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All of the other girls I know are always just SO happy and smiling all the time no matter what, it's like nothing could ever upset them.

I, however, am always frowning and mad/depressed looking and I can't help it. I just never feel happy. I have never been truly happy and whenever I do smile it's fake unless I'm laughing at something.

And the happy little perky ones are the ones who attract the most boys. Isn't it true that men are attracted to happy women?

I want to know how to be all happy and perky and cheerful and pleasant all the time. I've tried thinking happy thoughts but it just doesn't work. I only think about things that make me pissed, because my life is filled with them, and things about myself that I hate (plenty of those too).

please just answer.

To answer your first question about guys who are attracted to happy women, would you be attracted to someone who never looks happy? There is no sure fire way for you to be "happy" all the time, its something that is sewed into your personality. To be happy most of the time, you should think about all of the good things you have in life and not focus on the bad things. Find little things you can do that makes you happy. For me, it would be cooking something, or excersizing, or cleaning something. It makes me feel productive. Once you find these things, do them when you feel down and you will be instantly happy after. Sometimes you should distract yourself so you can forget about your life & live in the moment for a while. If this doesnt work, you should see a therapist because you might be depressed. Good luck :) & smile :D!

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much for your consideration!

therapists haven't helped me though.

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