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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice. I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.
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so my "best friend" of 3 years is amazing.
but when shes around anyone but me she sometimes ignores me.and its not like i need her all the time to be right there i mean.. its kinda hard to explain. and when she's around her boyfriend ooh man! she always flirts with our(yes our)ex and i do like him and i think she likes him too. but she says she doesnt and that she loves her new boyfriend and stuff; but idk. she just makes me so frustrated when she ignores me and stuff for guys. i mean ill always be here and they most likely wont. so how do i stay calm and not flipp out on her. i know its partly jealousy but still the other part of it is frustration.
Well, I am not sure if this may be the approach you want to take, but I can offer to different scenarios for you to think about.
#1- Tell her how you feel. Let her know that what and why it bothers you about her. See if you two can work together on a solution that serves hers and your needs.
#2- Another suggestion would be, find more people to hang around with. If you have a fair share of different friends, you will not be so lonely. Besides, variety is the spice of life ;).
About your ex, if you still like him, maybe you should think about rekindling your romance. If this is an option for you or him for that matter. This way, when she starts flirting with him, you can kindly tell her that he is your boyfriend again and you would appreciate it if she wouldn't hit on him anymore.
Alot of times, friends will leave their other friends behind when they start having a relationship. They think, well, I want to spend all my time with him right now and noone else. The problem with that is, everyone needs friends. They are there for you when they need you, they will listen and they will be there when and if the guy goes away.
Just remind your friend that your friendship should mean more to her than that, and you aren't a total control freak and understand that she wants to spend time with her bf, but not ignore her other friends.
Good Luck!!
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