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im 14 and ok im kind of a prude and believe no sex before marriage and you should wait for someone special before going out with them... especially when you're young... and my best friend is turning into a hoe. she got her first boyfriend, and i was reaally happy for her, but then on their first date they made out, and other people were around. they werent even going out for a week, and they didnt even kiss normally before that. then she wanted me to grind with her at the last dance, and i was like NOOO. i would only grind with a guyyy and if i had been going out with him for a while.
i know this is how like old people think, but i want a guy who cares about me, not just a guy that wants to do stuff with my body. and i dont care if i wait for that. but my friend is alwayss bringing up her bf and its soo annoying. she hasnt been a good friend for the past year either, although she says im her bff... shes been ditching me for her other group of friends a lot, but hangs out with me mostly in schol.
i am really sick of her and im afraid shes going to do something that she regrets... should i keep being friends with her, try to help her, or ignore those problems?
Let me start off by saying that your friend is not a hoe. Making out with your boyfriend is not slutty behavior at all. It's perfectly okay. And for you to call her a hoe because she wanted to dance with you and made out with her boyfriend is unfair. I think people these days throw around the word "Slut" and "Hoe" way too much. Your friend is not a hoe (from what you've said anyways) and to call her that might give her a bad reputation, so I wouldn't do it from now on.
Now, I totally respect you for having the morals that you do. But just because someone is not quite as strict as you in this area, does not mean that they are a bad person. Now, if you friend starts having sex with lots of guys, or doing sexual acts with lots of guys that she's not dating, then I would start to be concerned. But you guys are growing up. A lot of your friends are going to become more interested in the physical aspect of their relationships. If you don't want to hear about it, tell them. And if you really think she is on the downward spiral, then all you can do is talk to her about it. Otherwise, there's not much you can do other than be there for her.
Good Luck =)
(Rating: 5) thanks. i just concerned cause she started acting this way all of a sudden... a few months ago she wouldve been using words like "hoe" incessantly if this was someone else. oh well, thanks again.