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Q: so i started school this year at a big highschool, and i've been making a lot of new friends and stuff. and i usually add people on myspace that i've seen at school to extend the circle.
so i added this one guy kevin, because a few of my friends are friends with him and i figured "why not". but we've been talking a lot and now i think that i might like him. the only problem is we're both REALLY shy so we barely ever talk in person. we flirt alot and stuff, but just on myspace. i know, gay.
and if i ever told my friends who know him they'd automatically tell him and make it really awkward, even if they promise they won't.
so now, my friend katie added him and now she's flirting with him A TON and it's so annoying. but if i say anything to her i KNOW for a fact, even if i tell her not to, she's going to tell kevin that i told her to stop flirting with him and then he'll get freaked out.
i want to hurry up and become really good friends with him so i kind of have an advantage over katie, but since we're both really shy, i'm not sure how fast or easily that's going to happen.
i'm just afraid that katie is going to try to steal him from me, which some how she does REALLY easily with a ton of guys.
what do i do? :[

This sucks, since you're both shy, but if you just wanna get on with it, you can kinda poke fun at the situation and message him one day saying something like "Gosh, have you noticed we never talk to each other at school?" or something like that (yea, gay, but you wanna get over it or not?). Tell him that you think you should start talking in person (in a not-so-obvious-you-wanna-get-close-to-him kinda way). I know you're shy, but if you see him, smile and wave at him, then start actually SAYING something, maybe mention something from myspace (again without making it obvious) and little by little get comfortable with each other to START conversations. In the mean time, you should still tell your friend to stop flirting with him. I know, there's probably some reason you're SURE she'll tell Kevin, but if it annoys you THAT badly, just tell her seriously and be like "PLEEEEEEEAAAASSSSSSSSEEee don't tell him it'll ruin EVERYTHING for me." Friends can't say no to that=/

Rating: 5

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