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The name's Emily.First off- thanks for actually reading this!
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There's this one guy, Tyler. He's friends with a lot of my camp friends, who I see regularly. I talk to him online at least once a day, generally. We have great chemistry. We just fit together really well. He's like a puzzle piece that connects to me. I only met him once, and we didn't really talk then. It was at a party, and I was kind of shy. We just said 'hi' twice and left it at that. But I really really like him. I think about him constantly, and everytime I do, I have to smile. I can try to supress it, but I do it anyway. We're meeting up in a few weeks, and I absolutely can not wait.
But there's this girl, Kate. She's a friend of mine, and she knows him. She's really great. I kind of used to feel like I always had to act a certain way around her, to impress her, and I know other people who have said that too. But it's kind of stopping now, and we're getting closer. Being friends with her means a lot to me. And if we weren't great friends, I feel like I'd lose a lot of my other friends, too. She's kind of the leader of our camp group. Also, last year at camp, I wasn't really part of the popular group, but I was friends with all of them. I've been going to camp for the longest out of all of them except one. I even introduced it to two of them. And I always, always wanted to be part of that group. If I don't have Kate, I don't have anyone and once again, I won't be popular. This is my last summer at camp before I become a counselor, and I really want to be part of their group. Not even for that, but it just means a lot to me. But there's still the thing with losing friends if I don't have her.
The problem? I don't think she really "approves" of Tyler(when I say approve, I mean he's just not really cool enough for her. He's not into anything bad or anything like that; he's a good guy). I mean, she talks to him, but sometimes she'll say something about him(I usually don't let it slide though, I'll be like, "I don't know, he seems so sweet," or something). My other friend, Lyla, was really great friends with her before. Her and Kate were best friends. But then Lyla started going out with another guy who Kate didn't approve of, and they're not nearly as great friends anymore. They keep having mini-fights and they're just not close. I'm afraid to spend time with Tyler, because if we end up together, or even if she finds out that I like him, she might not approve of it. I really need her to, but I also need him. I have absolutely no idea what I'm going to do.
Here's what I think, but you probably won't like it.
Anyone who would be mean to a friend because she is going out with an "uncool" guy isn't a friend at all. I KNOW how tempting it is to be "in" with the "cool crowd", but think about it this way: Would you really be having fun with these girls if you were always worried about them judging you? And you would be giving up this great guy just to impress some lousy friends.
So, in my opionion, you SHOULD see Tyler. And that dosn't mean that you have to stop talking to your camp friends. If Kate wants to know why you want to hang out with him, then explain to her how and why you feel about him. She might be cool. And if she has a problem with it, well, she's not a very good friend. And never feel like you can't be friends with a group of people just because one of them has a problem with you.
xoxo
(Rating: 5) thanks so much. and shes really a great girl; she'd do anything for me. i mean, she might do the same to anyone, but she deserves friends. its who she is.
thanks though i think im gonna see him.