120% know she isn't cheating on him, then ask her who this man is and make sure your mom is aware that to you it sounds like she's flirting. ask her to be careful with this man and limit the talking between them.
I wish the best of luck and if you have anymore problems, you can always inbox me.
-volleyball2150
(Rating: 5) thank you soo much!
i reeallyy appreciate ur time to answer the question and you're detail. i will totally take in all the advice, and once again thanks so much i really just needed more help on this than just my own thoughts.