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I have 2 best friends. Basically we all hang out together, but now that it's summer we all have separate things going on. So my friend, who i'll call P, has a very paranoid and overprotective mom, who i don't understand one bit. she let her go on a plane trip to a different state for a band trip, but won't let her go to the mall. the other night it was about 7:45 maybe 8:00 and we wanted to go see a movie but her mom said it was too late, but after she was gonna sleep over my house. so instead of a movie we wanted to practically walk up my street to get ice cream, so my friend HAD to call her mom to let her know so of course her mom said no b/c it was too late and was gonna be dark and she didn't want her walking home in the dark. so not only does she limit what she can do, but my other best friend and i. we're 15, and she'll be 15 in august. it's not like we're stupid girls who drink, do drugs/smoke, we're smart. we wouldnt leave each other in the middle of the road or something. her mom is so paranoid and my friend never opposes her mom. she's just like okay mom, instead of mom its not even dark out yet nothing is going to happen! if my mom was like that i'd be soo arguing her. should i talk to my friend about this and what should i do?? thanksss so much.
You should encourage your friend to have a talk with her mom about some of these rules. Maybe if she explains that her moms strict curfews are restricting what you guys can do, she will loosen up a little bit.
However, I'm sure that she is just as upset about it as you are. She probably realizes that her mom's rules are affecting the group. Putting too much pressure on her or getting mad over it will only make her feel worse and it won't do much in the way of building your friendship.
You can always try to reason with her mom, but there is a good chance that that won't do much. If not, then you might have to work around these rules. Plan your day out in advance and give her mom your game plan so that she knows exactly what you are doing and she isn't freaking out and calling every half hour. Then plan on watching a movie at someones house when it gets to be after-hours.
I know that it is hard, and sometimes it may be tempting just to not hang out with her, but it's hard for her too. Be a good friend to her like you would want her to be for you. Sometimes you have to mae sacrifices for the people that you care about.
Hope everything works out okay.
Sarah
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