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Q: 13/f he's 16/m

MMkay , wellme and my new boyfriend have been dating for 4 days and yesterday he wanted a handjob...I've done it before and all but I told him no , he had to wait because I have my own morals and I'm not a slut...I know it was a good choice to wait.

Also , he's 16 and expelled from school , so he doesn't go to school and has no plans on going...meaning he basicly has no future.This upsets me...

Another thing is that yesterday we were talking and he asked me what are my limit's ? And I said nothing below the belt.And then we were talking about how many previous sexual partners we've had and I told him I'm kinda a virgin [ well techniclly not because penis in vagina = non-virgin ] and he said he'd had about 35 girls who he's had sex with and 15 who have given him blowjobs.I was like :O man whore.He said if he tried he wouldn't beable to rememeber all their names and he didn;t know all their names in the first place.This also upsets me.

So , I'm thinking about asking him to get tested for STD's , STI's and AID's and all that before we do anything.

Answers ? Opinion's ? ANYTHING would help me...I can't get this out of my head !!

Whoa, red flag. THIRTY FIVE girls? Seriously?
You'd better make him get tested.
I don't even know him and I already don't like him.
You asked for opinions, so here's mine: you shouldn't be involved with a guy three years older than you, who's been expelled from school, and has messed around with over thirty girls.
I'm honestly worried that he's gonna try to push you to do something "below the belt", and that you're gonna be upset.
I don't mean to sound like an overprotective mom, but this is the kind of guy I'd tell my (hypothetical) daughter to stay away from.
"Manwhore" is right, be careful...
Don't let him push you to do anything you don't want, and please for your own safety, reconsider your relationship with this boy.
Good luck
-Siren =)

Rating: 5

Thank's for the advice and you weren't so harsh ? no...blunt ? about it as the others.

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