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okay, so i'm 15/f and my bf is 17.
we seriously are really close and hit it off right away and we're aren't like the normal 'oh i love you couples' that break up and then move on. me and him are each other's first and we really feel like we can last. we almost never argue and we have a lot of fun. and we have a lot of support from our friends. and we've only been together for four months...
but he told me something about a promise ring and i do want one...but do you think it's too young? i mean we are waiting till our 20's to get engaged and married and it sounds a little far fetched, but we really feel like we are that close...
but are we too young? and is that what a promise ring always means? and what finger would i wear it on?
i need and answer soon. thanks in advance. =]
Honestly, yes, I do think you are too young. Not only are you too young, but I think it's too soon. I understand that you two are in love, I don't doubt it. However, you don't want to have such a heavy commitment at such a young age. You have the rest of your lives to make these promises. Since you two aren't going to break up anytime soon, what is the rush to get these rings? Just wait it out. I really wouldn't even think about getting one before I've been dating someone a year. At the very least.
And no, promise rings don't always hold the meaning you intend them to have. Sometimes one wears a promise ring to symbolize that they are waiting for marriage to have sex. A lot of religious people I know have promise rings. The idea behind it is that they won't have sex until the ring is replaced by a wedding ring.
And you can wear it on any finger on either hand. Its traditional to wear it on your ring finger, usually of your left hand, but these days, a lot of people wear them on their right hand ring finger that way others don't confuse the rings for engagement rings.
Good luck =)
(Rating: 5) me and him actually are really strong with the no sex before marriage too. and you're right everything. you really helped. thanks. =]