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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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I've been hurt many times in relationships and I've lost trust in guys. I became one of those girls who led guys on and dropped them, made plans I didn't intend on keeping and said things I didn't mean. I did that even to guys I liked. Now I'm changing things but the weird thing is I'm realizing I'm really into this guy i screwed over manyyy times. He isn't the best guys, he smokes ALOT, skips class, and drinks but for some reason I keep falling for him. He was one of the guys I actually did like but I made plans and didn't follow through 5 different times so hes pretty much lost all trust in me. I don't really know what to do because I don't want to want him but I can't help it. Well he ended up being at this party I was at and we talked and I appologized and he was being really sweet and cute. He tried to hook up with me and I didn't because my friend was already mad at me cause she says I was dancing like a whore so that probably didn't help things, turning him down. Me and him are friends but part of me really wants more. Everyone says I can do better than him but theres something about him that I can't let go of. For some reason even though he isn't the best guy and he isn't very attractive i feel like I can trust him. I don't know if I should go for him and work my ass off to try and get him or I should just try and move on (which hasn't been working.)

Ok, first off, about your friends, even though they mean well, and don't want to see you get hurt, it's not their decision to make. You can tell them look, I like him and I understand your feelings, but you have to respect mine, and kindly back off (you could say that nicer than I just did, but you get the picture).

Now, for the guy you like. I would just go to him, ask him to meet you somewhere for a talk, promise you will be there (and actually go ;)) and tell him how you feel. Let him know that you are not good with guys and are afraid of getting hurt and that's why you kept at arms length away. Just tell him you want to start a relationship and hope that he will feel the same way. Open and honest communication are key factors in any successful relationship.

As for the part that he's a "bad boy", so what? As long as you know your boundaries and don't do the same things that he does, you should be fine! Besides, it's about having fun in a relationship, not what can I do to make him better. You obviously like him inspite of his differences, so why not like him because of his differences.

I hope I've helped. Good Luck!! If you need any more help, I'm here.

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(Rating: 5) seriously best advice ive gotten. im comming to you for advice from now on:)
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