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Hmmm, so I'm 15/f and I have like 10 friends? I don't care, though, because I love all of them like whoa. The problem is that out of those 10, like only 2 are girls. I'm not a slut or being friends with the guys because I wanna go out with them. It's just that I can be myself comfortably around them since they don't care about what I say or how I act or any of that stuff. There's little to no drama or rumors among guys & they're much more relaxed and friendly and more fun to hang out with [for me anyway]. One of the 2 girls is my best friend ever & I love her like whoa [still do] but my mom banned me from her [Don't ask. LONG story] The other girl, I'm not close to that much? I mean I still love her but I'm not as close to her as I am with the first girl. Like I would barely hang out with her at the mall or movies or even bring her over to my house just so we could hang out.

The thing is that my mom is...strict and set in her own little assumptive ways. She NEVER lets me go to a guy's house even if his parents are home b/c I'll get raped and pregnant. And I can't go anywhere with just a guy unnless another girl is in the presence [I can't go to the mall or the movies and what not]. And I'm afraid to bring people over my house because my mom will most likely ban me from my friends [Again, long story but I promise you that my mom will not like them and ban me form them] So basically all summer long, I've had like 2 outside human contact [Andrew b/c he popped out of nowhere one day and decided to come over...he's now banned for a stupid reason. And another time was in the morning when I snuck out to meet Angela [the girl I'm banned from]] And I'd really like to go shopping or to the movies with Brandon or Curtis but my mom will be like "OMG!! DO YOU LIKE HIM? ARE YOU GUYS GOING OUT??" [Ironic thing--they're both gay. And my family is a big, big homophobic one] So I dn't know. I guess I'm asking what should I do?

I'm friends with a lot of guys too. My parents always assume I'm going out with every guy I want to hang out with. I'm not allowed to just hang out with guys, with no girls around. Try explaining to your mom that they're just friends and tell her you would appreciate it if she trusts you on that. Tell her that you know them all really well and that they would never pysically hurt you. Tell her that if you were going out with a guy that you would tell her. Explain how you feel and that guys are just easier to get along with and better friends. I'm sorry if she doesn't understand. Best of luck.

::Jasmine::

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