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my name's rebecca. i doubt you're even mildly interested in the irrelevant aspects of my life, so i'll get to the point. i'm not a professional psychologist nor do i pretend to be, yet i'll try to give you advice based on the common sense that, unlike many others on here, i own ;]
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I when over to my friends house, (A). She asked if it was ok if she smoked in front of me. I said no, it's ok, i guess. When she sis, i just stared. I've heard of smoking, duh, but never have I seen it two feet in front of me. So, stupidly I asked to try. (A) said no. I kept asking out of curiousity, knowing that it'll still hurt me. Finally, (A) said, ok. I tried it and it was terrible! I hated it. I started coughing and choking. Well, after a cuple mintues Me and (A) sat down and watched a movie with her soon to be step brother. He pulled out a cigarette after a while and smoked. He offered it to (A) and she took it willingly. Then he took it back and smoked again. (A) told him to let me try again. I said no. (A) said hey, you know you want to. I said no. (A) kept saying you know you want to, so I tried again, but i didn't inhale it. (A)'s brother caught me not inhaling and said, "Hey, you didn't inhale!" I felt emmbarressed, but gave it back to him. The next day when I woke up. (A)'s brother came back in the room smoking again. he offered, this time I said no and gave him a look that said no, and that's it. He never asked again. What should I do? My friends are acting funny around me now because I told them. PLEASE HELP!
(A) and her brother are being extremely insensitive and irresponsible by delibrately trying to get you to smoke. You tried it once-- okay, a lot of people do. But you're smart enough to realize that it's stupid and dangerous and gross. (A) should get the message and stop bothering you about it. Your friends might just be weirded out that (A) is an avid smoker, or maybe they're just slightly surprised that you tried it. Make it clear to them that you definitely wont do it again and they should be fine. As for (A), never let her manipulate you into doing something you don't want to do. There's nobody that you're trying to impress at her house. If it keeps happening, and you're uncomfortable with it, invite her over to YOUR house, and tell her there's no smoking allowed in your home. Hope it works out ;D
(Rating: 5) Thanx for your advice! It'll help so much!