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Q: so im 17/m and in highschool. not to brag or anything, but usually, i get all the girls i want, even if they dont like me to begin with. as you all know, its the end of the schoolyear, and i've had feelings for this hot, sweet, innocent math teacher for quite a while now. she's the only woman who can make me nervous. when i first realized i liked her, i made an oath to get closer to her, no matter how much of a distance she keeps btw her students and herself, and luckily, i have. so we play around and everything, but today i made the mistake of touching her. not inappropriately at all, or violently, but i sort of caressed her face for a second, which i could tell she wasn't comfortable. even though it happened quickly, she kind of pulled her face away, but i did it anyways. i dont want it to be awkward tomorrow, and i dont want to REassure her i like her, so can you ladies give me some tips on what i should do.how would you feel, and what might she be thinking? should i ignore her, or should i apologize? thnx

I'm surprised someone as cocky as you seem to be is actually asking for advice. Congratulations.
Anyway, you made her uncomfortable. Talking about what happened will probably just make it worse. I strongly suggest you abandon the idea of any future with her, and pretend it never happened.
Teacher/student relationships NEED to have a wall in the middle. She's too old for you, dude. You're 17, she's probably at least 22 if she's student teaching, and if she's your actual teacher, she's probably even older. Not to say "she's an old woman" or that big age differences don't work, but there IS a limit to that, you know?
It shouldn't be awkward tomorrow unless one of you makes it that way. Don't mention it. Don't suggest anything, don't flirt with her, if you have been.
I'm guessing she has enough common sense to know to ignore your advance.
I'd feel awkward, I think, if I was rejected by my crush and I had to see them every day, but personally I would push it out of my mind and pretend the rejection never happened.
Good luck
-Siren =)

Rating: 5

haha, i think i had mentioned, "not to brag", and i really wasn't. but i understand where you're coming from, given the fact that you're headed into that profession and you are a woman as well. i hope no one ever makes you as uncomfortable as i've possibly made her. i appreciate your time and honesty.

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I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

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