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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice. I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.
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Ok. Well my brother's best friend is about to be 20 in June. I turn 16 in May. The two of us have known each other almost all of our lives. My aunts are always saying we're going to get married and everything but, anyway. I got drunk one night at my parents party and he drove me and my aunt home and my aunt said that we kept telling each other we loved each other (I don't remember that night.) Then a month later at my aunt's wedding he came over afterwards with my cousins and we watched movies and we were basically cuddling without being too obvious about it. Then a year passed, he left for Penn State and my brothers grad party came up. Well afterwards we were sitting around my firepit and I was sitting on a chair and he came up and sat on the arm on the chair and was eating and he offered me some food and I said no thanks and we just sat there like that, with him just looking at me every now and then and it felt so perfect. I fell asleep on the couch laying on him later that night. Then he went back to Penn State two months later. After 12 years, I've fallen so in love with him and every now and then I feel like he feels the same way. I told him how I felt that night I got drunk but I don't think he took it seriously because I was drunk. I don't know. I'm scared because I'm so in love with him but he's such a good friend of my family's and I don't know how to tell him. Help?
Oh, I've so been there. I didn't know him nearly as long as you have known your guy, but do you want to know what happened? We got married. We have been married for almost 6 years now. The only mistake you could ever make, is to not tell him how you feel (sober) and get all the cards out on the table. If he feels the same way, then great. If he doesn't then at least you didn't let this opportunity go by you, and wonder what if 10 years down the road.
If you let yourself be honest, and hopefully he will return the declaration as well. It could be the best thing you have ever done your entire life. However, this is going to take courage. I know that you have it in you, and you will realize that you do too. Don't be afraid of your emotions and feelings, when you are, you let that fear consume you and live in regret for the rest of your life. I wish you nothing but the best of luck!!
(Rating: 5) Thank you!